But then again, I live in a liberal city with progressive feminist women. These are the ladies I'm attracted to, perhaps it's different elsewhere?

Just kiss me already, alien. I like being kissed on my neck.

being nice got me a lot of friends, but no women were very interested in me...until I became a good guy. The "do no harm, but take no ****" good guy.
The kind who respects women, but isn't afriad to call them on their ****, or tease them once in a while.
I'm still a laid back kinda dude, but I'm very passionate about what I want and need at this stage of my life.

Exactly, that's what I meant by treat them like humans

Nobody wants to be treated badly or disrespected... nobody

that being said, In my opinion a woman wants a good man.. who knows when to be a bad. Men want the same out of women.

There should be quite a few homely bipolar guys for you.

Haaaahaaa...nooooo not bipolar and homely. Good guy somewhere in middle

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I think I probably fit that disciption, but that would be for others to decide

What sort of device are you using? If you're on a smart phone you can do it in the internet browser or the app.

A nice guy....and a good man...are two very different concepts... Think about it.

Neither men or women can be stereotyped like that anyway. There's so many variations of personalities. Everyone has a unique set of experiences that make them who they are. This used to be my problem, I thought all women were like my ex, lol. But since I started dating again, Ive found that women really fascinate me, they're all different.

He also looks like he's a pleaser...

True that. But the prevailing concept of what a "nice guy" is, doesn't seem to live up to what a "good man" ought to be. But like you said...each to their own. I will admit "bad boys" have their appeal, but bad treatment and disrespect are unacceptable behaviors and a big turn off -- just to address the OP.

I'm sorry, you didn't form that as a question.

That's just it mommy, that's what in the middle is. Mediocre, boring, regular, homely, not special in any way except for being bipolar. You never met anyone that was fattishly skinny, they were fat, skinny, or medium build. Same idea applies here, good guys, a-holes, and bipolar. I still haven't found that finish line yet...

Can't argue with this. But an amazing person can still be nice. In fact a bad boy or girl can be nice. Like I appear (almost) normal if you saw me on the street, but in reality I'm some sort of scientist/ philosopher/ plant junky/ hippy. I don't conform to anyone's expectations, and I generally don't have expectations of others, I think expectations are selfish. I also break the law quite often, so I'm a bad boy, but I'm nice, I treat others the way I wish to be treated. I know I can't be put into any sort of category. Anyone who can be put neatly into a box is conforming to some group or mode of thought or ideology imo. I think most can't be put into a box, when you look at them closely

Ahhh see that's where ya got me all wrong. doesn't have to be outstanding. don't care if he's blue collar or white as long as he's decent and loving..not his job to keep me entertained just his job to stand beside me come what may and hold my hand

This is interesting. I get the idea of identifying the two independently, but I think this is a mistake.
Perception, or perceiving someone as a nice person in a short period of time doesn't make them a good person or potential lifelong mate. This 'perception' like the mental depiction of a 'bad boy' is actually discrimination. I like women with long hair,�not saying I would never date a woman with short hair but the opposite of my preference would be,... Not preferred.
People say there are so many personality types... I'm not this because _____ is like that I any stand ______. People are dynamic and through our lifetime we change from who we were as children or teens. We are still human. We have the same set of emotions though we might not show them the same way. Even the most extensive personality tests place you categorically. That doesn't mean that you won't develope some new form of renewable energy, it means your still an a-hole just like _______.