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'Does loyalty exist anymore?' [Source: 'Anonymous']
I've been in three relationships in the past year which have ended with them cheating on me. I'm attentive, caring, intelligent, thoughtful, yet decisive and independent. I'm confident about my performance in relationships and have never gotten a complaint about anything. The only successful relationship (until we parted ways due to distance) I've had was with someone 9 years older than me and I've always been told to date someone older. My question is this; are most people in their late teens to early twenties (I'm 21 and just got out of a relationship with a girl who was 19.) too immature to hold a meaningful long-term relationship with someone who wants them to be happy as opposed to a 'bad-boy'? In 'Shlei's opinion: In my opinion yes. Most people in their late teens and early twenties.some even older than that are not looking for anything serious. Plus they are still growing up and evolving. I always wanted to believe that at the age of 18 I was all grown up. Not so. I am 25 and I am just now realizing that I had so much to learn and still do. The difference nowadays is that I have had my fun and now I am ready to mellow out and take life seriously. I don't have time to go to bars, get drunk, have one night stands, have a relationship with a guy based on the fact that we both like to drink and party. I'm not saying everyone is like this. I have dated around and I know what I am looking for. My point is, I think most people need to go out and experience in order to know what they want down the road. What Girls Said: My best friend is dating this guy who is two years older than her. She isn't 15 and he is going to be 18 in a couple months. They have been together for over a year and go to different schools. They have had no reason to not trust one another and are with each other very often. They definitely are happy together and anyone can tell that they are in a meaningful relationship. Most people seeing them last for a long time. [By : 'lvrgirl'] What Guys Said: Of course loyalty exists. and there are 18-22 year old individuals that are mature enough for long term relationships. The contradiction to that is most people in that age group are not looking to settle down. Some are and you have to find them but not everyone is worried about finding the one at that point in their life. If you are looking for more mature girl that wants to settle than date older or look for girls going in that direction. You have time. Also, I am not saying it is your fault but your ex-girlfriends cheated on you for their own reasons and maybe you need to find out what they are. Either you are looking at the wrong type of girls to settle down with or the girls you have been with have been looking for some sort of satisfaction that you just didn't provide. [By: 'Money']  |
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Friends I want to live life
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Hmmmm..yes be wary of scammers and catfishers and the attention whores who are addicted to talking to as many online people as they can get. Just be patient though ok? Not all like that and I wish you best in your search Alright, who took Ms. T? This poster's been possessed and is not what we've come to expect. (And what's your secret?) 
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I will never dispute a person's own experience. I find more often than not if someone can not find what they are looking for then often they are looking in the wrong place and attracted by things that should signal you that a person has different values and behaviors than will ultimately make you very unhappy happy in the long run. Generally people who are loyal, honest, and can maintain a long term relationship demonstrate that in their day to day lifestyle. They have good family relationships, they stuck it out in school, they hold down a job, they pay their bills, and live with in their means. They use their brains and personality to catch you and keep you. There sexuality is reserved and the icing on the cake not the whole flavor of the minute. Many years I have worked with younger vets and asked them what they really wanted? What would they want to come home too after the new wears off; say a year, five years, even when twenty years goes by? Did they see that in the women they were dating? I ask them are the words and actions that are falling out of that person the ones you will be able to live with? Do you even LIKE that person? You don't pick a woman like you pick a running buddy. You don't pick a woman because she is a right now gal. And if she clearly doesn't like you the person she isn't ever going to stick around just because you help her or entertain her for the moment. Chances are the woman that will make you happiest is someone you work with, lives in your neighborhood, and even knows the significant people in your life. She will be the one who remembers your work routines, your Momma or kids birthday, and tells you when you forget to roll the window up on your car door. It will be the little things that show she is considerate and not making you a slave to making her the center of the world. She isn't a Princess, and she might not even be picture perfect, but the words Thank You, please, may I help, and no are part of her da to day vocabulary. You want a woman with standards look for the standards then look at the woman and I bet money you will see plenty of "keepers". They are certainly out in the world and even well represented her on Mingle. Good luck. P.S. This guide is not gender specific . It applies just as well to men. Outstanding post, 'Star. Brava! 
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well i think that one who will be serious and loyal in a relationship must be a straight and sincere type of person from the begining,not a freek.Distance or time has no effect on reality...every word is open to a true listiner.
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Yeah, I have to agree, it is hard.
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Haaahaa scrbblers..I like to keep em guessing
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Haaahaa scrbblers..I like to keep em guessing Sneaky critter! And here I'd thought you'd been possessed by aliens or something. 
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there is no love it always hurts and leaves you alone... i dont believe love now... it breaks you apart it kills you :,(
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@pacificstar48 you got it!^_^ sly is right! Loyal and serious doesn't fit your manila personal does it? |
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@pacificstar48 you got it!^_^ I know you can't answer this because you are already deactivated. But it appears that you were a scammer who started to get caught up in the forums a bit. Did the scamming "pit boss" give you the "Hey.. you are supposed to be scamming them... not " shooting the breeze" with them!! lecture? |
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Okay so I'm new on here and not even sure if I am doing this right ... Hope you all are having a Great Weekend ... Smile ...
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Finding someone that is a companion and not just another person to hang out with. "It's gonna take time. A whole lot of precious time. It's gonna take patience and time." -George Harrison
It's been my experience a lot of people that think they are ready to settle down and have a real relationship, realize a little too late they are not ready after all. You can see this when people jump into a relationship. Then are not satisfied with what or who they have. These people tend to compound the situation by not coming clean about it. That is when minor thing get blown out of proportion. They are looking for a way out and don't want to admit they were not ready after all. I seen it happen. When I was a teenager I wanted to get married, have a couple of kids, and live happily ever after. I know, it's odd for a guy to think like that but I did. I found a wonderful lady a few years older than me. Dated for about five years. Three of which we lived together. I figured at this point nothing would change if we got married. For the most part I was correct. We were married for about 10 years and had two amazing daughters. I thought everything was going great. Until the last year turned into one long bitter argument. We simply were not compatible anymore. I didn't want to leave and she felt trapped. Once we got through the most civil divorce I've ever heard of, we got along much better. I still wouldn't say we are friends but we can talk without pissing each other off. After being divorced for a almost five years now I have yet to find someone that is really ready for a committed relationship. At least a committed relationship with me. There have been a couple that thought they were ready, but soon realised they wasn't. Sadly, I've had to be the one to bring it up. I seen the signs and didn't want it to blow up. None of this has convinced me that I will never find someone compatible with me. Though at times it is hard to stay optimistic. The moral of the story is keep your head up and accept whatever it is life has to throw at you. At some point everyone finds what they are looking for or they find they was looking for the wrong thing. Either way, it's one hell of a life. Enjoy it! |
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Can i have a serious relationship pls?? I mean now!! ^_^
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Can i have a serious relationship pls?? I mean now!! ^_^ |
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I will never dispute a person's own experience. I find more often than not if someone can not find what they are looking for then often they are looking in the wrong place and attracted by things that should signal you that a person has different values and behaviors than will ultimately make you very unhappy happy in the long run. Generally people who are loyal, honest, and can maintain a long term relationship demonstrate that in their day to day lifestyle. They have good family relationships, they stuck it out in school, they hold down a job, they pay their bills, and live with in their means. They use their brains and personality to catch you and keep you. There sexuality is reserved and the icing on the cake not the whole flavor of the minute. Many years I have worked with younger vets and asked them what they really wanted? What would they want to come home too after the new wears off; say a year, five years, even when twenty years goes by? Did they see that in the women they were dating? I ask them are the words and actions that are falling out of that person the ones you will be able to live with? Do you even LIKE that person? You don't pick a woman like you pick a running buddy. You don't pick a woman because she is a right now gal. And if she clearly doesn't like you the person she isn't ever going to stick around just because you help her or entertain her for the moment. Chances are the woman that will make you happiest is someone you work with, lives in your neighborhood, and even knows the significant people in your life. She will be the one who remembers your work routines, your Momma or kids birthday, and tells you when you forget to roll the window up on your car door. It will be the little things that show she is considerate and not making you a slave to making her the center of the world. She isn't a Princess, and she might not even be picture perfect, but the words Thank You, please, may I help, and no are part of her da to day vocabulary. You want a woman with standards look for the standards then look at the woman and I bet money you will see plenty of "keepers". They are certainly out in the world and even well represented her on Mingle. Good luck. P.S. This guide is not gender specific . It applies just as well to men. WOW!!! can I borrow this for my profile??!! JK This is exactly how I feel and have difficulty explaining it. ..nothing more to say except again WOW. 
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I will never dispute a person's own experience. I find more often than not if someone can not find what they are looking for then often they are looking in the wrong place and attracted by things that should signal you that a person has different values and behaviors than will ultimately make you very unhappy happy in the long run. Generally people who are loyal, honest, and can maintain a long term relationship demonstrate that in their day to day lifestyle. They have good family relationships, they stuck it out in school, they hold down a job, they pay their bills, and live with in their means. They use their brains and personality to catch you and keep you. There sexuality is reserved and the icing on the cake not the whole flavor of the minute. Many years I have worked with younger vets and asked them what they really wanted? What would they want to come home too after the new wears off; say a year, five years, even when twenty years goes by? Did they see that in the women they were dating? I ask them are the words and actions that are falling out of that person the ones you will be able to live with? Do you even LIKE that person? You don't pick a woman like you pick a running buddy. You don't pick a woman because she is a right now gal. And if she clearly doesn't like you the person she isn't ever going to stick around just because you help her or entertain her for the moment. Chances are the woman that will make you happiest is someone you work with, lives in your neighborhood, and even knows the significant people in your life. She will be the one who remembers your work routines, your Momma or kids birthday, and tells you when you forget to roll the window up on your car door. It will be the little things that show she is considerate and not making you a slave to making her the center of the world. She isn't a Princess, and she might not even be picture perfect, but the words Thank You, please, may I help, and no are part of her da to day vocabulary. You want a woman with standards look for the standards then look at the woman and I bet money you will see plenty of "keepers". They are certainly out in the world and even well represented her on Mingle. Good luck. P.S. This guide is not gender specific . It applies just as well to men. Great advice... I know there was a few years a while back all I could seem to date was men that just didn't want the same things out of life. I took some time off the dating field and worked on me... Because what I was projecting was what I* was attracting... Agreed. You can never truly love another unless you truly love yourself. And if you want real love, you're gonna need to feel at peace around that person, that is, you have no need to put on an act, you can both be yourselves. I'd say, when I first started online dating I talked to a few ladies long distance, it didn't work. How can you trust anyone? Then I started to focus on my area. If you live in a city, this is key, as all that time you've been chatting or texting, you could be out having coffee, or drinks, or hiking, or whatever you both enjoy. But I'm not saying long distance can't work. If two people have the means to travel, that could work as well, but eventually you have to be in each other's presence to know for sure. |
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Its the new age Suz all ya gots to do to find true love now is exchange a few naughty pics , talk dirty to each other and hook up  |
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What you didn't get those? Hmmmmm and I was sure I had one special in mind I sent just to you..haahaa what are you working your way thru all your profile pics tonight?
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