Ladies?

A little help please. When I log in I'm excited to discover that I usually have 1-2 people a day who have viewed my profile. I'll check, and unfortunately they usually seem to be from somewhere else on the planet like Europe, Africa, the Far East and they are usually 20+ years younger.

Any ideas as to how one can generate more age appropriate local leads? My search settings are nowhere near that young, and I restrict e-mails to a 50 mile radius.

Suggestions?

<shrug> i would just be happy you are getting checked out : )
its a good ego boost : )

I think it is your profile.
* like I have one .
But I'm not looking *
Tried to message you about it. But you have the 50 mile thing.

You might see dramatic enlargement of your dating pool
by widening the parameter of 50 miles.

There is not much else to be done if your area does not
have a lot of members.

Tis an international site, you might want a piece of that :-)

The following are general notes NOT , I repeat NOT, based on the OP. I only vaguely skimmed his profile and have not read any of his posts nor do I have a clue who he is.

Local guys often really miss the beat on the profile and talking in forums. If you don't get specific what you like and what you do, and where you generally are locals are going to assume you are a dud plunked behind a beer and a multi-screen talking to internet bimbos a thousand miles away even if you are across the street.

Don't get too picky about right next door. People worth keeping make accomodations and couples move to be together all the time. Yes it is smart to pick someone you really can drive to but it is not essential in all cases.

That said you can actually get local ladies that are more or less strangers to chat with you on site if you offer them a respectable screen name on a card rather than getting too pushy about getting digits. Women are getting smarter about personal security and it can be a way to keep your own address and employment private until you know what you are dealing with. Where many women will not call a guy they will look them up on line and watch them from afar. Keep track of who you give your screen name and where and don't paper the city with it or you will be nailed a player fast.

Get in and out of the boards in your regional and interest chats. Check a few interests that maybe women would like a little more than your bro's. Avoid posting "boys toys", dead animals, and other females. DO NOT post pictures in your bathroom or bedroom.

Do Say hi in the greetings and well wishes chat to show you are not self centered and don't fall on your sword whining or verbally bashing anyone. I have known men who shot themselves in the head making retard, short bus, fat jokes and or gay hashing when let's face it you do not know who is related employed by or friends with to whom. NEVER EVER drunk post or when you are depressed.

And resist practice flirting because it will always get around because many on the boards know each other and some women actually chat about the local guys in girl to girl friendships that do not show up on their friends list. ALWAYS ASSUME your REPUTATION proceeds you. NEVER Post about Exs because any woman with half a brain will expect to be next. Don't make a fake profile to "check up" and see if who you are dating is still on line and looking. Assume she is until you put a ring on her finger. Too many of guys wait around making up their mind and the completion beats them to the punch because they man up and ask.

Also do a few searches on your own name. Not all the information out there is accurate but if you look a little like or have the same screen name, actual name, as say a sex offender or some scammer has uploaded your photos you are dead in the water. NEVER EVER Lie about your age. And if you have one a criminal record. If you have been arrested and not charged make sure you don't have a plice record or a warrant. Military and graduation records are available for less than a buck.

Another good reason not to do the canned dating sight blather in a profile is it sounds like you are a phony using the same tired lines on anything that is female. If you have heard it so has any female on line more than a month. We get hundreds of emails. . Scammers cut and paste so much most women know it on site. Focus on great pictures , good grammar/spelling , and just enough information to start a conversation. Nobody need a life story but if you can't convey minimal communication skills in writing you are going to come off as selfish, boring, or ignorant.

If English is not your first language own it but do not be a snob about it. This is and international site and it is ok to use dual languages. Contrary to popular belief many Americans are multi-lingual or have very good translations programs so don't think you can be slick in another language and not get nailed.

If you are a parent don't beat it to death and do NOT post pictures of your kids. ESPECIALLY teenagers or adult children that you are hoping someone (NO ONE)will believe is your girlfriend. It really freaks most women out. Your kids are not your whole life or you would not be on line so don't make yourself sound like a liar. A dating site is not where to recruit your next live in nanny. If you don't want kids shut up and go to the next profile. There is no wrath like the wrath of a scored Mother.

Stay out of arguments between anyone on line. If a guy is being a jerk to a female don't try to be a hero because it will always work out that you are made the zero and can get you banned. Rarely on Mingle females will fight but some take their squabbles to other sites; be smart stay out of it.

Remember ANYTHING you post lives on line forever. Maybe you are just messing around but that walk on the porn sites or married and cheating does NOT go away.

Use different sites in conjunction with this one?

There are even phone apps that put "matches" (aka those that have a profile) on a map with your location centered.

Also, develop more social hobbies where you interact with more than just other guys, or your standard routine?

Make opportunities to talk to people wherever you go?