This day and age its just pointless looking for somthing thats never gonna happen plus its stupid

I don't agree its so worth looking for cose its so good when its got !

You didn't find a sugar daddy yet love ? Lol

I know!!!! It's just stoopid I tell ya!

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Also, the grapes are sour.

ok, have fun alone...

Lmao i was joking about lol

At least i wont get hurt thats how i see it iv been let down by people i thought was family and close people if they can hurt me what makes this different

Serious answer... cuz when you do find it, it makes everything bazillion times better

I totally understand.

Amen... I honestly believe if I had to live without even the prospect of love I wouldn't want to be around this world anymore...

You are very young and you haven't been here all that long.So romantic love takes a bit longer.

Also there are many types of love which exactly are referring to???

ummm, i don't think that stops... still gunna suck...

Smooth operator

A process of bonding that rewards you for stabilizing a relationship in order to provide security to any offspring you may have.


Personally, what I think is stupid is people that seem to try and remove "love" from its biologically based components and turn it into their own religion, as though it is some other worldly and alien gift to be worshiped; bestowed upon lucky people that happen to do everything right.


I somewhat agree with this.
Mostly because people have control over their reproductive systems and can pick and choose when to have kids.
Many try to objectively pick and choose and say things like "I'm too young to have kids now, I will have them later in life, when I'm established and able to take care of myself, with an education and career."

I think these people are stupid, believing they are some kind of modular being that can simply switch off or remove their desire to procreate believing that no longer motivates their emotions and behavior, all while leaving in the system whose main function is to support that which they want to deny.


You can fall in love with anyone you have even the slightest attraction to.
It's hardwired into you.
The only time it doesn't happen is when you work against it to make sure that bonding process doesn't happen. The biggest influence of that is the "nurture" side of the equation.

It's like you're driving with one foot on the gas and one on the brake, both pushed to the floor and saying "me going anywhere is not going to happen no matter how much harder I try to push in the gas pedal."

There are a ton of people who self sabotage simply because they were raised with the asinine thinking of "I'm too young. I'm choosing career and education over family!" so that becomes second nature to them. They then automatically go for people that make it easy to fight against the natural bonding process.

They get what they think they want as individuals, what they've been trained to want as part of a group, all with the ability to blame the other person for any failure (Oh I'm a victim! Imma hurt!), accepting no risk, never have to look any deeper than the surface level.

It's never going to happen if you don't really want it to happen.
Otherwise, you can't help it from happening. It happens like breathing.


Inherent in your sentence is the idea that "love" is ultimately a reward system for your own self actualization.
It's not.
Love really isn't about you as an individual at all.

I know lovea not a about me it takes 2 i know that

Whatever it is...the end has to be shitty for sure...

You guys obviously looking in the wrong places

When its real,
love is the epitome of perfection.

Sounds as though you went through a painful lesson. I am too familiar with that myself. One or more people who for all the world seem to be sincere when they claim to care about you, turn around and treat you like spare change to be tossed carelessly away as soon as some other bauble catches their eye.

What I hope you will come to see, is that it isn't love that failed, it's those people who did. Especially in your age range, most people THINK they know what real love is, because the emotions and desires and lusts all get so very intense all at the same time then. So they think they are in love with you, and you start to build a future around them.

Thing of it is, they are still just learning about it themselves. People who have confused lust with love, tend to come up with the most infuriating cover stories for why they hurt the people they said they loved before.

Don't let their mistakes, cause you to give up on what you know that you want.

And yes, love is real, it's just not as easy to recognize and find as anyone's libido would have them believe.