This is something I can't relate to. Why would guys want to have their way with a woman only one time, it make no sense. What they should be aiming for is to have lots of women they can see again and again. That way they wouldn't need to keep laying the ground work. These guys must like the chase more than the act itself. Freaks! Yet all over dating sites women are complaining about guys only wanting one night stands. Surely one night stands cannot mean for one night only.

Well, to some extent I think you hit it right on he head. They do want to have lots of women.. but they don't want to see them again and again. So I think for some that is exactly what they are looking for.

I do think it is a game to some and they either state it ( one night.. no strings) up front or they really have no emotions and could care less what the woman thinks.

That type will always be around.

But I also think that a lot of this has stopped ( or slowed down) due to the scare of contracting a sexually transmitted disease

.That is exactly what it means " One night only " it is called " a hook up" or " boddie call"
But a " boddie call" can also mean having sex with someone reapeatdly, but you are NOT in a commited relationship with them or bonded to them.

"What's a one night stand?"

Answer:



Here are two night stands.

Funny.. But you just confused most of the planet .

Oh yeah? Well, most Humans confuse me. So, turn about is fair play.

that mahogany one has nice legs

One night stands,(not the Ikea ones:-) for some are rubber stamp notches on the bed."yeah buddy,i nailed her/him"
The next version,some aren't compatible after sex.
Still another version,its how some get through the week and they're "happy" with it,but doesn't want commitment,..busy schedules,work,parties,hobbies.
Somewhere,the quality of a person you have sex with matters

Maybe marriage is what you need? You won't need to keep laying the ground work and if can satisfy her in bed, she will want you again and again and again... SHe may even allow you to keep a few inflatables on the side!

One night stand,
is a night stand short of a matching set.

Hmn.. the one off.. the Do'm and leave 'm..... the don't have time for breakfast.. just a slice of toast and go..
.. the ..do you got my numbers..?
No.!!..good! lets keep it real..lol..

.. and my personal favorite...
climbs back into the front seat...
... best way to spend the lunch break ever....


... one night stands..lol.... don't get me wrong baby ,I think you're great.!.. pretty close to awesome!....ohhh.. of course I will still sleep with you..!..
I just don't want to date you....
.. no no it's not you!!.. it's me... baby..
. I have issues...... so why don't you pick up the bar tab .... and let's get back to your place...... chop chop times tickin...

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Because they have better things to do with their time.
Because a lot of one night stands are opportunistic rather than preplanned, even though there may be a general plan in place like "I hope I get laid tonight."


That would take a more complex plan than "I need to get laid," or, "I hope I get laid tonight," or, "I just want to get laid."

The more complex the plan, the more time, effort, energy, money, focus, costs are involved.

Those will take away from the "better things to do with their time,"
ultimately making getting laid and keeping multiple women on strings the primary purpose of his life.

Unless you are solely referring to internet people who only get laid via gaming dating sites.
These guys do have lots of women they can see again and again.
It's the population of women on a dating site. It's the illusion of choice.


What ground work?

Are you talking about guys online on dating sites?
Where they talk talk talk talk tell the woman what she wants to hear have sex and then disappear after their one night stand?

The ground work they lay is only the illusion of groundwork.
The crap they spew is not real.
It's only meant to last and seem real as far as it takes to get them laid, not go further than that.

That groundwork will be shown to have shoddy craftsmanship after enough time passes.


The internet is full of complainers and whiners that are looking to use others as scapegoats for their own problems.

Complaints don't matter if they don't do anything about it.
And the only thing they actually have the power to do on the internet penalizes themselves more than anyone else.

You have a couple of things wrong.

First, there's more than one kind of "one night stand."

There's on purpose ones, and there's accidental ones.

In the "on purpose" category, there are different sub-types. There are the score-keeping kind, and there are the conquest kind, and there are the proving-a-point kind.

The people who are just after numbers, don't bother "laying the groundwork." They just go after the low hanging fruit.

The "conquest" kind will often put as much effort in as a sports hunter will, buying specialized hunting equipment, studying their target, and building towards the "kill." They enjoy the craft of the "conquest," not the person.

The "proving a point" kind, include the people who have suffered psychologically somehow, and pursue an O.N.S. to effect a sense of either healing, or of balance, or just to prove that they can. People turning forty, who suddenly fear loss of youth; married people who fear loss of a sense of sexual freedom; betrayed people, trying to gain a sense of equality of injury with their betrayer; that kind of thing.


The "accidental" ones include both the relatively positive kind, where people have found a real potential mate, only to recognize too late that they are headed in completely different directions somehow; the tragic ones, where the people lose each other too soon after to continue; and the mostly negative experiences where they realize after the sex, that it was a big mistake to have gone that far.

The only people who I think fit your criticism, would be those few who think that having ONS's will lead to an LTR, or who think they are one kind of person, when they are really one of the other kinds.

Well, my theory is... if folks decide if sex is good or bad by the first attempt then they are either really easy to please or they know they suck in bed and don't want to bother with rejection by asking the second time.

Great sex generally takes knowing your partner well and feeling uninhibited because you like and trust them. If you have developed great affection for them and learned some of their likes and dislikes you can have ROCKIN sex. Especially if you have good memories to get the engine in gear.

They just say that to let you know that a big mac and fries at the pier ain't necessarily gonna get you lucky with 'em!

What I mean by ground work is the enormous amount of hassle you have to go through to get women to meet you for the first time. I mean, I've tried countless times to cut corners by asking them straight out if they'd like to have "fun" with me. And it doesn't work. And another thing, a lot of women don't like giving it up on the first date.

find a nice hooker...time saver for ya

a response to moe green. finding a prostitute is not as easy as you think. our government is infested with feminists. so we don't have brothels like we did back in the good old days. Now it's all got to be done in secret. And it's not as straight forward as you think.