I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.

This question has surfaced here too many times. I know it stings, but the answer is we don't owe you an explanation of why we rejected your advances. It's not rude not to answer every single person who inboxes. I always state that since many women receive a high volume of messages, they neither have the time nor the desire to answer every message. Also, if you answer some people for the sole purpose of rejecting them, they get nasty or may misinterpret the answer as possible interest, further complicating the rejection process. Hence, silence is the answer. Accept it and respect it. Men don't understand because most of their inboxes remain empty.

It's a common complaint.


You admit that emailing is going through trouble.
If someone wants absolutely nothing to do with you, why would they go through the "trouble" in contacting you to let you know that?
Especially since they will most likely never meet you or anyone you know?

Spammers go through the trouble of emailing you exciting new offers in the world of penile enlargement. Do you send a note thanking them for the opportunity but graciously declining?
Do you have spam filters on any of your email accounts?
If so, then you better disable them or your manners are bad.

Do you "really" want a response? Even in the negative?
Would it really help you to receive an email that reads:
"Dear sir/madam/whatever, this is an automatic copy/paste response. I set up a program on my computer that sends out this email to those I read and ignore or just not read. The system purges emails after 30 days, that triggers the sending of my responses. Have a nice day. Or not. I don't care. Further contact will simply generate this same response."

RUBBISH,you're supposed to ANSWER!! )joking You couldn't of said it any better!

I agree with you, your email is personal and not junk mail, a general email sent to everyone, unless it just says 'Hi', in which case you cannot really expect a reply. The reason people do not reply is they have hundreds of emails in their inbox and only have just enough time to read them, it just seems to be the way the internet works not that it is the right way in my opinion.

If you are sending emails to people here, be aware of the last time they were on this site which is given on the top line in their profile. When it says 'Last seen over a month ago' that could mean many months ago since they last visited the site, so receiving a reply from them would be very unlikely.

^ We need a male version of that.

This was the best I could find.

Yikes!!!

I think you are right. Women receive more requests and not usually for the right reasons!!.
I always answer a written e mail and sometimes get thanked for doing so
Roger

I am one of the weird ones I answer all my emails. and someday I feel like I am a typist. Doesn't take long to say
Thank you but no thank you if you had read my profile instead of just looking at pictures you would have realized I am in a wonderful relationship.. Friends only...
Have a great day
R

What people don't realize I have that in a format I just copy and paste it...

Now the ones that actually read my profile and have something to say I answer on the spot with new words...

But that isn't the norm. People will do what they want here as well in real life and if it isn't working for them they will whine about it..

very few take the time to read your profile
just look at your pics and shoot you a quick message
sometimes its a "hi"
sometimes it's one of those..can't talk on here but can we skype kind

sometimes it's a copypaste paragraph that gets sent out to everyone..

I like it when they have sent it to so many women that they are now on the second go round and I get the exact same message more than once

if I think he has actually read my profile and written out that message afterwards? I will take the time to respond

No answer IS an answer

I clearly state on my profile that I'm not here but for the forums. Think some guys respect that? Heck no

yea, well, in a perfect world we'd all have pet unicorns and popcorn flavored beer, but the way guys act towards women is a reality... women do not have to answer you or anyone they want, and you shouldn't be butt-hurt by it... just move on to the next one, internet dating is a numbers game, mostly...

Some men think if you view their profile you are interested . Myself im here for forums so I will view everyone
But each time we respond to an email we run the risk of the person interrupting it wrong.
Some people don't read profiles at all. Some just message who ever is on line. Some just message who shows up in a search.
Too many... don't even introduce them self in the 1st message, yet say " Hi how are you?".
Not interested is how I am.
No manners or they can't formulate a sentence, or expect me to reply & do all the work & typing & entertain them.... then I'm also busy

NO response is a response & the response is NO.

Well said!

I don't reckon whining about not getting a response to a message will entice anyone to "hit me up". Probably have the opposite effect.

Hell, I've said "hi" to people live and in person, just a friendly greeting, and got no response. What do I care? It's better than that feigned smile that looks like they are trying not to poop their pants.

If it bothers you that much, just sit back and chill and let the ladies come to you.

You gotta keep in mind they are like mermaids swimming in a tank full of sharks and catfish.

I reckon I'm one of the catfish but that doesn't stop me from shaking my groove thang!

internet ettiquette does not require a response - no response IS a response of no interest

even tho I have stated a million times on here that I am only her for the forums AND there is no photo of me, I get messages about how beautiful I am and what am I looking for and do I have feelings (for the sender) on the first message...yikes


sometimes I do answer just to talk a bit but they often turn out to be scamemrs