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Why should we swallow if we can spit?...
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well dribbling is preferred but go ahead if you must ..spit spit
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I was a freaking awesome husband.. ... loyal faithful hardworking.. . attentive.. great communicator.. enjoyed housework.. and looking after the vehicles and landscaping.. ... I was passionate... and very sexual.. .... I'm an awesome cook.. and I do the dishes as I'm cooking... I even lift up the burner plate and clean underneath that...lol.... ok I don't do laundry very well..lol..... .. and I hate looking after the financial stuff..... which in hindsight.. probably not a good idea..lmao.. ... but yes not to toot my own horn.. .. oh yeah I even like to dance..lol .. I was a ok husband.. 
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I was a freaking awesome husband.. ... loyal faithful hardworking.. . attentive.. great communicator.. ... I was passionate... .. oh yeah I even like to dance..lol Dance for me, baby. Dance for me, my private dancer. |
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The woman makes her Husband great.:) I have a Aunt that is 5'4 and she is a husband that is 6'6 and black. she sure does whip him into shape with one bad look. LOL. I was raised by so many woman growing up, and I realized most good marriages the woman has the man pants on.
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just was out on the Veranda overlooking my 1/4 acre property and noticed two Robins, male and female (husband and wife) picking for nesting materials. The female (wife) flew off and like a good husband, the male soon followed. So what makes you a good husband/wife? Do you follow, lead or walk side by side with your significant other. Following, Leading AND walking side by side is ALL AN ABSOLUTE MUST to share in a good/great marriage IMO. That in a nutshell is exactly what Our marriage was...sometimes He led, sometimes I led, MOST times We walked together. I can give you many, many, many examples from my 22 years of marriage, but one will suffice....He couldn't deal with our daughter when she turned into the whiny, somewhat demanding tween. He asked me why she was like that. she was no longer His cute, cuddly, love-you-always-Dad-little girl. She was "trying" her semi-teen/semi-adult attitudes like every other normal tween girl. He asked me questions and I answered them so when he did talk to her, he learned to have patience and actually TALK to her instead of assuming and getting angry like men in general have a tendency to do with things (females) they don't understand. 
I was the one who couldn't handle the physical ailments, like when our son needed knee surgery and daughter needed over 100 stitches to fix the gash in her leg. He was the one to physically by their side, holding their hand and talking soothingly to them. I was the one outside making the phone calls to insurance, to grandparents and neighbors. LOL   
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just was out on the Veranda overlooking my 1/4 acre property and noticed two Robins, male and female (husband and wife) picking for nesting materials. The female (wife) flew off and like a good husband, the male soon followed. So what makes you a good husband/wife? Do you follow, lead or walk side by side with your significant other. Following, Leading AND walking side by side is ALL AN ABSOLUTE MUST to share in a good/great marriage IMO. That in a nutshell is exactly what Our marriage was...sometimes He led, sometimes I led, MOST times We walked together. I can give you many, many, many examples from my 22 years of marriage, but one will suffice....He couldn't deal with our daughter when she turned into the whiny, somewhat demanding tween. He asked me why she was like that. she was no longer His cute, cuddly, love-you-always-Dad-little girl. She was "trying" her semi-teen/semi-adult attitudes like every other normal tween girl. He asked me questions and I answered them so when he did talk to her, he learned to have patience and actually TALK to her instead of assuming and getting angry like men in general have a tendency to do with things (females) they don't understand.
I was the one who couldn't handle the physical ailments, like when our son needed knee surgery and daughter needed over 100 stitches to fix the gash in her leg. He was the one to physically by their side, holding their hand and talking soothingly to them. I was the one outside making the phone calls to insurance, to grandparents and neighbors. LOL
Now this was the post I've been looking for. Nice job, perfect illustration. In most relationships there is usually one dominant person. I think the trick to longevity is equality. Each of you know more about some things than the other does, or are better equipped mentally or physically to deal with them. Relying on each others strengths is how we forge through problems in life. As illustrated here, The mother help the father understand more about his daughter. The Father took the reigns in times of crises. One or the other takes the lead when they are the most qualified. When you share that responsibility you build trust and you learn to swallow your ego when you give up control. IMO utilizing each others strengths is key to avoid one being more dominant over the other and I think that goes hand in hand in your personal conflicts with each other to compromise and equally strive for a resolution. Leading, following or standing side by side gives you both the feeling of purpose in the marriage and domination or pride doesn't stand in the way of good judgment. |
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just stopped in here and after mel's words i'm just a soft echo
i'm not (never married). but i think i could be as long as she fills in all my weak spots. |
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Edited by
MelMaxx
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Wed 04/15/15 08:14 AM
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just was out on the Veranda overlooking my 1/4 acre property and noticed two Robins, male and female (husband and wife) picking for nesting materials. The female (wife) flew off and like a good husband, the male soon followed. So what makes you a good husband/wife? Do you follow, lead or walk side by side with your significant other. Following, Leading AND walking side by side is ALL AN ABSOLUTE MUST to share in a good/great marriage IMO. That in a nutshell is exactly what Our marriage was...sometimes He led, sometimes I led, MOST times We walked together. I can give you many, many, many examples from my 22 years of marriage, but one will suffice....He couldn't deal with our daughter when she turned into the whiny, somewhat demanding tween. He asked me why she was like that. she was no longer His cute, cuddly, love-you-always-Dad-little girl. She was "trying" her semi-teen/semi-adult attitudes like every other normal tween girl. He asked me questions and I answered them so when he did talk to her, he learned to have patience and actually TALK to her instead of assuming and getting angry like men in general have a tendency to do with things (females) they don't understand.
I was the one who couldn't handle the physical ailments, like when our son needed knee surgery and daughter needed over 100 stitches to fix the gash in her leg. He was the one to physically by their side, holding their hand and talking soothingly to them. I was the one outside making the phone calls to insurance, to grandparents and neighbors. LOL
Now this was the post I've been looking for. Nice job, perfect illustration. In most relationships there is usually one dominant person. I think the trick to longevity is equality. Each of you know more about some things than the other does, or are better equipped mentally or physically to deal with them. Relying on each others strengths is how we forge through problems in life. As illustrated here, The mother help the father understand more about his daughter. The Father took the reigns in times of crises. One or the other takes the lead when they are the most qualified. When you share that responsibility you build trust and you learn to swallow your ego when you give up control. IMO utilizing each others strengths is key to avoid one being more dominant over the other and I think that goes hand in hand in your personal conflicts with each other to compromise and equally strive for a resolution. Leading, following or standing side by side gives you both the feeling of purpose in the marriage and domination or pride doesn't stand in the way of good judgment. Thank You needssum12luv.
Yes, I wholeheartedly agree and have from the beginning that this is the way of any relationship and most certainly a marriage. Not to break my arm trying to pat meself on the back, but I KNOW and He KNEW that we would be together for a very, very long time because we both knew what it took. 
(fyi...He died very unexpectedly from an aneurysm in his heart) 
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i'm not (never married). but i think i could be as long as she fills in all my weak spots. ....we fill each other's weak spots. Very nice way to put it eric
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thanks mel. i'm a firm believer that we are truly searching for our better half. the one who makes us more than we could ever be alone
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thanks mel. i'm a firm believer that we are truly searching for our better half. the one who makes us more than we could ever be alone My mother once told me that the reason people get married is to help each other make it to heaven...
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and you and i need all the help we can get right basha?
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and you and i need all the help we can get right basha?
*sigh*....Right. 
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i'll stop hiding your keys if you stop short sheeting my doghouse
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thanks mel. i'm a firm believer that we are truly searching for our better half. the one who makes us more than we could ever be alone When happiness of another person matters more to you than your own. |
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thanks mel. i'm a firm believer that we are truly searching for our better half. the one who makes us more than we could ever be alone When happiness of another person matters more to you than your own. 
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i'll stop hiding your keys if you stop short sheeting my doghouse
Will you stop taping my buns together, too?....
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I was a freaking awesome husband.. ... loyal faithful hardworking.. . attentive.. great communicator.. enjoyed housework.. and looking after the vehicles and landscaping.. ... I was passionate... and very sexual.. .... I'm an awesome cook.. and I do the dishes as I'm cooking... I even lift up the burner plate and clean underneath that...lol.... ok I don't do laundry very well..lol..... .. and I hate looking after the financial stuff..... which in hindsight.. probably not a good idea..lmao.. ... but yes not to toot my own horn.. .. oh yeah I even like to dance..lol .. I was a ok husband..
Going through list... check ... check ... check ... check I was about to say "Sold" ... but then ... Hate looking after financial stuff... wait a minute ... A guy's gotta do that, I hate it! How long's the auction going for? I need some time to think 
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