I am a fool hearted old man. Women can find their way into it very easily just by being caring and receptive, and I react, many times to haste-fully in handing my heart and soul to her. It was carelessly broken yesterday due to my hasteful, selfish desire, and sent me diving into a very deep and dangerous depression. thanks to a lovely and caring woman, she came along side me to lift my spirit and put my heart and mind on the right track to recover from my despair. I am still hurting, but finding it much more manageable then it was last night.

As I search for that someone, I am often disappointed but that comes with putting forth a true effort to find her. I do move quickly sorting through the profiles to find the probable prospect, as I find someone I will move as slowly as I can bear to but being 62, I really do not have much time to waste. Forgive me my friends for my moment of frailness as I have a foolish and tender heart that has been broken so many times that I no longer guard it as it has calloused over time. It's as if I dare the next woman to break it again, and she most likely will.

Ok...so life for us older single folks isn't easy; we've had our tales and moments of getting burnt and stories to tell...but we either keep trying or the just stop and remain stagnant --- that's the options!
It is hard trying to TRUST and hope that the person you are giving your heart to doesn't have a hidden agenda that will bite you in the butt...but that goes both ways for any relationship; that's why it's is imperative that you do not RUSH INTO anything blindly and with higher expectations then either one of you want or are willing to put into the deal.
Someone is going to be short changed and whether or not those 'THINGS/ISSUES' are deal breakers are what we consider petty and not an 'ISSUE' at first but soon become those HUGE earth shaking things that we just can't over come!
Your in your early 60's --- people are living well into their 80's - albeit not at the tempo and daily activity that we did in our 20's but we are surviving and that's saying loads about what we need to expect about our next relationships! LOL

Agreed, and thanks for you response

Don't worry Needsum12luv, there is a lady for you out there. Just relax and take the time to know yourself and what you want. Then you can find the right one instead of the wrong one. Good luck to you!

I for one believe every word the OP said in his heartfelt post.

Maybe some people should be taking notes..

Why do you guys worried of your age? If an 84 years old man married to a 44 Year old woman how much more to a youger man? This is true... They just got married last month and yes many different reactions from the people but who cares? Just wait for the right time and dont be rush.smile

Try looking at it this way.

All people are different. Some are nice, some are not. Some are jerks and some are what makes life worth living.

You have to kiss a few(or more) frogs.

You march through life and when an event happens, such as you describe, it is a learning lesson. Be thankful for the learning experience! Celebrate the loss of a problem. Joyfully continue down life's journey to find the love of your life!

easy to say when your 38

I know too well what I want. I sort through literally 100's of profiles and only a selected few are persued, but even in the select few are even fewer that want to be challenged with questions and efforts of moving forward in a relationship. I will not beat around the bush, as my interest grows so will my pursuit. It does lead to more heartache, but yesterdays heartache was much to bear and drove me deep into depression. Thanks to a helpful mingler (who will remain anonymous) She was able to give me the support and encouragement I needed to rise again and move on.

remember this though needsum. the more you make it like work or a project the less you will be able to enjoy it.

so keep telling yourself ...breath relax and try not to force it

Not at all easy... Not at any age, i believe...its a matter of learning from experiences.
Its not easy to find someone to fill a void in your heart... Its different for everyone, but don't give up and have faith. good luck on your quest

I have just the right thing for your bruised heart!

I have to agree with this.. no matter what age a person is, life is too short to be in such a hurry to find someone. the right person I honestly believe will come along for each and everyone...

No apologies needed as far as I am concerned

We all have had our fair share of dumping and being dumped, and being admired and also having to say 'no' and said 'no' to ..... so, it is something we have to learn to cope or we will all be 'very very bruised'.

So, take it slow and steady........ get to know a person more, allow the person to get to know you more. Don't rush it!

very positive and encouraging response.......thanks

I agree with this. I also know the difference between pursuing and forcing. If a woman is hesitant to reveal herself to me, whereas I have no problem telling her anything and everything about myself, then I feel she is hiding something or is insecure in building a relationship. There is a pace that is reasonable and there is a pace that is wasting time, and also a pace which can lead to careless actions or reactions if you rush. I try to keep moving at a steady but productive pace. So far it has worked well in finding some very gratifying relationships. But the trade off is the more you find, the greater the chance of heartbreak, and yesterday was one that seemed too unbearable. The upside to that is, it will happen sooner than later

by the way, that's a cute little starter mustache

mustaches are wonderful


on a man that is
on a woman..not so much