I'm Joem 26 from Philippines and I'm a Bi with one son. I'm in love with the same gender .. He's a simple worker in a private company and at the same time a singer too.. we've meet in a bar where i worked with as a singer in a band and that's where all started. but the problem is, He wants to have a secret relationship with me although he has a Girlfriend. there's someone who's attracted on me but She's a girl and i really don't like her because i I'm inlove with the same man.. :( No one from my Friends and Family about my preferences.. and this is my problem.. :( This guy said that his willing to have an affair with me but---its a secret. as part of me, I also agree with his idea because here in Philippines this kind of relationship didn't accept by the society.. and its a safest thing to hide to the family about myself. but i don't want to be a third parties .. He's already committed with someone else and i don't want to break it.. :( but i love the guy.. Now, I'm so confused on how can i able to pass this situation.. :( :( I really don't want to hurt anyone just because of my happiness.. :( I'm planning to let him go and live life with my son alone.. :( haist.. so hard.. :(
PS: sorry for my English, I'm not that good but i tried my best.

If he TRULY loved YOU, he would be with just you, no matter what.
Painful & heartbreaking as it will be I would break ties with him. And avoid men involved with someone else (male or female). You are bringing pain on yourself, if you don't.
IMO he wants everything HIS way.
And neither his woman or you will be happy. But, HE will.
And I would put off getting involved romantically/ sexually with anyone for awhile. And to be honest.... you need time to understand YOUR own sexually. I don't think you want to put a girl thru this pain... like he did. It's NOT fair to anyone involved. It is selfish.

Good luck in your decision.

Dear brother, let me tell you some thing.. dont get into a **** who just want to use you.

Try making girl friends... it is always good for you and for your health.. if you think you cannot change yourself, then get into spirituality.. if you believe in god and spirituality, then you will come to know the essence of this life and how to be happy... either make girl as your next friend or just take the second option which will help you to overcome your depression, tensions and any other things... practice, yoga, pranayama, read holy books and get to know your purpose in this life and about your dependents..

All the best!

hey...dont get upset ...be wid ur son...u wl find all ur happiness in ur son only..n try to make some good female friends

To be honest.. I'm a little concerned about you & your son's safety. Considering you said ' it is not accepted '.
You of course are a full grown man. But your son may encounter ridicule, and harassment.. or worst.
Please consider his well being & feelings. . Search your soul.

And again good luck & welcome.
Hang out with us for awhile, on forums & messaging.
You may like the variety of cultures, religions & all of our funny craziness.

Thank you Guys for your concerns and thoughts about my problem.. i really appreciated it.. but just to clarify one thing, I once inlove in a girl before but as time goes by.. things changed. but i don't regret that's part of my life.. I have more female friends and they're fun with.. but honestly, i'm more happy to be with male's. i hate this feeling and tried my best to fix this feeling but i think its too late.. :( I don't want to be bullied and to be hated from my Friends especially to my family / my son.. I'm just so weak type of person.. :( I didn't answer his text his calls on facebook.. i change my mobile number already.. but times passed by, i can't help but missing him so bad.. haist.. :( but i believe that every problem that i encountered in life, there's always a solution.
Thank you guys..

That is the saddest, heartbreaking and most painful feeling, to deny your true love for someone, to bury it. I feel for you.

I don't know you, but i'm proud of you. Many people may say to you ' the pain doesn't last forever'.. It is true. It just feels that way, now.
Pray for the pain to be removed & be good & gentle with yourself. Love yourself first ( this is not ego, you can still be humble).
You are here on the planet with your son for a reason.

It's true and that's what I'm feeling right now. but i know i could overcome this pain because i've been in this pain before but in a different situation.. although it's not that hard before when my bestfriend leaved me and went abroad (Australia) for work, rather than this.. But i know i can do it again.. but i'm sure it will take time before i could able to move on.. I spend most of the time now by selling street foods like barbecue infront of our house, then having gig when i have calls.. although, I'm thinking him sometimes.. haist.. sorry guys.. i hope you understand me.. I know i'm so idiot but I'm just in love.. but i know .. i know .. i can over come this..
Thank you for listening and your advice..