Describe a situation or event in which you learned something from your mistakes & learned something about yourself.

1- That can NOT date outside of my own religion. Sooner or later it becomes an issue. * Especially when I was younger & wanted to have children* And now lifestyle comes in into. That religion/ Faith is or can be a core essence of people. And I'm one of them.

That good qualites like being loving, thoughtful, generous.. etc. Can be misinterpreted by foolish, or evil people. And they will try to take advantage of you or try to treat you like a door matt. Enough is enough. No, has become my favorite word.

That there really can be " Too much of a good thing ".

This is for me..I'm still in denial on this one, but trying to snap out of it.

I've learned not to date men who say they like more conservative and less liberal women...it means they don't believe in equality between men and women/ are abusive towards real women.

I learned - late! - that psycho therapy (and nope, that is NOT one word in this instance) is a really poor basis for a satisfying and productive relationship.

On the other hand, there's a never-ending supply of whackos and they're awfully entertaining in the short term.

I learned back in early 2000's how easy it is to loose your self respect and esteem. I allowed someone to take that from me.. Never again. I got out of that abusive relationship.
Moved from the mainland to Sitka stayed there 10 years while I healed. In healing I found that where there is strength there is weakness, where there is compassion there is ice.
In a ten year long journey I have found I am okay and so is everyone else. They walk to their drumbeat I don't have to agree or walk with them.
Each to their own...

When my daughter was 10 months old she caught a virus. She was in the local children's hospital and she almost died, if it wasn't for the love and care of the nurses and doctors she would have been gone.
I remember asking the Consultant if she would be ok and I remember his reply almost word for word ' the next 48 hours is critical'
Here was my beautiful Daughter in a critical condition and I had to rely on someone else to help her, makes you feel useless.
My daughter recovered and is now a healthy, happy and sometimes cheeky 15 year old.

I had never forgotten how the hospital had helped her so 3 years ago I donated some money through my company to the hospital.

I found out a few weeks later that some so called friends, more like acquaintances, had been calling me a flash ba***d for helping the hospital.
I've forgiven them now because they didn't know the story behind it but I'm now more careful with the word 'friend'.

I ran into a very similar situation.
When my daughter was an infant & in one the best Children's hospitals in the world. I was, & still am do grateful to the hospital, the staff & especially the nurses for all their care & what they taught me to keep her alive after her discharge.
I wanted do badly to do something for those nurses. And most of my family & friends said " They are just doing their job " ... But, that is not what I saw. I saw ' Above & beyond the call of duty '

Lesson learned - If you appreciate people & want to do something to show it. Don't talk about. Just do it.

Meanwhile, back in this universe ...

I have what it takes to stop a diesel driver in his tracks.....but that does not always combine well with grace under pressure

<<<<<raises his hand
II'm a diesel driver.

Dating Spanish woman and getting seriously involved with her, 1000 miles from her Home&Family&Friends.
could not speak our language, could not stand our weather, and i had no "friends&family" she could connect to.

never again date a woman whom you can not [never ever under no circumstances] give everything she needs to physically and mentally survive(at the very least).
she will end up miserable despite my best efforts, and you have to let her go back to the place she was happier.
and that will be quite... painful


dated cute mother of girl
suddenly she was pregnant ...again...
math says it must have been while i was away for 7 weeks
questioning reveals she had been "lonely"

never again get seriously involved with a woman who has in the past been unfaithful. That was dumb. That was really dumb.

met pregnant chick about to get tossed to the curb by her weird Boyfriend
offered shelter for months
weird Boyfriend comes over while i am not there
she opens
he goes berserk in my apartment.
never againplay captain-save-a-ho! that was reeeeally expensive. What a dum sonofagun i was.

Late one night about 12 years ago, I got home after a long day of harvesting.
My brother's number was on my phone's call display. This was before I had cell service, had only landline.
He had called not long before I had gotten in. I called him, but no answer.
I had a gut feeling something was not right. But I was tired and had to be up early again next day.
So I went to sleep. The next days were busy, so I forgot about it.
4 days later, his body was found. He had killed himself. Time of death was estimated to be about the time I tried calling him.
I don't ignore my gut feelings any more.

If I could take away the pain and regret you have, I would. My sincerest sympathy, Panch.

That must really hurt..

During an examination, I helped one of my classmates solve a problem in 'Algebra' (in the very Examination Hall itself). All of a sudden, the 'invigilator' chanced to find "me cheating". Evidently, I was penalized - the punishment being: "My answer script was 'taken' (if not 'snatched') away, with an 'appropriate' note & I was asked to 'leave the Hall with immediate effect'. 'That' fellow remained silent and carried on writing, feigning his innocence & lack of involvement in the 'crime' in any manner, whatsoever. The invigilator hadn't 'seen' him cheating; so I was the 'sole' soul to be penalized 'that' day. Something deep within, refrained me from accusing 'him' publicly that day. It wasn't 'nobility' 'cause I've been 'seldom' noble in my life & that day wasn't an exception. Upon each of those 'miserably fleeting' moments I tried, I simply couldn't voice my opinion that it wasn't 'me' (but 'him') who was the actual culprit.

My Mistake: Having helped someone 'illegally'

What I Learned From My Mistake: Not to 'repeat' the same mistake in future. I also realized that it's 'good' to be SIMPLE but 'bad' to be SIMPLETON.

What I learnt About Myself: I had been under the overtly gross misconception (hitherto that incident) that I was 'simple', while, in reality, it was proved that I was basically a 'simpleton'!


I don't remember exactly who said "It's not so difficult to die for a friend, BUT, to find a friend, worth dying for!" - Whoever said so, was cent percent justified - A respectable 'philosopher' in veracity, I'd say!

I am so sorry for you and your loss...
Keep listening to that your gut of yours...