Moe...if it were really love, there wouldn't be any cheating or room for thoughts about a third wheel...that's not love. That's not respect. That's not loyalty. That's not cherishing. That's not attentiveness...blah, blah, blah.

i never read anything about cheating... the rest just says my point... just give up and run, they aren't worth it... if no one is ever worth it, then your going to be single for a while... good luck with that

people always fall out of love, it happens... if you love them, then you have to find a way to make it right, not just jump ship

Cheating....."fallen in love with someone else."

That is emotional cheating at the very least.

call it what you want, i'm just saying some people might just be worth showing that you do want them, regardless... most aren't, but some are...

Should always fight for a relationship if it is worth it, before it comes to cheating on your love. Love is work. Not all roses.

it's hard work, sometimes it's not worth letting that hard work go to waste... but to each their own, i'm just voicing my opinion...

I have to agree with Moe here...
It's oh so easy to say you'd end the relationship on the spot, but when push comes to shove, in real life in such a situation, or similar, hardly anyone would actually pull the plug on a relationship just like that.
If not to give it a second chance, then because almost everyone fears being alone, leaving a comfortable nest, having to start again, financial hardship etc etc etc.

For me there's not enough context to say what I'd do. I do know I don't give up on a relationship just like that.
If something like this occurs within the first 5 months, I'd prolly say adios too. But if you'd been together for a number of years, totally different ballgame.

The fact that it's about a same sex 3rd person makes it even more tricky. More understandable. If someone is bisexual, you can never ever give them what they are missing. Doesn't mean you could or should live with that, but makes it more understandable in a way.

They are in a relationship already.
In my world, a relationship is a two way, constant stream that represents communication and effort.

Therefor these two communicate that they want each other. he already DOES show that he wants her. else she would have left him entirely.

But she also tells him that he is not enough, she also wants a female.

One question might be:
How can he provide what he does as a man, and also provide what that other female does?
--> if he finds a solution to that, they can keep their relation monogamous.
--> if he does not, he has to accept her looking elsewhere to find things he can not supply.
--> if she indeed keeps looking elswhere, he must ask himself if his rel�ationship is still on the positive side or has more negative effects.

...in which case it is "run"


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Relationships are for me, always governed by reason - the goal is to have something positive.
If i see my significant other suffer because i can not give what she needs[not today, not tomorrow, not in ten years], i will untie her from this situation (and untie me as well in the process), or even help putting her in a better position to find happyness.

Running is not easy. letting go is hard. Loving is letting go...
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thank you all for your input .
I do know what im going to do/doing , so did not post to ask for guidance.
partner was never bi .. but we tried a threesome & things turned for better/worse(still working it out in my mind )
my partner see her everyday , for the past 5 months & yes I was angry at the start , then bitter , disappointed , sad .. all the feelings you wouldn't wish on your enemy..
but I have got through it & now am stronger than ever & hope this may help anyone else going through the same thing ..
I still love her & wish to see her happy (honestly).. but this has certainly changed my views on a lot of things .. especially LOVE !!
I do not run away from anything & have tried to tell my partner that they would be better off going away together but she wants to stay ..
ps .. yes I have thought long & hard bout seeing someone else .. but ..

how about seeing yourself. (i missed a "to" somewhere in there... :) )

Na na na na, na na na na, hey hey hey, goooooood byeeeee!

what half exactly ? upper or lower ? left or right ? i might get over and go on with my life if it was my upper half , but losing the lower half to someone else ? that's disastrous