i had a run in with my ex fiance a bit ago. she told me how it was my fault we fell apart. i wanna know what i did to her that made her cheat on me 6 times at least that i know of. or that made her become a coke and pill head. i guess it was me working to put food in her, or how i paid for everything she had. or maybe it was cause i didnt cheat on her. why is it alot of cheaters, women and men, always have to blame the one that treats them right?

I hear ya thumper!!!!

people always have to find a scape goat.

You need to not let that make you question everything that you know to be true.. The moment you doubt yourself she has you where she wants you. You shouldn't give her the satisfaction.

Blaaaaat Prances across bridge to get to the greener pastuures (No Way one gal person Just, WHERE in the HECK is that ONE?)

well ummm if she's a coke and pill head, that kind of says it right there my friend

They have to blame someone...people with addictions can not blame themselves. I have never known anyone that will admit its their fault or even say yes I did cheat. Then they question you about why did it end, not being able to take any kind of responcibility at all.
The best thing you can do is not doubt yourself or question the decision you made. You had to break it off because of the addiction and the cheating. What kind of life would have you had? Never look back and wonder if you could have changed her, you have to move forward and know that you did the right thing. She has no right to blame you for anything and thats what you need to say to her...don't be nice to her, be honest!

Thumper the best thing you can do for yourself is to not let her push your buttons. I know that is hard I am still working on it with my ex, but the more you can let what she says roll off of you the better you will feel. Hang in there.

Anyone seen scapegoats ananomus around here?

I hear there maybe a local chapter somewhere but Have yet to find it/

Thumper, just keep being the kind person you are, and don't let her get to you! Some people just need someone to blame because they can't believe they could ever have messed anything up themselves!!

omg stever

i can honestly say i know how you feel steve

yes Thumper you are crazy!! what are you doing even having a discussion with your ex, let alone one like this????

Man, get over her already!

this is part of the reason i have not had a real girlfriend or relationship in almost a year,, i cant take this sh1t anymore

Forget her honey.. She's not worth your time.. No one like that is.. And everyone is right.. You can't change people.. People have to want to change themselves.

my heart cant take something like this anymore, its been hurt too many times

my husband's cheated on me and always tries to make it out like it's been my fault. ill tell you what someone told me. it's not your fault. once they've decided that is what they're going to do it's totally on them. you don't have the power to force them to do it. you didnt tell them to do it. you didn't do anything wrong.

If you wanna talk ill listen.. Call me.. ::hugs for steve:: not everyone will treat you that way..

She’s a mess now and it will get worse. That’s her doing she will have to fix that herself and it’s not your problem. Don't make yourself available for her crap just because you care. She had her chance with you now she blew it!

You really need to man up mate... after putting up for a woman that cheats on you 6x.

You go find yourself a sheila that will love and appreciate you!