i was trying to be a good man, but see what it got me?

thumper. I hate to say this and I got to look at myself as I do because it happen to me a couple time. It' has nothing to do with whethere you were good man or not. this would of haapened eithere way. The thing I'm getting to is. I new the times it happen to me that the person I was with was not right for me after being with them for a little bit. I saw the red flags but didn't want to pay attention to them. So I look at it this way. it was my falt and that is because I stayed and allowed them to be able to do what they did. being older and see how I see things today. I use to say if I new what I know today back then. things like that would have been different. I don't have the answers to wayt some of the things happen in life but what I do know is everything I gone through has brought me up to this point. Now what I chose to do with it is another story.

Trying to make sense of the past can drive one nuts. Move on and forward is good advice. I hope you make a lot of friends.

It is like this loop of insanity. She isn't there to defend herself so half of your mind goes into devil's advocate mode. But then you want to defend yourself so one half of your mind goes into defense mode. It becomes like this war in your mind. The only way to break out of it is to free yourself of the loop by just moving on. James 1:8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. That works for me your mileage may vary.

my dad was the same way thumper my mom did everything for that man but he'd cheat on her over and over but its not your fault she just wants to play the victim poor me blah blah blah my dad does that too shes got issues shes obviously not mature enough to take responsibility for her own actions and i hope you don't believe its your fault because its not

6 times ? Once would of done it for me ! To answer your question, in my opinion, her behavior, including the denile as to who's fault it was, is all the result of the drug usage. I would give her all het things, and send her on her way. I bet you've caught her in many lie's in the past as well.

Time to put your big boy pants on and stop letting a little girl rule your Life!!

Don't buy into her crap. Your a better person than that.
She is trying to pass her guilt on to you.
Can't face the truth.

got me thumper I guess the more gooder you were the more badder she had to be so thats how its youe fault

Thumper: people never like to admit their mistakes or failures. It's easier to blame someone else. Don't you let her or anyone else do that to you; you're too nice a guy.

Thumper, I have an idea... How about we introduce our ex's, they'd be perfect for each other. The are both cheaters, and for a while, my ex was dealin coke... Maybe they'd forget about us then.

I know how you feel, I'm going through the same.