Sometimes it feels like I'm overflowing with love. How do I express the depth of my emotions to somebody without scaring the **** out of them? When I set eyes on someone, I get tunnel vision and can't focus on anything else. For some people, this is too intense and as for me, I end up emotionally destroyed/numb when I put it all out and it gets discarded. How do I strike that balance between intelligent caution and foolhardy lovesickness? I want to be in love again without fear or anxiety of the end coming. I want happiness. Do I just need to find somebody who's INTO being spoiled? Is it a matter of preference, or a universal rule that I'm breaking? Clue me in ladies (or well-informed guys)...I'm tired of keeping everything locked up inside, but so scared to push anybody away. I appreciate any advice!

Dude... wish I could help ya, but I pretty much do the same thing. Add my brutal honesty to the mix and guys run...

Someone actually broke up with me once saying I cared too much.
Is that even possible?

Oh, well... good luck. And if ya find out the trick, please, share it with me.

-J

Control yourself boy!!!

I've heard of it happening...For me, this problem only occurs in the preliminary dating phase. I try to play it cool but at the same time I try to show complete interest, and it just seems that nothing is having much of an effect! I'm "glad" to see someone else feels me on this, although "glad" is quite an ironic word given the circumstances :)

Well, at least somebody out there understands, right?

i think you need to find someone who is into being spoiled and can take that
it is a matter of preference
some women like that and some need a lot of space, just like guys

Well Jenn, If you were my g/f and you cared too much I'd tie ya down. Wait...is that illegal? No just kidding, hun you are adorable and it was his loss not yours.

i think you need to find someone whose emotional need
matches yours at this point in your adventure.

have been pretty intense - have found matches - was, well
as some say, holy sh1t batman!!

Don’t worry, at your age group, you are growing up and what you are experiencing, it is part of learning what your body is naturally putting out. Though, I must add, try and control your emotions so it don’t control you in the long run.

Have you tried writing poetry? That is a good form of relieving emotions of such. Heaps of poetry sites about that you can submit your work and meet people that are experiencing the same as you. You get to add another skill to your personal repertoire.

For me I love attention and sometimes felt as though i would never meet anyone who felt the way i do.. but i guess i was wrong, good to know men like that are in the world. i always assumed men did not want to be that close.

im in agreement with joy here.. find someone who needs to be spoiled, and fixate your attention.... she will love it... i kno i miss it... i loved being spoiled.. someone just being there.. dedicated to me... not in a creap way.. just love... ok now i kno the tylenol cold pm is kickin in.. goin to bed!!!!
nite...

and i wish you luck in your search...
she is out there.. just hard to find..

When you come on to strong like that, it creeps intelligent women out. They don't see that kind of affection as anything real. Just try toning it down, and save the passion for later. The only women that will respond positivly to that, are woman you wouldn't respect later on anyway.

in responce to freeonthree... thats not entirely true. i am a successful single mom with a great job, i have respectr for myself, and for any man im with. and i love to be loved... i enjoy having someone focus on me.. if you do not respect me for that, im sorry, but i am an intelligent, successful woman, who enjoys that kind of affection.

i'd give my left hand to have a man dote on me like that.

me too heather.. me too...


btw its good to see you around again..

thnk u, things have been......wierd. so i kinda laid low for a while

i hear ya..

I have found that when your all in & your cards are on the table you get used....... If you hold an ace in the hole she says you don't care...... You can't win, best you can hope for is a few good hands to keep you in the game...... Good Luck pardner......

I have found that when your all in & your cards are on the table you get used....... If you hold an ace in the hole she says you don't care...... You can't win, best you can hope for is a few good hands to keep you in the game...... Good Luck pardner......

I agree with dcrdnk. No matter what you do you can't win.
You can do the exact same thing on one day it is right. The next day it is wrong. You will surely go crazy if you try to figure women out. I am writing this from my padded room.