Spanking? I got something much better for you. *cracks whip*

what is the "in" thing for parenting tends to go in cycles

very strict and on a regime was big in 1940's
then along came Spock in the fifties

and it's flipped back and forth ( at least in the US) ever since

some believe there is nothing wrong with a swat on behind once in awhile
some believe its a form of child abuse to do this in any form


often heated/debated topic



my answer? whatever parenting techniques you decide to use are between you and your husband or SO and has a lot to do with the temperament of your child and what works

When I was kid. I do not children but I can speak from experiences. I wasn't rise by my parent because they were young when they had me. I got slapped one time by my grandmother.

It was over something I want to do with school but she would not let me and I was asking if I could do that. It was after school activity but it was no no to her she did not want to take field trip which I wish I could taken that is in band to Greece. But anyway I got to where I would last year I would not tell her a thing or I make up lie that is requirement for my school. I just want to a join a club or after school thing.

Because when I told her thing I want to a do this or that she would go to you don't to be liked your mother now. I got so tired of it and she said I would sleep around. But the truth is I really did want join after school club.But later on when my mother got in mix and was ready to the mother the look work for her she did not have to spank us. But when she said no do not or that the look work.

I am sorry for your experience, it seems like you lived in an IMBALANCED environment,, and slapping is uncalled for. The face isnt a place to endure physical force

the behind on the other hand,, notice how babies fall on theirs quite a bit?,,lol,, well padded for a reason,,,

I am a firm believer in spanking but only as a last resort when other warnings and speaking to has not gotten through and a spanking is in order to clear the air.

Well, if I were your kids I wouldn't worry about it to much as you seem to catch things 8 months after they happen.. like this tread

Yes you are a very bad dog.

Years ago I was hosting a conference for parents of disabled children and we invited who was then supposedly and expert on parenting and wrote the book on "time out" type discipline. We were excited and when we invited the family with the youngest of five in tow we expected a real demonstration of the concept. Sounded plausible.

What we saw was definitely a demonstration of a failed concept.

The child knew exactly how badly he could misbehave in any given situation and was so obnoxious and out of control we could not enjoy their presence during the presentation or any of the other events; particularly having him in the restaurant, banquet, or pool areas around fragile children. He ran everywhere, screamed constantly, and the mother had this broken look like she should be given sympathy.

Sure gave no credence to the theory. The family was actually asked by the hotel to vacate he was so completely out of control. Fortunately he had not completely trashed the room like he had the parents car but I left grateful that I did not offer to drive them either way to the conference.

My elementary age children however were in many of the classes and little ambassadors the entire conference. They were not bride or threatened about their behavior but they clearly knew what this little boy needed. And actually my disabled child told the Mother "He would stop that if you stopped wrestling with him and smack his backside." And every parent in there agreed.

Even children with profound illness and disability need to learn limits and it certainly is before they are in school and certainly before they get their heads cracked in a police riot or a prison.

My question on this subject is this...

"If you are raised in the wilderness how do you learn NOT to repeat something?"

you touch a thorn...what happens? You feel pain, you don't want to do it again..
it hurts....you learn NOT to touch thorns.

you put your hand in a fire...
it hurts...you feel pain....you don't want to do it again..it hurts...you learn NOT to touch fire...

pain is the body's ONLY mechanism for learning NOT to do something...

You cuss at your mom, she smacks you on the bottom....you encounter pain..it hurts...you don't want to do it again...it hurts....you learn NOT to cuss at your mom...

My mom is one of 13 kids, I have 300 cousins...when I'm around their kids I can pick with 99% accuracy which ones were spanked and which ones weren't....

Growing up 1 of 8 kids it was my mother who dealt out the discipline. My father just had to say " if I have to come in there!!" and that was enough to stop whatever shenanigans were going on. He never had to actually hit us. 95% of the time not even come in the room.

But my Mom.. she would lay into you with no uncertain terms. corporal punishment.. And fact is.. we ( especially the boys) deserved it. We were always getting into mischief and trouble. Many times the only thing that stopped us from doing something was that thought of Ma finding out.

One of her best lines was if she found out you actually did not do what you took a beating for ( which was rare), she would say " well, you did something I didn't find out about".. which was true.

We all turned out just fine. Love that Gal :)

most of the children before 21th century were disciplined by "spanking". and not all of them are harmed. Parents are just trying to discipline them and control them. I cannot see anything wrong about hitting the butt of the kids by a belt or a wooden stick. That kind of Spanking i think is tolerable. However, some parents do more than hitting the child's butt. Hitting the child on its head is not a tolerable spank. Everyone of us know that it can bring a damage in the child. Some of parents do that, believe me. hitting a child several times in one period is kind of abusive. For me, Spanking a child is not a violence if you do not exert too much harm into the child. just one Spank then enough. Children will learn their lesson. No more spanking. No hitting in the heads. No hitting in several body parts.
About the Verbal Discipline. I believe that it can cause more damage to the child. Why? child is considered as Tabula Rasa ( empty Sheet ). Children are like a sponge, They are absorbing everything the parents tell them. How can a child grow up to be a good man if its parent keeps on telling him that he is a no good child? The child will absorbed everything we say to them. Sometimes, Children considered what we said about them, as their guide in growing.

There's a fine line between dicipline and abuse. I've always found that if you keep it at home away from prying eyes, then the term "Just wait until we get home" makes them think when out in public. I don't mean beat your kids blue ,but hard enough to let them know that you're not screwing around.

.. when I just saw this !^I knew it had to be me ,who said it first..lmao..

"Spanking as Discipline"

Spanking as a discipline is a requirement at Castle Anthrax whenever someone lights its grail-shaped beacon.