Ok.. this is going to be a bit touchy..
and requires a bit of tact..
.. so you go on a meet and greet..
... and there... not quite what you were expecting.... may be shorter than they said.... may be heavier than
they let on....
. may be losing more hair then.... you noticed from their pictures..
.... but whatever the reason..
. how do you bow out gracefully without hurting....
.. their feelings....
. you get along online with them.
... they sound almost perfect..

.. then you go on the meet and greet..
... and as soon as you see them you think...noooo..... not going to happen..
... now do you stay for a little bit and chit chat...

.. do you just pretend... not to see them and leave...
... do you make up some other excuse rather than the obvious...

.... are do you just be brutally honest with them....?..

..... and if the shoe was on the other foot what would you want them to do....





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I tend to meet as friends and make that clear, then if something comes out of it, great. If not then I made a new friend

yes but what happens when your new friend pushes the issue..
. says its because I'm going bald right..
....lol..

.. and you didn't really answer the question.... you are skirting around it..lol.... I mean this person physically isn't what you're looking for but you make friends with them...
. you're going to end up with a lot of friends.lol

since I don't go as anything but friends doesn't matter how they look to me lol.

I would be honest but polite & say...
" It has been so nice to finally meet you. I have enjoyed our conversations. But I don't think we are a match. Take care, hope you find what you are looking for"


Unless the alarms are going off in your head
Then it's slip out the back Jack

Ok.... but I'm not talking about going to meet friends... make a new pal..lol..
... let me go back up and read the topic again..lol... I know I need glasses but seriously.lmao... that's ok rose I've been getting this all day..lol

Don't you already know what they look like before you meet them?

.. thank you...

.. so do you point out the obvious to them..
.. like perhaps they're overweight but they portray themselves as fit..
...... this is an issue I have problems with..lol..

Video chat will help..

Yes....unless it turns out to be E.T

..yes and no.. you know how people can deceive you just a little bit on the Internet.....lol... like you show up and they have.... a really bad fashion sense..... perhaps they have hair growing off their knuckles...lol...
...... maybe a big giant mole growing of the side of their neck....
.....

ok ok I will play along. If they aren't what they said, then to me they lied and I really don't respect that so it wouldn't work for me from the word go. I would probably say something and ask why didn't they just be honest since they knew we would meet

No, I wouldn't state the exact reason. Or say they were deceptive.. Etc.

And honestly I don't think you owe someone you just meet that.
It's not a committed relationship.

If they question why?
I would just say " Sorry, i'm not feeling it'

I would take a deep breath, look them square in the eye,
and say "eeeeewwwwwwwwww".

No..I wouldn't.
Have the meet and greet because that person could possibly be the most
enjoyable person you've ever met.
If not..well....eeeeewwwwwww.

Yes.. thank you for playing..lol..
.. I run across this a lot..
.. they say they are somewhat fit..
. maybe just a couple extra pounds.. overweight.... and I might add I always say.... if we're not a match we just say so no hard feelings..ok..
..... but then I show up and they are..
....wow... a few pounds overweight..
Noooo.... a few is two or three..
.. 40 or 80 that's a whole nother person..lol.... but I never want to really.... make that the reason...
..... so I just sleep with them...
.. anyways.... I figure what the hell I'm here anyways...lol.jk..

so if a guy says I don't think it's going to be a match.. I'm just not feeling it..
.. you're okay with this..?

Yes.
Very o.k.

if it's something borderline (could be a matter of perception then I would finish the date (if we got along) then just said thank you. If it's a blatant lie, then that's a different story

.. the thing is women are used to being the ones doing the rejection..

..... men are used to being rejected..lol..
. but when a man has to reject a woman.. very touchy..lol