Well, My divorce should be final in Dec. It only took 2.5 years to get it finished LOL~. It is bizare as I am happy and sad about it. I am not the type of person who sits on the pity pot, I move on but it was still a large part of my life, time to get going and enjoy a new me!!!

take time to grieve then...
move on...
that's what I did

congrats..have fun and let down yur hair

What's there to grieve about?? Rejoice and get on with things!!!

I know the feeling! Best wishes,learning to live for yourself can be so much fun!

Oh I have let my hair down a few time lol, I have moved on and I wouldnt of changed anything, but sometimes it is just sad it didnt work out, as I was married 11 years.
I have dated some, and I am much more cautious on the men I date, I am just looking for a down to earth person who has values, like most of us want.
I didnt date for the 1st year as I think rebound relationships dont make it!

use the time & freedom for self reflection...

I know how you feel. Move forward and don't look back. Good luck.

shagna...

Take the 'grieving time' and put it to more positive things. You could grieve all your life, don't go there. Now go live!!

I too know how you are feeling Shagna...I was married for 20 yrs. Divorce is like a death in many ways.

2.5 years?
Shoot mine was no contest and he can keep everything, just pay the bleeping child support and be gone!

That is a tramatic experience dragging it out so long!

Mine Went Final 2 weeks Ago....did not get ehat I wanted but I got rid of her so I guess it is a wash......

Don't grieve.. just understand the lessons that were to be learned and move on. Focus on the positive.. not the negatives. It is hard at first to be alone again.. but ..think about all the cute guys you are going to meet. This is a new beginning. Time to start over. Leave the past where it belongs.. in the past.

Enjoy this time getting know what you want. .if you ever want to do it again.
Take care

VEE

I would say I am done grieving. I took a year to reflect then started dating!

True it is like A Death Though in this case ........it was Assisted Suicide lolz..........Im sorry it took so long for you..... Hopefully the rest of your new life goes MUCH better....

I was marrie 22 yrs before it all went south. And you are right, there is a lot pain there to get over, especially when there are children involved. I don't have to pay child support, but I do so miss my daughters. I see them now and again, but its not the same as when I come home from work and be greeted at the door by them. Now, I come to a place that is empty, quiet, no hugs and kisses at the door, and lonliness. But I try to deal and move on knowing some day there might be someone out there that can take the pain away, but I'm in no big hurry again for love, just the dating scene right now and getting on with my life.

that is normal
no matter how you look at it--it is still a loss
and you go through those steps
feelings of failure, grief, etc

Stay strong and good luck to you

true words nurjoyce...

it is a loss like death and you do grieve