can you have a relationship..
... that is just being in a relationship would that be enough.?..
.. could you be in a relationship with somebody.. and not really love them but truly truly like them...?
. perhaps intellectually your equal.
... maybe they just make you laugh.
... or perhaps turn you on physically..
.... but you're not really in love with them.... is love... so important.
... do you need it to truly be happy in a relationship...? or can you be content.
. with just really really liking someone..hmm..

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Ohh..teenage drama...
been there..done that..totally boring. .

op... love is Important to me ... and have friends I may love but not that same kind of love... the kind you want to feel secure with someone you love and trust an can't stop thinking about them or being with out them ... their are not really any of my friends I want to sleep with ... and of course can share interest with but nothing else really ... I am going to take a way here ... there are many levels of love you can have for someone ... which would be what two may feel for one another ... depends on what your looking for ...

this describes many, many marriages ... They were in love but now have a connection with each other on other levels.

I think it is called .... comfortable

yes and I suppose that's the point..
once you have been in and out of a few relationship.. you begin to realize that love is not the most important thing.... sure it's nice... to have everything that love brings with it..
.... but comfortable there's something to be said about comfortable.... love .. is soo.. up and down.... in and out.. here and there..
love is a short distance runner..

. but comfortable comfortable is a .. long distance runner..a steady flatline.... that will always outpass .. love... in the long run..

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'but comfortable comfortable is a .. long distance runner..a steady flatline.... that will always outpass .. love... in the long run.. '

yeah you can 'love' a lot of things about a person and how you spend time with that person and not REALLY be melting hot in love.

Isn't everything a deal you make with yourself?

I think boredom would take over eventually and the 'flatline' would soon mean death for me

isn't it when you love that person everything with him or her feels so comfortable?? Just like how I love my comforter. ..hmmm..so comfy. ..

no not exactly at least I don't think so..
I don't think just because you love somebody that makes it comfortable..
... I believe love is what allows you to overlook their faults.... it is the cement perhaps that holds a relationship together...
... but I think other emotions are just as good a binder as .. cement..
... respect is a big one..
... admiration for the other person..
..... desire perhaps even lust..
. all .. just as good as love I suppose..

Respect+admiration+desire=love....pretty much.....
Comfortable really isn't gonna cut it long term....it leads to taking each other for granted..

Hmm.. a lot of relationships have love in them... but lack the other components the other emotions..
and they crashed upon the rocks..
... so perhaps love isn't the strongest.
. emotion there is.... perhaps you need something stronger....

lust with someone you don't love is really yuckyy...I can feel his saliva stick on my skin..gross..!!!

so you're saying just because you love somebody... that somehow makes lusting for them better..
Hmm.. I would have thought just because you love them...
..... that somehow your love would override your lust...
... because after all lusting is such a bad thing...... that is unless you mix it with a bit of love right...?

lol...making love with a lot of lust is really fun...

Sounds like a pretty good recipe no1. Finally, I see some hope for you.

My opinion.
Love is overrated. But the love one has for children, parents and friends will surpass any kind of romantic love. The puppy love passes. After the puppy love there's partnership love. But getting to your question; Relationship without love?..yes. Romantic relationship without love?..not so much. I guess in the end love is a mental contract and understanding between two people and where ever it leads to, is between the people at hand. You don't need romantic love to be happy, the important thing is to have self love. My motto; go with the flow and do what makes you happy at that moment.

Where I'm at right now in life...and everything I have been through and going through..you learn to see things differently in life..the simple things in life, if you will...
I say (((((content)))))) is a O.K.

Love is a battlefield.

No promises, no demands

You gotta be kidding me? Tell me you are?!?!
If you can be okay with being comfortable, then why not go for it? I for one never would or could. If I could be happy with that, I wouldn't have divorced my husband 15-16 yrs ago. That was comfortable, but like being in your comfort-zone (which is what it is), nothing happens. There's no buzz, no thrill, it's all just that flat line you mentioned. All the buzz, the true excitement happen outside your CZ. That's where the fun and action is to be found in life!
In a comfortable relationship you basically know it will last forever. Which is what we all want, but do you want to be bored till death do you part? Being in a love relationship means you have to accept it can end. Love can just fade. Deal with it, I say! The peaks of joy love can bring you, priceless! Think of the difference being intimate with someone you care about or with someone you actually love! You really wanna be dreaming of another woman during sex for the rest of your life? Ouch, that was below the belt, I know. I seem to be in that mood today, lol.
There, there... all better now
Anyways, I'd never settle for less myself.