Why is it so hard to meet a nice girlfriend.. After being single for quite a while its starting to get discouraging..I don't drink anymore or go to bars...that basically leaves dating sites...which don't work for me..what am I doing wrong? I'm 26 , got my own place , good job , vehicle , no kids, ....
I feel ya man, im pretty much in the same boat. i find it hard to meet girls outside of bars, someone mentioned Walmart haha. im sure you can meet people in places other than bars but its tough to break the ice it seems when you meet someone in say a Walmart. ok so your in Walmart and see a girl you may be interested in, what the hell are you supposed to say? "hey, come here often?". i think one problem is that i see a good looking girl i automatically think theres no way she can be single, so i don't even bother. it doesn't seem like this site is helping much either as all the profiles that come up are people that haven't logged into their account for 2 years. if it wasn't for the forums i probably would have deleted my account already, but i like to have discussions/debates, so i stay. but like i said i click on search and its brings up like 3,000 profiles and only the first couple profiles on the very first page are people who actually still use the site, so out of 3,000 girls only 5 of them are actually available to talk to so its kind of pointless. its frustrating because connecting with girls used to be so easy for me, and i don't consider myself to be anything special but somehow i always had girlfriends that were super good looking and had a personality to match. i used to always be super confident and never afraid to approach a girl, i think that's why i always ended up getting them. i think girls really like a confident guy. one girl who i really feel to this day was the only true love i ever came across was in love with me, but i didn't want a relationship at the time so i kept putting her to the side, when i finally did want to be with her, she shut me down and said i waited too long. that was the first time in my life i ever felt the pain of rejection and ever since then i just don't have the same level of confidence i used to have. i often wonder how different my life would be today if i would have just got with her when i had the chance, i was in love with her at the same time she was in love with me but like i said i just didn't want a relationship, i figured she would always be around, turns out i was wrong. not long ago i ran into her in a store and she was with another guy and had a little kid with them, it broke my heart to a million pieces. after being single for a while its hard to try to get back to the way i used to be. all i can say is keep your head up man, try to be confident.