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Topic: Opposites or similar???
Amelinng's photo
Sat 01/31/15 06:34 PM
Some say opposites attract, but some say you need to connect with someone with similar traits!

You think it is not going to work..... it could be the distance, your differing beliefs, outlook, views, likes & dislikes... but you may click!

He is looking for a different kind of relationship, but you are not into that! Would you continue connecting, and give it a chance to develop? Or would you cut it short?


kc0003's photo
Sat 01/31/15 06:50 PM
wanting a different kind of relationship doesn't seem to me to be the same as opposites attracting.


no photo
Sat 01/31/15 08:13 PM

It depends on how much of oneself each person is willing to give. Either way, shut the door or keep a window open, keep moving forward without regret.
But as you said , if you're "not into that" kind of different that the other party is looking for, then that answers the question :wink:

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Sat 01/31/15 08:28 PM
wouldn't worry about it. things usually work themselves out..or notflowerforyou :heart:

no1phD's photo
Sat 01/31/15 08:31 PM
.. sure I'm up for anything..
Hmm.. ok not quite anything..
like for instance.. once the rubber gloves come out.....hmm..
what the hell!!. in for a penny, in for a pound right..laugh :angel:

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Sat 01/31/15 08:34 PM

.. sure I'm up for anything..
Hmm.. ok not quite anything..
like for instance.. once the rubber gloves come out.....hmm..
what the hell!!. in for a penny, in for a pound right..laugh :angel:


who knows where it will take you.....

justme659's photo
Sat 01/31/15 08:39 PM
Well at my decrepit age, I think that I would want someone that has the same goals, same energy levels, same hard working ethic. Yet, I am also looking for someone that has different interests and different life experiences.
So, same and different at the same time.

no photo
Sat 01/31/15 08:58 PM
Edited by iammavis29 on Sat 01/31/15 09:17 PM
There is no harm in trying. Things will eventually work its way out(or not). For sure you don't want to have regrets later on in your life for not giving it a chance.

jacktrades's photo
Sun 02/01/15 12:23 AM
Every relationship has its obstacles. I look at it like, is there a connection that is worth the sacrifice or am I wasting my time.If we click I will try to make it work.

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 06:59 AM

wanting a different kind of relationship doesn't seem to me to be the same as opposites attracting.




KC.....when I say opposites attract, I mean like you may be an optimist and he a pessimist or vice versa, or you may be someone who likes to laugh but he is serious. And then there are all those little nitty gritty things that add up to making things enjoyable that attracts you, and clicking is something that just happens.

But then....you may just want to be friends, while the other person wants something more, or one of you could be looking for commitment, but the other is not.

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:03 AM


It depends on how much of oneself each person is willing to give. Either way, shut the door or keep a window open, keep moving forward without regret.
But as you said , if you're "not into that" kind of different that the other party is looking for, then that answers the question :wink:


Still leaving the door open but with the safety chain on...laugh laugh laugh

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:06 AM

.. sure I'm up for anything..
Hmm.. ok not quite anything..
like for instance.. once the rubber gloves come out.....hmm..
what the hell!!. in for a penny, in for a pound right..laugh :angel:



Wait till the day you are faced with something that you are not quite up for.....slaphead slaphead slaphead

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Sun 02/01/15 07:10 AM
Edited by Pansytilly on Sun 02/01/15 07:14 AM



It depends on how much of oneself each person is willing to give. Either way, shut the door or keep a window open, keep moving forward without regret.
But as you said , if you're "not into that" kind of different that the other party is looking for, then that answers the question :wink:


Still leaving the door open but with the safety chain on...laugh laugh laugh


Make sure the alarm is turned on and the batteries are fresh too :laughing: the "different kind of thing" might be a bit too different for comfort... Hehe

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:12 AM

wouldn't worry about it. things usually work themselves out..or notflowerforyou heart



There is no harm in trying. Things will eventually work its way out(or not). For sure you don't want to have regrets later on in your life for not giving it a chance.


LOL......so it will work itself out (or not)????:tongue:

That's what I mean by giving something a chance....so, that no regrets later.

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:14 AM




It depends on how much of oneself each person is willing to give. Either way, shut the door or keep a window open, keep moving forward without regret.
But as you said , if you're "not into that" kind of different that the other party is looking for, then that answers the question :wink:


Still leaving the door open but with the safety chain on...laugh laugh laugh


Make sure the alarm is turned on and the batteries are fresh too :laughing:


Hahahaha.....let's see if the chain remains or not! :tongue: :tongue:

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:18 AM

Well at my decrepit age, I think that I would want someone that has the same goals, same energy levels, same hard working ethic. Yet, I am also looking for someone that has different interests and different life experiences.
So, same and different at the same time.


That's what I mean.....we want the same things, but yet we like when it is different or the total opposite. It makes things interesting, and adds a little variety, excitement and color.

no photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:25 AM

Some say opposites attract, but some say you need to connect with someone with similar traits!

You think it is not going to work..... it could be the distance, your differing beliefs, outlook, views, likes & dislikes... but you may click!

He is looking for a different kind of relationship, but you are not into that! Would you continue connecting, and give it a chance to develop? Or would you cut it short?




There are many different things that can trigger attraction...If I am not in a relationship, something about a man has to turn my head, get my attention...When this happens, I give it enough time to find out how we "click"...It might be romantically, might be as friends or it could even turn out that we don't click at all...I have never believed in setting boundaries or creating a list of "requirements"...It just doesn't make sense to me...If you are truly interested in finding love, why limit your options...drinker

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:29 AM

Every relationship has its obstacles. I look at it like, is there a connection that is worth the sacrifice or am I wasting my time.If we click I will try to make it work.


Jack, I wish I could say for sure that it is worth a sacrifice or whether it might be a waste of time. We may never know unless we allow it to run its course.

If we already click, but are looking for different things?
I click with a lot of people. Some I just want to remain friends with, some I wish could be more but due to the distance we know it won't work, and some I hope for something more but the other party may not feel the same, or vice versa.


sparkyae5's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:38 AM
WOULD YOU BE HAPPY LIVING WITH A DOUBLE OF YOU ? the differances add spice to the relationship and previde a chance for learning new things about ourselves..next time you have a botton pushed by someone STOP and THINK "HOW AM I LIKE THAT" ? DO I DO THAT ? IN most cases for example when one is is very talk-a-tive the other is resevred and less open...the point is to get each ones needs met in healthy ways...however because most of us are wounded in vearious ways its not allways an easy task...BECAUSE we need to recycle our favorit feelings and emotions which we all have and last but not least we need to say to ourselves "SEE I TOLD YOU SO" about distorted beliefs about ourselves and others.....the endless cycle is to put the credit for what happens to us "OUT THERE" and not see "OUR PART"....SO MUCH FOR SAME-NESS........

Amelinng's photo
Sun 02/01/15 07:43 AM


Some say opposites attract, but some say you need to connect with someone with similar traits!

You think it is not going to work..... it could be the distance, your differing beliefs, outlook, views, likes & dislikes... but you may click!

He is looking for a different kind of relationship, but you are not into that! Would you continue connecting, and give it a chance to develop? Or would you cut it short?




There are many different things that can trigger attraction...If I am not in a relationship, something about a man has to turn my head, get my attention...When this happens, I give it enough time to find out how we "click"...It might be romantically, might be as friends or it could even turn out that we don't click at all...I have never believed in setting boundaries or creating a list of "requirements"...It just doesn't make sense to me...If you are truly interested in finding love, why limit your options...drinker


Hmmmm......actually I am not looking for love!
Just waiting for love to bump into me!laugh laugh laugh

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