What do you do about the little insults? You know, the ones that are subtle so you can't call anyone out on it....do you ignore? bite back?

I tend to think I am taking the high road by ignoring, but then, some say that we need to show a backbone?

I am talking about the little jabs...veiled comments about things like age or weight, hair color, moobs, or the beard that Goof is trying to grow...

what say you?

Years ago I would respond very negatively but today I would not even consider it. People like that are only trying to bring you down to their level. For whatever reason they are not happy with themselves so they feel they have to react negatively to others. Best to ignore and move on.

I tend to ignore and move on. The person can't be very mature to be insulting other people.

Historically, I have ignored such comments. The high road is better. However, around friends, sometimes little jabs in fun are ok.

Consider the scorce!then laf at how stupid and inmature some people can!

Little comments and jabs are actually about the person that is calling out the insults. They have a problem themselves that they would prefer people didn't notice..so they call attention to others. It is a form of deflection to their own faults/ insecurities etc. I would feel sorry for them.

I tend to agree with all these posts...BUT.....Here, on the boards, when "little" insults are ongoing, veiled, or delivered in "pack" mode, I will stand up to them the second I figure out a clever way to do it without breaking forum rules... .

just a thought...it's not really the 'high road' if you then call attention to it.

I agree. I think it takes more backbone to just ignore what is not important ...I guess where my difficulty is, is in understanding people who do those things.

yes of course, but those would not be so carefully veiled, I think

so you are a "gotchur back kinda gal?"

I think I am as well. I tend to root for the person being harmed. Fortunately I really don;t see that much here on boards.

well IDK if anyone would call attention to it. I was thinking the high road would not....are we saying the same thing?

we are. they do. it's been done many times on these very boards.
i got lambasted once for pointing it out. hahaha

well this is where being..
super naive comes in handy..
... most of the time I don't even realize.. I am being insulted..
.. and sweetestgirl.11.. so nice to see you.." finally" starting a topic...lol
jk..

smiles...

for in all cases, the embracing of any jab, with true heart and soul, embracing all words as true to ridiculously so with true compassion, will automatically reflect the most negative visibility upon the sad depravity of some sad lower insecure intellects, those who feel that to rise them self higher in the eye's of others, lowering others be the good way.

smiles.

oh I see...you were being honest again, were you...

I tend to stand up for those being abused in one form or another. It has cost me so-called friendships, but so be it! Sometimes we stick up for people who do not want us to stand up for them. It happens; there are times when those whom we considered our best friends will turn against us without warning; however, what is good to remember is that we never need to get even or return evil for evil on the boards. We can simply choose to ignore and report bad behavior and show ourselves someone who chooses not to publicly show animosity, or jealousy, or any other type of rude behavior to others. Some will never do this, because they have no type of self control! Realize who these are and do not ascent to that type of behavior , but be discreet, gracious and show yourself a better person, socially, than they are! Don't fall in with the crowd who is constantly lavishing loving words to some but who are jealous or maliciously maligning others. This is just my opinion and my code of ethics!

oh thank you! It is so nice to see you too :)

I am also naieve. Usually if i have been insulted I don;t realize it until much later, and then I kind of wonder...hmmmmm....was that supposed to MEAN something (from some meanie)

yes I take a dim view of that sort also. how are you Ben? nice to see you are also having such a compelling Saturday evening

well your opinion sounds like well thought out good advice.

we can't control what others will do, but we can control our responses to it!