So, this hasn't happened too often to me but it does happen.

A gal (not a scammer) in a video chat room decided to switch to a different venue. By this time she had plenty of opportunities to see my physique and enjoy my personality.

Alas, the different venue had my age information posted more prominently and she promptly got cold feet. Kind of ironic considering the chemistry worked JUST BEFORE noticing two digits.

Anyway one experience this puzzling behavior?

Nope, not yet anyway ....Better luck next time Jason!

Sorry, double post!

Her loss mate! She showed her true colours anyway, so maybe did you a favour in the long run? Best of luck in your future search, ok?

Thanks Leigh2154 and messi_is_a_tim_1888! Yep, maybe it was the wrong person who gifted me with an easy egress due to their vanity. Should have expected new petty challenges to dating since I've been out of the game for nearly 2 decades.

What was the age difference? Were you not upfront about your age to begin with?

You know, it never came up. The video chat site also has my age listed so all she had to do was click on my profile there.

I personally have never given a thought to age by numbers so honestly it never occurred to me. I've seen people in their 20's with the emotional maturity of a 60 year old and vice versa.

Yep, I'd go along with this, and he's a Celtic fan so he must be a good lad.

Age is a big deal for many people. For some, it may not be, but rather than getting upset with those who think age matters, why not find someone who thinks the same as you?

When there is a big age gap, the two are more likely to be in different places in life and have different interests.

I'm sure we're agreeing with each-other here.

Age is just a number. If someone isn't mature enough to realise that then they'll have to move along. In this case I was blindsided. Up until her "discovery" we had similar interests and tastes. I'm not so much angry as puzzled at the petty vanity involved. *shrugs*

A lot of people enjoy hiding behind the anonymity of the net and will play you along.....don't get to hooked up on someone until you can qualify their bona fides.....
It is a well known fact that people here and I presume other sites are notorious for not reading profiles and just blatantly messaging....

We are saying two different things here. You think age is just a number. I think age is more important. I don't think it's petty vanity to think that, either. Either way, some people will agree with you and some people will agree with me. Your best bet is to find those who agree that age is just a number.

... to some people, but to others, age is important.

Blondey111 has the right idea here. She did get the free attention. I got a lesson not to spend my emotional energy so unwisely. I came out with a better deal.

And, yeah. Unfortunately I have found the boyfriend to be a factor at times. I've chatted with a few people who eventually let slip the situation is "complicated" instead of single. That's when *I* get the cold feet and make my egress.

Right singmesweet!

This specific situation was vain and selfish. I guess I was overly broad there.

When people talk about age as a number they usually mean place in life. I, for instance, have no kids and no mortgage and have never been married. My life experiences in that area are more akin to your average 20 year old. I have a coworker in their early 30's that's had 4 kids, 2 marriages and a double mortgage. Clearly their place in life has no bearing on the raw numbers between us.

I'd like to keep this discussion to similar experiences. I'd be happy to discuss our differences in a separate topic.

When I say age is important, it's because I feel I would not have a whole lot in common with a man who is my father's age, or retired, or getting even close to that. We're going to be looking for different things and will have different interests. We are at much different places in life. Just as I am not interested in the 21 year olds who have just graduated college and not experienced much in life yet.

So to me, yes, age is important.

I think be basically agree. The other points we can agree to disagree on. Please, let's take the conversation somewhere else if you feel the need. I'm not worth your time, honestly.

Jason, it could always be worse. I have been blown off because of my height, but it is what it is. I know God has a special lady for me and that is all I have to know.

To the OP: seems odd if she could clearly see your age: video chat is not the place where you can hide something like that LOL!

I routinely decline all 30 & under males who send me messages on my dating sites: they all think 1: she's older so she can teach me something sexually & 2: she's older so she'll be grateful for the attention & therefore have sex immediately & 3: she's older than the women (actually girls) my age & unlike them she has her own place where we can have that educational & immediate sex. See the theme here? It is true: age matters in how you view dating (if you ever actually get TO the dating, & how attractive you view the other person.