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Topic: Being Happy single,good or bad?
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Mon 12/15/14 11:18 PM
Edited by unknown_romeo on Mon 12/15/14 11:22 PM
Sometimes its good to be single coz one can't be hurt emotionally






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Awatersign's photo
Mon 12/15/14 11:19 PM
Edited by Awatersign on Mon 12/15/14 11:21 PM
Good morning,night,evening day whatever waving waving drinker,just want say that being happy is one our main priority,and no,I DON'T want to stay single,just wanted to get that out the way so there's no misunderstanding,ok think maybe some of you folks here maybe able to relate to this,I've noticed for a little while now that I'm actually happy and comfortable with being this way,so being happy is good right?That's the good part,now here's the thing,there's still that empty space,while I hardly never feel lonely,there's still that desire to fill that empty space,SO,,I started to wonder,how good is being happy and comfortable in a case as such?Please share your thoughts!!drinks drinker drinker

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Mon 12/15/14 11:20 PM
Altho that empty space is there I know when the time is right it will be filled drinker

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Mon 12/15/14 11:28 PM
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smokin

drinker

Kindlightheart's photo
Mon 12/15/14 11:39 PM
Me...I don't want to be hurt any more...figure if I stay alone I will be ok...I would love to meet someone that could understand me...but I know it won't happen...so I choose to be alone and love everyone...I would rather be alone and happy then with someone that likes to break my heart...lonely...yup...but at least I don't worry about what I'm doing wrong anymore...I like happy way better then trying to make someone else happy...but I wish the best to those that need someone to make themselves happy...blah blah blah...geez I babble...lol...:wink:

davidben1's photo
Mon 12/15/14 11:41 PM
well that's about the saddest post i've read in a while...

sharpen the perception, than one will never pick what could or would hurt it self.

and then one can ADD TO, the happiness of one, which makes DOUBLE THE HAPPINESS.

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Mon 12/15/14 11:46 PM
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Awatersign's photo
Tue 12/16/14 12:09 AM
One thing's for sure,part that happiness IS due to less emotional pain,even though I've learned alot from that,if you're in a relationship,you're not going to avoid emotional pain,it comes with the package deal lol,and while I'm not afraid or worry about it,I'm still much more happier without it!!

Astrid's photo
Tue 12/16/14 12:25 AM
Happiness is not always having what you want but appreciating what you have. Always free yourself of anything that causes or might cause you misery and sadness. It will give us longer life and a youthful glow.winking

theseacoast's photo
Tue 12/16/14 12:54 AM
Edited by theseacoast on Tue 12/16/14 01:17 AM
For Awatersign: it�s completely ok to feel good when you�re single. And it isn�t equal to an escape of being hurt. A while ago, i was alone for about four years and felt completely perfect, happy and satisfied. Didn�t have absolutly no interest in dating, i refused all suggestions. Felt no need for that. And in that time, it was just ok.

For Kindlightheart: how well i understand you! There are moments I feel pitty that now I can�t be really satisfied alone as I was before. Just not my chosen path. Now I miss all the good things relationship can bring. But who knows eventually :smile:

One of the most beautiful and also true passages about love wrote Lebanon poet Chalil Gibran in his "The Prophet":

http://www-personal.umich.edu/~jrcole/gibran/prophet/prophet.htm#Love
As much from me flowerforyou

davidben1's photo
Tue 12/16/14 02:12 AM
beautiful words from all.

drinker :thumbsup: drinker

Awatersign's photo
Tue 12/16/14 02:12 AM

beautiful words from all.

drinker :thumbsup: drinker
Yep,for sure!!:thumbsup: :thumbsup: drinks drinker

Amelinng's photo
Tue 12/16/14 04:25 AM
Awatersign.... funny that you brought up this post cos' was just touching on it off the forums with some friends here and this is what some of us says!

Some of us are not actually here to fill that 'empty space' beside us, cos' our time could be with the family, work and other commitments right now and there just isn't any time for that someone.

And some of us are really here to look for friendship and interaction, and if that friendship turns into companionship, and maybe into something more meaningful...well, if it happens, it happens, whether you look for it or not.

I believe that empty space .... if it is meant to be filled, it will be!
So, while it is not...just be happy if you are happy, and if you are not, no harm to keep your eyes opened, she/he might just be passing by at this very moment!:wink:

Awatersign's photo
Tue 12/16/14 04:56 AM

Awatersign.... funny that you brought up this post cos' was just touching on it off the forums with some friends here and this is what some of us says!

Some of us are not actually here to fill that 'empty space' beside us, cos' our time could be with the family, work and other commitments right now and there just isn't any time for that someone.

And some of us are really here to look for friendship and interaction, and if that friendship turns into companionship, and maybe into something more meaningful...well, if it happens, it happens, whether you look for it or not.

I believe that empty space .... if it is meant to be filled, it will be!
So, while it is not...just be happy if you are happy, and if you are not, no harm to keep your eyes opened, she/he might just be passing by at this very moment!:wink:

Yeah you're so right about that,I was kinda confused being happy comfortable while still wanting that space fill!!!

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Tue 12/16/14 05:08 AM
That's great Awatersign! Being happy and comfortable is the best place to be to fill that empty space in a healthy way. Congrats! drinker

When people are hurting they are more willing (and sometimes desperate) to accept unsuitable relationships and hence the cycle continues. brokenheart

Being happy and comfortable allows a person the space and perspective to invite positive confident experiences. :heart:

All the best to you!

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Tue 12/16/14 06:29 AM
I can be happy being single or I can be miserable,,,,the choice is mine....Happiness is a "personal" responsibility...It's about attitude, not status...

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Tue 12/16/14 06:51 AM
Edited by LisaGreen54 on Tue 12/16/14 06:54 AM
I was married from age 17 to 46 I have had a lifetime of being married,raiised kids ,got grandkds buried a lot of loved ones owned a lot of material things, went thru lots of sickness and enjoyed a lot of good health........
Being single isn't so bad after knowing what I have had!
At times I miss having that special someone but I've not missed it enough to become desperate.
I've been single for 8 years now

I guess I am saying been there done that so what's left,if God intends for me to have a man in my life then sbe it ,he will come along.. if not then I'll be just fine I've plenty of friends and family to keep me going
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Tue 12/16/14 06:54 AM

I was married from age 17 to 46 I have had a lifetime of being married,raiised kids ,got grandkds buried a lot of loved ones owned a lot of material things, went thru lots of sickness and enjoyed a lot of good health........
Being single isn't so bad after knowing what I have had!
At times I miss having that special someone but I've not missed it enough to become desperate.

I guess I am saying been there done that so what's left,if God intends for me to have a man in my life then sbe it ,he will come along.. if not then I'll be just fine I've plenty of friends and family to keep me going
:thumbsup:


flowers

whatssuup's photo
Tue 12/16/14 07:40 AM


To everything in life there is a cost......

The question one needs to ask.....

What are you willing to pay

Awatersign's photo
Tue 12/16/14 10:11 AM

That's great Awatersign! Being happy and comfortable is the best place to be to fill that empty space in a healthy way. Congrats! drinker

When people are hurting they are more willing (and sometimes desperate) to accept unsuitable relationships and hence the cycle continues. brokenheart

Being happy and comfortable allows a person the space and perspective to invite positive confident experiences. :heart:

All the best to you!

I totally agree,and thanks!:wink: drinker

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