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Topic: Single Mom - Turn Off?
MamaTBear Joined Sat 12/13/14 Posts: 12	Mon 12/15/14 04:55 PM
There seems to be two things that tend to scare off a lot of people about people like me... Okay, three, but I tend to ignore the third one. 1) the words Single Mother... They seem to scare off even more if you add a number more than one to that. and 2) the words Mental Illness.... I'd rather be up front and honest about it. Bipolar II Disorder, Depression & PTSD. People always seem to assume that "Mental Illness" means "psycho". It really doesn't. Bipolar is nothing more than a chemical imbalance in the brain. It means that my thought process works differently than those who don't have it. The fact that I have Bipolar II Disorder just means that my moods can rapid cycle. The fact that my previous relationships lasted years, can be testimony that my mood swings are not violent, or horribly dramatic. They happen. PTSD... well, I guess that people see mental illnesses like PTSD to mean that I'm "broken". But when you put Single Mother and Mental Illness out there when you are trying to be honest and real... It seems to scare people off.... How does someone break past those? (The third is the fact that I'm overweight, though I'm losing it one pound at a time with help of a strong support system. But, I ignore people with issues about others weight.) Does being a single mom with mental illness mean I'll never find someone? Or is there still hope?

widowedGerry Joined Mon 12/15/14 Posts: 1	Mon 12/15/14 05:13 PM
Hi im Gerry 59 6 ft 185lbs. You a so right about scaring people off,Im afraid if I was to be brutaly honest Id get nowhere.But I will tell you.My wonderful wife died this past april,my dad the previous july.I im what the government says disabled,I have crohns.cant work any more.Was a chef for 35yrs. ssd for my income and that just covers my basic needs.I cant drive right now.I was pulled over for Dui, just after my father passed I wont or dont know when Ill be able to reinstate. looking for a friend to share ups and downs of life with. watch a film or just talk.Maybe hold hands laugh and cry together, be peace at heart just knowing some special woman cares about me. Gerry.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Mon 12/15/14 05:55 PM
A single mom is not a turn-off. However, a single mom may have a characteristic not related to motherhood that is a turn-off, and she may be in denial about that particular characteristic.

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Mon 12/15/14 06:12 PM
A single mom is not a turn-off. However, a single mom may have a characteristic not related to motherhood that is a turn-off, and she may be in denial about that particular characteristic. A single mum, or any woman who whines all the time though, is a serious turn-off and one i would always avoid!!

fernbrook Joined Sat 08/31/13 Posts: 21	Mon 12/15/14 06:50 PM
What about a single dad? does that change opinions? If your a good parent and person then im good with that

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Mon 12/15/14 07:02 PM
we find the strength to overcome our self then finding someone will be piece o cake.

lonelylove92 Joined Mon 12/15/14 Posts: 5	Mon 12/15/14 07:12 PM
Whoever you end up being with it won't be a turn off to. Some guys won't date women with kids and some guys will. It depends on the person and you shouldn't want someone who would be turned off by it anyway. Find someone who likes you for you. :)

MamaTBear Joined Sat 12/13/14 Posts: 12	Tue 12/16/14 12:02 PM
The hard part is finding out how to find someone who will just like me as I am. My weight, my motherhood, and the way my brain works. lol... I've only just started using this site and I'm far from giving up, yet. lol... I hope that I will find someone, some day who will be what I'm looking for. Regardless of male or female... Even though I do feel a little worn out on men right now. (No offense! There are a lot of great guys out there. I just haven't met any single ones yet.)

unknown_romeo Joined Wed 03/26/14 Posts: 7691	Tue 12/16/14 12:11 PM Edited by unknown_romeo on Tue 12/16/14 12:15 PM
the single moms i've come across and had intimate encounters with have turned out to be a lil psychotic and it made me run .

angelcruise2014 Joined Sun 08/17/14 Posts: 1	Tue 12/16/14 07:58 PM
Not turn off, should be proud Im single mom too, i raised my son alone, no supports fr my ex, now his in college, being sigle mom is diffucult coz i acted mother and father at the same time. Its a big responsibility, But i need to live for my son. All i think is his future, teach him how to be a good man. Mental illness is not related im still here doing a great son -mother relationship. And i also admire those single dad who do his best for the sake of his children.

lovealbin Joined Sun 04/29/12 Posts: 40	Tue 12/16/14 09:42 PM
Not turn off, should be proud Im single mom too, i raised my son alone, no supports fr my ex, now his in college, being sigle mom is diffucult coz i acted mother and father at the same time. Its a big responsibility, But i need to live for my son. All i think is his future, teach him how to be a good man. Mental illness is not related im still here doing a great son -mother relationship. And i also admire those single dad who do his best for the sake of his children. You r great Ms Angel

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Tue 12/16/14 11:26 PM
What about a single dad? does that change opinions? If your a good parent and person then im good with that 2 questions : What did you do to your wife & where did you bury her body?...hehe, jk.

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Tue 12/16/14 11:31 PM
the single moms i've come across and had intimate encounters with have turned out to be a lil psychotic and it made me run . The big yin has a valid point here? I too have come across a few loony tunes with women. Whether they're bi-polar, a straight Grizzly or a lesbian Panda, i got outta there right away, as all i want is a chilled out lassie with no drama. I'm sure women have experienced the same thing with some men also? I'm old enough to know what i want out of life now and i'm sure as hell not going to let somebody come along and put my life up in the air just because they get a kick out drama, drama, drama, in their lives constantly, as some people do!

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Tue 12/16/14 11:33 PM
What about a single dad? does that change opinions? If your a good parent and person then im good with that 2 questions : What did you do to your wife & where did you bury her body?...hehe, jk. He got Mr Wolf from Pulp Fiction, to take care of that!!

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Tue 12/16/14 11:34 PM
What about a single dad? does that change opinions? If your a good parent and person then im good with that 2 questions : What did you do to your wife & where did you bury her body?...hehe, jk. He got Mr Wolf from Pulp Fiction, to take care of that!! You don't happen to know his number, do ya?

Chrissyboy2702 Joined Sat 12/06/14 Posts: 275	Tue 12/16/14 11:49 PM
One of the great loves of my life had a 7 year old daughter & I doted on the pair of them. Mental illness or not in my case would be judged by personality. There's nothing worse than people who judge without getting to know a person

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Tue 12/16/14 11:54 PM Edited by messi_is_a_tim_1888 on Wed 12/17/14 12:02 AM
oops double post!

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Tue 12/16/14 11:54 PM
One of the great loves of my life had a 7 year old daughter & I doted on the pair of them. Mental illness or not in my case would be judged by personality. There's nothing worse than people who judge without getting to know a person I don't want to know anyone that pulls a knife on me like a woman did before! That's not judging, that's common sense!

zzzippy56 Joined Sun 01/12/14 Posts: 7307	Tue 12/16/14 11:58 PM
Not a turn off at all....

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Wed 12/17/14 12:09 AM
Does being a single mom with mental illness mean I'll never find someone? Or is there still hope? Theres still hope after all. Welcome to M2.