I have known someone here who is shy and at the moment in Nigeria. Everything fine but I am careful because he's telling me he loves me and didn't see me in person.. Only some pictures. He also told me he has lost his wife - she was also at the US Army - and he has lost his patents in an accident. Now he needs money for a leave request to visit me. All the guys who need money get it from their family... Is that right? Is he cheating me?

Thanks for your help...

That is a classic scammers... Major red flag, well many red flags...
Never send money for any reason..ever

that's a classic scam. don't send anyone any money.

it is something that you should reoprt

It's a scammmmmmmmm do NOT send money!!!!!

Lol thats � big time scammer....

Thank you... It's hard to hear.. I was tough but he wrote so perfect that you would believe sometime

Stupid is as stupid does....if it makes you feel better send him a buck or two...maybe...sign over your house...maybe co sign a loan...he loves you...lmao..!!!

stop corresponding. and talking to this person immediately...

.. try to date within your own country if you can.....

Sweetie, it's hard to hear but better that you know. sorry that he's playing on your vulnerability. know that you are worth something better than that.
wish you all the best. be careful

Thank you for yor nice words... I guess I am wide awake...

Going to stop writing with him...
Thank you again

His a scammer the goverrnment pay for all... You can find all you need to know about military do for our men.

Nope dont send money... A mere scammer

Ok..I am a lonely person...everyone I know is dead...will someone please help me...I only need a small amount of money...I will repay you...please help....

welcome betty, it was very smart of you to ask for help here on the forums, many of those who dont, are easy prey for the smooth operators who troll these dating sites....i see you've been a member for a good while...hope to see more of you here, in the future....

This guys a pro drop him quick!!!! Last week a family was cheated out of $60 grand because he received a phone call saying his grand daughter was in an accident and needed the money for hospital bills

Intelligent girl

Bettyboop, the trick to all this is learning how to be most honest with yourself through concise wording.

When you say you've "known a guy on here", you haven't because you haven't met him in person, and got to know him face to face, under a variety of conditions over a length of time.

So if you refer to this correspondance as "knowing" someone, you're tricking yourself into thinking you know a person that you don't know.
He may not be a sincere Nigerian national, he might be a small time local career-criminal and in between fits of ethnic cleansing his neighbourhood with a machete, he messages dozens of women on websites asking for money to buy more machetes with.
You don't know until you know.

So when you're speaking with a stranger you've never met, always refer to them as a stranger you're speaking with, not someone you know. That way you might be a little less prone to fooling yourself and making it easier to be lied to.
If you keep the real world you live in, straight in your head, then it's easier to see when someone is feeding you a line.

N�gerians have a worldwide reputation of being crooks, scammers and Just crooked.
even If I came across N�gerians in countries They would try to scam me, every nigerian i came across at random would be a scammer and the Internet is full of nigerian scammers......n�gerians = crooks, criminals, pimps, drug dealers and all sorts on conmen.....If you do not know that yet then you've been living in a cave

There are, ofcourse, scammers from a lot of countries but nigerians are on the Top 5 most scammed list