Topic: eye opening advice
mini1x's photo
Thu 11/27/14 08:22 PM
To the OP.

Sorry buddy, but when you say don't judge you because of your perspective, you're being naive. People DO judge you by what you say and your ideas, and while everyone deserves respect from others (at least that's what I believe), I can almost guarantee you won't make many friends that way. They'll always look for the angle, because you will never offer them anything without wanting something back.

Just sayin'

davidben1's photo
Thu 11/27/14 08:55 PM
those that say "don't judge me", simply mean, don't voice any DISAGREEMENT WITH ME...

hehehe...

for if one read what another say's, and say's I agree, will one hear, "DON'T JUDGE ME"...

but the one who agree's with one self had to judge the words read to AGREE with them as well...

smiles...

one is making a judgement about all things it see and hear, as logical thinking human being using good judgment or poor judgment...

that old saying was lifted from old data and used to shut up any opposing belief's, simply used to declare any opinion "opposite" as "wrong" for "judging"...

all of civilized society is based upon "judgment"...

the teacher shall "judge" your essay...

the judge shall "judge" your behavior as acceptable or not...

your girlfriend shall judge whether she wishes to be with you...

the police will judge your speed as lawful or not...

the dean shall judge your thesis as flawed or not...

please...

that which say's "don't judge me", is simply deeming it self can say or do anything it wants, but no others can...

and any "feedback" it self "doesn't like", is wrong, since it is "judging"...

a totally unequal flawed principle to say the least.


Totage's photo
Thu 11/27/14 09:15 PM

Read this eye opening advice...
Never think about others. You are for yourself the only important thing in this world. As a matter of fact if you didn't exist, nothing else around you would exist either (for you). That's why you should never sacrifice yourself for others not in the smallest way, you need to put yourself first in every single thing in life. (srs)
Living organisms are selfish by nature, the word selfish shouldn't even exist it should be called "normal" Because every single thing you do in this life is selfish. Even if you were to help out others you are still doing it for yourself, because it gives YOU a good feeling to help them. If you naturally felt bad for helping others you wouldn't do it right? You only love your mother because she's YOUR mother, you don't love other people's mom right?
The point im trying to prove is that noone on this planet gives half a **** about your life or your dreams and this is normal that's why you need to care about yourself because you're the only one that cares.
Take every opportunity for succes that comes along and screw everyone else, even if it means you are seriously ******* over others. If they had the same chance they'd be screwing you over with a big smile guaranteed. In the end what are other people to you but a talking pile of bones and flesh? Their desteny has nothing to do with yours even if every single person on the planet would drop dead that wouldn't make your heart stop pounding becuase it doesn't give half a **** about other people it only pounds for you.
At the first stage of life as a spermcell you already have been ******* over millions of other spermcells and caused their death as you were the one that occupied the egg. That same spermcell mentallity should be held during your entire life to get that succes even if it means you are ******* over millions of other people.
We're all trying to have it OUR way in life and we are ALL trying to win.


Are you a Satanist? Just curious.

no photo
Fri 11/28/14 04:29 AM
Another post reminding me of my ex. frustrated

cookiedough92's photo
Fri 11/28/14 05:19 AM
am sure am not 100% correct but i am bringing up good points.The funny thing is almost evrybody has something to say about spercellmentality but ignoring the rest of the post.you can't disagree when you help somebody you do it because it makes YOU feel good , it gives YOU a warm feeling in YOUR hart , it makes YOU happy seeing them happy so it kind of makes you selfish by nature.what i mean by don't judge me , we all come from different places , you may come or live in some peaceful tribe but in the "civilized" world it's far from peaceful it's all about ME's , since the beginning of civilization it's all about ME's.Wars to claim territories nothing has really changed.So you might have a different perspective in life but pls don't say he won't have any friends like this or you will die a lonely man.I didn't ask you to write what you think about me as a person , if you have an arguement post it , pick things that you don't agree with and write your arguements , im all about that.

panchovanilla's photo
Fri 11/28/14 06:06 AM
You do have some valid points.
Some people are narcissists.
Some are altruistic.
Most are caught between the two.

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Fri 11/28/14 06:23 AM

am sure am not 100% correct but i am bringing up good points.The funny thing is almost evrybody has something to say about spercellmentality but ignoring the rest of the post.you can't disagree when you help somebody you do it because it makes YOU feel good , it gives YOU a warm feeling in YOUR hart , it makes YOU happy seeing them happy so it kind of makes you selfish by nature.what i mean by don't judge me , we all come from different places , you may come or live in some peaceful tribe but in the "civilized" world it's far from peaceful it's all about ME's , since the beginning of civilization it's all about ME's.Wars to claim territories nothing has really changed.So you might have a different perspective in life but pls don't say he won't have any friends like this or you will die a lonely man.I didn't ask you to write what you think about me as a person , if you have an arguement post it , pick things that you don't agree with and write your arguements , im all about that.


I would argue that that sperm doesn't aknowledge it's mother's selflessness at all. Basically a sperm is like a parasite that feasts on it's host, and that host would be your mother. How about some respect for her keeping you alive?

bastet126's photo
Fri 11/28/14 09:12 AM
i don't find this all that eye-opening, this mentality is on the news every night.
none of it makes me feel good, in fact, i find i don't even watch the news much
anymore because it is so depressing. the all about me world is slowly making
us extinct.

what kind of world do you want to live in? it sounds like you only want to
perpetuate the ugliness of your reality.

what kind of world do you want your children to live in?

this certainly isn't the way to peace or a kinder world. i'd rather live in a world
where the selfishness of caring for others matters more than the selfishness of
screwing everyone over to...win. that's how i live my life.

mysticalview21's photo
Tue 12/09/14 04:05 PM

So i've been reading through the comments on my post


people pls


It's just one perspective,if it's interesting and resourceful use it , but pls don't judge me , if you're real like me and you talk to me for 2 minutes i put money on it you will feel like you have known me for 20 years...i put everyone in the same category..from a ceo to a f**king burger flipper at mcdonalds..were all going to the same place when we die.




you can have your own opinion but this ...were all going to the same place when we die.really not sure of that ... you may be going where you think your going but others have their own opinion on that ... and why do families in the animal kingdoms love each other so much ... it is practice in a group ...not just one person nor one animal ...
my opinion...

mysticalview21's photo
Tue 12/09/14 04:06 PM

charming. good luck with that pile of rubbish OP.
rofl

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Sat 03/07/15 07:20 AM
That's a very dark view of humanity you have there. Sadly I think many people run along the same lines. I'd say that it's a philosophy that would work in the short term but is doomed to fail in the long run. Also it makes you a total *******.

Kaustuv1's photo
Sat 03/07/15 08:10 AM

Read this eye opening advice...
Never think about others. You are for yourself the only important thing in this world. As a matter of fact if you didn't exist, nothing else around you would exist either (for you). That's why you should never sacrifice yourself for others not in the smallest way, you need to put yourself first in every single thing in life. (srs)
Living organisms are selfish by nature, the word selfish shouldn't even exist it should be called "normal" Because every single thing you do in this life is selfish. Even if you were to help out others you are still doing it for yourself, because it gives YOU a good feeling to help them. If you naturally felt bad for helping others you wouldn't do it right? You only love your mother because she's YOUR mother, you don't love other people's mom right?
The point im trying to prove is that noone on this planet gives half a **** about your life or your dreams and this is normal that's why you need to care about yourself because you're the only one that cares.
Take every opportunity for succes that comes along and screw everyone else, even if it means you are seriously ******* over others. If they had the same chance they'd be screwing you over with a big smile guaranteed. In the end what are other people to you but a talking pile of bones and flesh? Their desteny has nothing to do with yours even if every single person on the planet would drop dead that wouldn't make your heart stop pounding becuase it doesn't give half a **** about other people it only pounds for you.
At the first stage of life as a spermcell you already have been ******* over millions of other spermcells and caused their death as you were the one that occupied the egg. That same spermcell mentallity should be held during your entire life to get that succes even if it means you are ******* over millions of other people.
We're all trying to have it OUR way in life and we are ALL trying to win.







Four Beautiful Thoughts Of Life:
(a) Look Back & Get Experience.
(b) Look Forward & See Hope.
(c) Look Around & Find Reality.
(d) Look Within & Find Your Self.


There comes a time in your life when you finally get it ... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out "ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on." And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective. [This is your awakening!]

You realize that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something or someone to change, or for happiness safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that there aren't always fairy-tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.


So you begin making your way through the "reality of today" rather than holding out for the "promise of tomorrow." You realize that much of who you are and the way you navigate through life is, in great part, a result of all the social conditioning you've received over the course of a lifetime. And you begin to sift through all the nonsense you were taught about :

- how you should look and how much you should weigh,
- what you should wear and where you should shop,
- where you should live or what type of car you should drive,
- who you should sleep with and how you should behave,
- who you should marry and why you should stay,
- the importance of bearing children or what you owe your family,


Slowly you begin to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin re-assessing and re-defining who you are and what you really believe in. And you begin to discard the doctrines you have outgrown, or should never have practiced to begin with.


You accept the fact that you are not perfect ,and that not everyone will love appreciate or approve of who or what you are... and that's OK... they are entitled to their own views and opinions. And, you come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a "perfect 10".... Or a perfect human being for that matter... and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head or agonizing over how you compare. And, you take a long look at yourself in the mirror and you make a promise to give yourself the same unconditional love and support you give so freely to others. Then a sense of confidence is born of self-approval.


And, you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" hungry for your next fix, a new dress, another pair of shoes or looks of approval and admiration from family, friends or even strangers who pass by. Then you discover that it is truly in "giving" that we receive, and that the joy and abundance you seek grows out of the giving. And you recognize the importance of "creating" and "contributing" rather than "obtaining" and "accumulating."


And you give thanks for the simple things you've been blessed with, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about - a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, the freedom of choice and the opportunity to pursue your own dreams.


And you begin to love and to care for yourself. You stop engaging in self-destructive behaviors, including participating in dysfunctional relationships. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and exercising. And because you've learned that fatigue drains the spirit and creates doubt and fear, you give yourself permission to rest. And just as food is fuel for the body, laughter is fuel for the spirit and so you make it a point to create time for play.


Then you learn about love and relationships - how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away. And you allow only the hands of a lover who truly loves and respects you to glorify you with his touch. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, intentionally or unintentionally, and that not everyone will always come through... and interestingly enough, it's not always about you. So, you stop lashing out and pointing fingers or looking to place blame for the things that were done to you or weren't done for you. And you learn to keep your Ego in check and to acknowledge and redirect the destructive emotions it spawns - anger, jealousy and resentment.


You learn how to say "I was wrong" and to forgive people for their own human frailties. You learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture. And, at the same time, you eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify you. You stop working so hard at smoothing things over and setting your needs aside. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right to want or expect certain things. And you learn the importance of communicating your needs with confidence and grace. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that eventually martyrs are burned at the stake. Then you learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to Say NO. You learn that you don't know all the answers, it's not your job to save the world and that sometimes you just need to Let Go.


Moreover, you learn to look at people as they really are and not as you would want them to be, and you are careful not to project your neediness or insecurities onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and relationships, and that that not everyone can always love you the way you would want them to. So you stop appraising your worth by the measure of love you are given. And suddenly you realize that it's wrong to demand that someone live their life or sacrifice their dreams just to serve your needs, ease your insecurities, or meet "your" standards and expectations. You learn that the only love worth giving and receiving is the love that is given freely without conditions or limitations. And you learn what it means to love. So you stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that "alone" does not mean "lonely" and you begin to discover the joy of spending time "with yourself" and "on yourself." Then you discover the greatest and most fulfilling love you will ever know - Self Love. And so it comes to pass that, through understanding, your heart heals; and now all new things are possible.


Moving along, you begin to avoid Toxic people and conversations. And you stop wasting time and energy rehashing your situation with family and friends. You learn that talk doesn't change things and that unrequited wishes can only serve to keep you trapped in the past. So you stop lamenting over what could or should have been and you make a decision to leave the past behind. Then you begin to invest your time and energy to affect positive change. You take a personal inventory of all your strengths and weaknesses and the areas you need to improve in order to move ahead, you set your goals and map out a plan of action to see things through.


You learn that life isn't always fair and you don't always get what you think you deserve, and you stop personalizing every loss or disappointment. You learn to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God... but merely a random act of fate.


And you stop looking for guarantees, because you've learned that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected and that whatever happens, you'll learn to deal with it. And you learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time - FEAR itself. So you learn to step right into and through your fears, because to give into fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. You learn that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophesy and you learn to go after what you want and not to squander your life living under a cloud of indecision or feelings of impending doom.


Then, YOU LEARN ABOUT MONEY... the personal power and independence it brings and the options it creates. And you recognize the necessity to create your own personal wealth. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart's desire. And a sense of power is born of self-reliance. And you live with honor and integrity because you know that these principles are not the outdated ideals of a by-gone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build your life. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful opportunity and exciting possibility. Then you hang a wind chime outside your window to remind yourself what beauty there is in Simplicity.


Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you TAKE a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.


A word about the Power of Prayer: In some of my darkest, most painful and frightening hours, I have prayed, not for the answers to my prayers or for material things, but for my "God" to help me find the strength, confidence and courage to persevere; to face each day and to do what I must do.


You are an expression of the almighty. The spirit of God resides within you and moves through you. Open your heart, speak to that spirit and it will heal and empower you.

"My 'God' has never failed me..."! :-)

[Sonny Carroll]


no1phD's photo
Sat 03/07/15 09:12 AM
Op.. not a parent (obviously)frustrated

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Sat 03/07/15 08:01 PM
Kaustuv1, that is an amazing post. It should have its own topic.

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Sun 03/08/15 04:09 AM

charming. good luck with that pile of rubbish OP.



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Sun 03/08/15 04:21 AM

Read this eye opening advice...
Never think about others. You are for yourself the only important thing in this world. As a matter of fact if you didn't exist, nothing else around you would exist either (for you). That's why you should never sacrifice yourself for others not in the smallest way, you need to put yourself first in every single thing in life. (srs)
Living organisms are selfish by nature, the word selfish shouldn't even exist it should be called "normal" Because every single thing you do in this life is selfish. Even if you were to help out others you are still doing it for yourself, because it gives YOU a good feeling to help them. If you naturally felt bad for helping others you wouldn't do it right? You only love your mother because she's YOUR mother, you don't love other people's mom right?
The point im trying to prove is that noone on this planet gives half a **** about your life or your dreams and this is normal that's why you need to care about yourself because you're the only one that cares.
Take every opportunity for succes that comes along and screw everyone else, even if it means you are seriously ******* over others. If they had the same chance they'd be screwing you over with a big smile guaranteed. In the end what are other people to you but a talking pile of bones and flesh? Their desteny has nothing to do with yours even if every single person on the planet would drop dead that wouldn't make your heart stop pounding becuase it doesn't give half a **** about other people it only pounds for you.
At the first stage of life as a spermcell you already have been ******* over millions of other spermcells and caused their death as you were the one that occupied the egg. That same spermcell mentallity should be held during your entire life to get that succes even if it means you are ******* over millions of other people.
We're all trying to have it OUR way in life and we are ALL trying to win.



cookiedough92's photo
Wed 05/13/15 04:14 PM
i wrote this some time ago , ever heard of trolling? lol

cookiedough92's photo
Wed 05/13/15 04:15 PM
spermcellmentality lmao

regularfeller's photo
Fri 05/15/15 08:43 PM
:banana: Gimme the gold! I swam faster than Michael Phelps back in the day!

O o~~~~~ (target acquired) o~~~ o~~~ o~~~ o~~~ o~~~ o~~~ o~~~ o~~~ o~~~


While your post reflects a common mindset it is a lousy philosophy to live by.

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Sat 05/16/15 01:10 PM
I don't mind if people do what they want, as long as they think twice about how it affects others and make a point of not trying to let it stop others from doing what they want also. I support that. Live and let live, and also support each other if need be. But if someone wants to build a concrete wall in front of my window just so they can draw silly pictures on it, and they don't consider that I want my sunlight and fresh air to thrive, then that is not a philosophy I would live by. Selfishness has it's purpose but it's not the meaning of life.