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Topic: Seven Rules To Escape Heartbreak *for Guys
Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Thu 11/06/14 07:10 AM Edited by Awatersign on Thu 11/06/14 07:16 AM
Warning: readers discretion adviced. If u can't handle a pretty lenghty write up, den move ahead wit ur life of ignorance; afterall, detest for reading is ingrained in an average black man's DNA. Below are the Rules: Rule 1 Giving all ur love, care, time, even money doesn't guarantee she'll stay: let me tell u what makes women stick to guys thru all season, both good n bad - because... they... wait for it, wait for it, wait for it... want to!!! Yes. They stick to guys because they love d guys n choose to stay with them. U must hv seen or heard of guys who beat up dia gals bt still, d gals cling to dem (nw I'm nt askin u to abuse ur gals). Givin ur gals ur all may be gud, but is nt a reason for dem to stick to u, infact givin dem all in fantastic proportions is unhealthy. I will explain dat subsequently. So dnt tink she's still wit u cos of all the love n money ur showerin on her, wen its tym to leave u, nufin will stop her. Rule 2: Never make her too comfortable: u lov her wit ur lyf. She loves u even more. Bla bla. U devote all ur tym n bein to her, evrytin is magical, she knows ur hers for lyf, den a point is inevitably reached when... u suddenly start lookin lyk an Bottom to her. I knw ur tinkin, dats nt right! D more comfortable u make a person, d more d person should giv more. Yes! Dat is in sync wit logic, but women ain't logical! Once in a while, dnt get jealous, dnt care, dnt spend, hold back urself. Let her run after u. Get a lyf aside her! I can't tell u hw importnt dis is. Rule 3: Family takes precedence over her: it cannot be overemphasised hw important it is for u to knw d people who will be wit u for eva n dos who will * n go. Never take sides wit ur gal against ur mama or sister. Its against d bro code of conduct. Never inconvenience ur family to accommodate "one man's daughter". It will make her respect u. Once u forge ur gal into a wife, gud for u! She's nw ur family n shud nt be inconvinienced for anoda random "non-family". Until u ring her finger, she's fair game, meanin she can dump ur sorry Bottom for anoda. So dnt be silly enough to enjoy temporary things n miss out eternity. Rule 4: She's not worth any emotional/ financial stress: don't struggle to give what u dnt have! Asume she requests for 10k, if u dnt hav it tell her "i dont hv it", if u hav it bt aint feelin charitable, tell her "i wont give, go work for ur money", if u hav n feel lyk sharing, fine! Give her! Relationships r to be enjoyed not tolerated! Dating is not an emancipation frm poverty! Neva you hav sleepless nights for her sake. Neva you borrow to satisfy her every whim! This may sound harsh, but not until ur married to her, u hav no business dealin with her using ur heart, use ur head!! Most men make this moronic mistake of getting worked up over a woman! God! Women r d emotional ones, let dem cry over d relationship, its nt ur job ***! Dnt kill urself for a gal, she would attend ur funeral with a new boyfrend. A word for d wise is sufficient Rule 5: Always get even: women always think they r smatter dan men. Here's why - dey grow up to have huge racks n bums as big as jumbo size hot air balloons, n guys r wired to be attractd to wot dey see, hence dey can manipulate guys, hence dey r smarter! Guys who hv more money than sense tend to give more n get little in a relationship. Y shud u buy her a box of chocolate on her bday n expect hand band on urs?? Get even! For every shoe she buys u, get her a wrist watch, for evry tie, get her a scarf, for every boxer, get her a pant (wait, shey boxers r even more expensiv dan pants, hehehe). This sounds like a game but in truth, datin a 21st century naija babe is a game, im not askin u to win, jst get even. Keep on readin, im not thru. Rule 6: Love yourself first n more: lyk i said earlier, ladies think dey r smarter n wud love to expliot u in d name of relationships. Hence word lyk mugu, n phrase lyk #maga don pay wer coined. If u love urself first n more dan her, u wont get her wot u hav never tasted. U wont giv her a treat u hv neva had. There is somethin called self love n self respect n evry guy shud hv dem! Moreova, until u truly love urself, u will find it hard to love others without bein a wuss... lov ur gal bt undastand dat ur a human being too n desearve d good tins of life. Take care of urself too. Love ur life, u hav jst one left. And d final rule.... And the finale Rule 7: Understand who you are as a man: being a man is one of d biggest burdens a human could hav. Ther r previleges of being a man, bt responsibilitie s too. Undastand dat u hv to be on top of evrytin, ur game, (i didnt say ur gal o, i said ur game, hohohohoho). Undastnd dat dis gal would be d first to throw rocks at u if u become a failure in lyf tomoro. Set ur priorities right, make enough money to take care of ur family, both batch A n batch B. Imagine good things u can afford with $10million - a gud house, good car, love, etc. Strive to be d kind of man u wud be happy to have ur sister marry. Nota Bene: i am not prejudiced towards women. Some of the things mentioned here are true and i agree with them... Likewise here,some of you seem like you're making it some sort of race thing,I know all females ain't the same,but I see alot of females used guys that really care about them,and would give their life for them,and them females use them like a piece of garbage,absolutely no love at all,they're just there to see what you can do for them,again,I'm not sayin this is every woman,and I'd rather die than be a footstool for any woman or anyone period for that matter,even though ma men may gone off on some things he said,at the end of the day the message is clear,you a man be a man,and stop being a p$$y,I used to be like that until I had to learned the hard way,so if you guys want rip the man apart go ahead,it doesn't change the fact that alot what he's saying is true and make sense,Oh,and I love women and will always do!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Thu 11/06/14 07:30 AM
Warning: readers discretion adviced. If u can't handle a pretty lenghty write up, den move ahead wit ur life of ignorance; afterall, detest for reading is ingrained in an average black man's DNA. Below are the Rules: Rule 1 Giving all ur love, care, time, even money doesn't guarantee she'll stay: let me tell u what makes women stick to guys thru all season, both good n bad - because... they... wait for it, wait for it, wait for it... want to!!! Yes. They stick to guys because they love d guys n choose to stay with them. U must hv seen or heard of guys who beat up dia gals bt still, d gals cling to dem (nw I'm nt askin u to abuse ur gals). Givin ur gals ur all may be gud, but is nt a reason for dem to stick to u, infact givin dem all in fantastic proportions is unhealthy. I will explain dat subsequently. So dnt tink she's still wit u cos of all the love n money ur showerin on her, wen its tym to leave u, nufin will stop her. Rule 2: Never make her too comfortable: u lov her wit ur lyf. She loves u even more. Bla bla. U devote all ur tym n bein to her, evrytin is magical, she knows ur hers for lyf, den a point is inevitably reached when... u suddenly start lookin lyk an Bottom to her. I knw ur tinkin, dats nt right! D more comfortable u make a person, d more d person should giv more. Yes! Dat is in sync wit logic, but women ain't logical! Once in a while, dnt get jealous, dnt care, dnt spend, hold back urself. Let her run after u. Get a lyf aside her! I can't tell u hw importnt dis is. Rule 3: Family takes precedence over her: it cannot be overemphasised hw important it is for u to knw d people who will be wit u for eva n dos who will * n go. Never take sides wit ur gal against ur mama or sister. Its against d bro code of conduct. Never inconvenience ur family to accommodate "one man's daughter". It will make her respect u. Once u forge ur gal into a wife, gud for u! She's nw ur family n shud nt be inconvinienced for anoda random "non-family". Until u ring her finger, she's fair game, meanin she can dump ur sorry Bottom for anoda. So dnt be silly enough to enjoy temporary things n miss out eternity. Rule 4: She's not worth any emotional/ financial stress: don't struggle to give what u dnt have! Asume she requests for 10k, if u dnt hav it tell her "i dont hv it", if u hav it bt aint feelin charitable, tell her "i wont give, go work for ur money", if u hav n feel lyk sharing, fine! Give her! Relationships r to be enjoyed not tolerated! Dating is not an emancipation frm poverty! Neva you hav sleepless nights for her sake. Neva you borrow to satisfy her every whim! This may sound harsh, but not until ur married to her, u hav no business dealin with her using ur heart, use ur head!! Most men make this moronic mistake of getting worked up over a woman! God! Women r d emotional ones, let dem cry over d relationship, its nt ur job ***! Dnt kill urself for a gal, she would attend ur funeral with a new boyfrend. A word for d wise is sufficient Rule 5: Always get even: women always think they r smatter dan men. Here's why - dey grow up to have huge racks n bums as big as jumbo size hot air balloons, n guys r wired to be attractd to wot dey see, hence dey can manipulate guys, hence dey r smarter! Guys who hv more money than sense tend to give more n get little in a relationship. Y shud u buy her a box of chocolate on her bday n expect hand band on urs?? Get even! For every shoe she buys u, get her a wrist watch, for evry tie, get her a scarf, for every boxer, get her a pant (wait, shey boxers r even more expensiv dan pants, hehehe). This sounds like a game but in truth, datin a 21st century naija babe is a game, im not askin u to win, jst get even. Keep on readin, im not thru. Rule 6: Love yourself first n more: lyk i said earlier, ladies think dey r smarter n wud love to expliot u in d name of relationships. Hence word lyk mugu, n phrase lyk #maga don pay wer coined. If u love urself first n more dan her, u wont get her wot u hav never tasted. U wont giv her a treat u hv neva had. There is somethin called self love n self respect n evry guy shud hv dem! Moreova, until u truly love urself, u will find it hard to love others without bein a wuss... lov ur gal bt undastand dat ur a human being too n desearve d good tins of life. Take care of urself too. Love ur life, u hav jst one left. And d final rule.... And the finale Rule 7: Understand who you are as a man: being a man is one of d biggest burdens a human could hav. Ther r previleges of being a man, bt responsibilitie s too. Undastand dat u hv to be on top of evrytin, ur game, (i didnt say ur gal o, i said ur game, hohohohoho). Undastnd dat dis gal would be d first to throw rocks at u if u become a failure in lyf tomoro. Set ur priorities right, make enough money to take care of ur family, both batch A n batch B. Imagine good things u can afford with $10million - a gud house, good car, love, etc. Strive to be d kind of man u wud be happy to have ur sister marry. Nota Bene: i am not prejudiced towards women. to much It ain't that serious jars

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Thu 11/06/14 08:00 AM
...Rule 5: ...women always think they r smatter dan men... This - given all the rest of the not-quite-ready-for-prime-time-Ebonics - was just weigh 2 preshus. Thank you for your wise words, and...good luck wit dat!!!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 11/06/14 08:05 AM
Some of the things mentioned here are true and i agree with them... Likewise here,some of you seem like you're making it some sort of race thing,I know all females ain't the same,but I see alot of females used guys that really care about them,and would give their life for them,and them females use them like a piece of garbage,absolutely no love at all,they're just there to see what you can do for them,again,I'm not sayin this is every woman,and I'd rather die than be a footstool for any woman or anyone period for that matter,even though ma men may gone off on some things he said,at the end of the day the message is clear,you a man be a man,and stop being a p$$y,I used to be like that until I had to learned the hard way,so if you guys want rip the man apart go ahead,it doesn't change the fact that alot what he's saying is true and make sense,Oh,and I love women and will always do! Although I rarely agree with you on anything; there is some truth in what you wrote but again it goes both ways. My dad treated my mom like crap and he indeed was not a good man, father, or husband. I have a friend that is married and yes his wife treats him like garbage which is sad as he is such a terrific guy. I have lost faith in the human race.

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Thu 11/06/14 08:50 AM
Every time a man/woman purposely sets out to hurt the other, or show dominance over the other, you've just lost a piece of your soul/self. Someone either hurt you badly, or you learned about "love" from bad examples. As a woman/Mom I hear a lot of pain & hurt in your comment. Open your heart & mind so when real love appears in your life, you'll recognize it. I don't know you, but I want you to be happy, Corvettea. In a way, I agree with you, Corvettea! I had been hurt real bad too during my younger days...but you just have to learn to differentiate the good & the bad, and go on with life! You don't lash out at others.... and generalize all women..not all women are such. I could say the same about some of the men out there too....SOME, not all...as always, there will always be a few bad apples, but majority are good men!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Thu 11/06/14 09:37 AM Edited by Awatersign on Thu 11/06/14 09:38 AM
Some of the things mentioned here are true and i agree with them... Likewise here,some of you seem like you're making it some sort of race thing,I know all females ain't the same,but I see alot of females used guys that really care about them,and would give their life for them,and them females use them like a piece of garbage,absolutely no love at all,they're just there to see what you can do for them,again,I'm not sayin this is every woman,and I'd rather die than be a footstool for any woman or anyone period for that matter,even though ma men may gone off on some things he said,at the end of the day the message is clear,you a man be a man,and stop being a p$$y,I used to be like that until I had to learned the hard way,so if you guys want rip the man apart go ahead,it doesn't change the fact that alot what he's saying is true and make sense,Oh,and I love women and will always do! Although I rarely agree with you on anything; there is some truth in what you wrote but again it goes both ways. My dad treated my mom like crap and he indeed was not a good man, father, or husband. I have a friend that is married and yes his wife treats him like garbage which is sad as he is such a terrific guy. I have lost faith in the human race. Are you kidding me navygirl?Like seriously,you "rarely agree"with me,?Like seriously? I'm right all the time, ,weeelll except for when I'm talking to mlrd,she kinda gives me a hard time,but some times I'm right too,but she's normally a "little"ahead of me!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 11/06/14 09:47 AM
Some of the things mentioned here are true and i agree with them... Likewise here,some of you seem like you're making it some sort of race thing,I know all females ain't the same,but I see alot of females used guys that really care about them,and would give their life for them,and them females use them like a piece of garbage,absolutely no love at all,they're just there to see what you can do for them,again,I'm not sayin this is every woman,and I'd rather die than be a footstool for any woman or anyone period for that matter,even though ma men may gone off on some things he said,at the end of the day the message is clear,you a man be a man,and stop being a p$$y,I used to be like that until I had to learned the hard way,so if you guys want rip the man apart go ahead,it doesn't change the fact that alot what he's saying is true and make sense,Oh,and I love women and will always do! Although I rarely agree with you on anything; there is some truth in what you wrote but again it goes both ways. My dad treated my mom like crap and he indeed was not a good man, father, or husband. I have a friend that is married and yes his wife treats him like garbage which is sad as he is such a terrific guy. I have lost faith in the human race. Are you kidding me navygirl?Like seriously,you "rarely agree"with me,?Like seriously? I'm right all the time, ,weeelll except for when I'm talking to mlrd,she kinda gives me a hard time,but some times I'm right too,but she's normally a "little"ahead of me!

sxrfah Joined Thu 10/30/14 Posts: 44	Thu 11/06/14 09:53 AM
There is no rule or way to escape heart break.......It just happens.....Happened with me 2 weeks ago.....

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Thu 11/06/14 10:07 AM
Are you kidding me navygirl?Like seriously,you "rarely agree"with me,?Like seriously? I'm right all the time, ,weeelll except for when I'm talking to mlrd,she kinda gives me a hard time,but some times I'm right too,but she's normally a "little"ahead of me! Whotheheck is this "mlrd" I keep reading all about?!? I wanna meet her!!! *GASP* Has she got me blocked?!?

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Thu 11/06/14 10:07 AM
This thread needs popcorn.

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Thu 11/06/14 11:58 AM
Are you kidding me navygirl?Like seriously,you "rarely agree"with me,?Like seriously? I'm right all the time, ,weeelll except for when I'm talking to mlrd,she kinda gives me a hard time,but some times I'm right too,but she's normally a "little"ahead of me! Whotheheck is this "mlrd" I keep reading all about?!? I wanna meet her!!! *GASP* Has she got me blocked?!? You see what I mean,no room for error ,lol I'm sooo sorry,it's mrld

stan_147 Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 3442	Thu 11/06/14 01:00 PM
i don't detest reading, i detest reading the long winded ramblings of an ignorant misogynist.... THIS! And...

ciretom Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4953	Thu 11/06/14 01:28 PM
JHC this is a mess. Let's see if I can help paraphrase without losing any of it's..stupi...errr...."flavor." Rule 1 You ultimately can't control other people. Not even when you think you are entitled to it due to social obligation or communicating the depth of your feelings. You don't own a woman until you marry her. Rule 2 Don't be a doormat, or at least not always, only when it's working for you and making your life easy and avoiding conflict. Rule 3 Make new friends and family, but keep the old, one is silver, the other is gold, and have the magic ability to know the future beforehand (of who is going to stick around and who isn't). Rule 4 You can't buy love with money, anguish, or emotional obligation. You should try, but find the point where it offers diminishing returns. Rule 5 Treat your relationship like a transaction and always offer fair market value. Don't accept any type of obligation or responsibility towards another person. Rule 6 Always love yourself more than anyone else. Make sure not to experience or try for anything better, only the things you've experienced yourself. You are the ultimate arbitrator of what's good for everyone. Rule 7 Know your role and do it. If you don't, women will throw rocks at you. Because that's all they want, is someone that validates who everyone and everything else thinks you should be and who they think they, themselves, are. ...There you go, those are your "rules." Good luck with that.

jay_a Joined Fri 11/07/14 Posts: 13	Sun 11/09/14 11:27 PM
Warning: readers discretion adviced. If u can't handle a pretty lenghty write up, den move ahead wit ur life of ignorance; afterall, detest for reading is ingrained in an average black man's DNA. Below are the Rules: Rule 1 Giving all ur love, care, time, even money doesn't guarantee she'll stay: let me tell u what makes women stick to guys thru all season, both good n bad - because... they... wait for it, wait for it, wait for it... want to!!! Yes. They stick to guys because they love d guys n choose to stay with them. U must hv seen or heard of guys who beat up dia gals bt still, d gals cling to dem (nw I'm nt askin u to abuse ur gals). Givin ur gals ur all may be gud, but is nt a reason for dem to stick to u, infact givin dem all in fantastic proportions is unhealthy. I will explain dat subsequently. So dnt tink she's still wit u cos of all the love n money ur showerin on her, wen its tym to leave u, nufin will stop her. Rule 2: Never make her too comfortable: u lov her wit ur lyf. She loves u even more. Bla bla. U devote all ur tym n bein to her, evrytin is magical, she knows ur hers for lyf, den a point is inevitably reached when... u suddenly start lookin lyk an Bottom to her. I knw ur tinkin, dats nt right! D more comfortable u make a person, d more d person should giv more. Yes! Dat is in sync wit logic, but women ain't logical! Once in a while, dnt get jealous, dnt care, dnt spend, hold back urself. Let her run after u. Get a lyf aside her! I can't tell u hw importnt dis is. Rule 3: Family takes precedence over her: it cannot be overemphasised hw important it is for u to knw d people who will be wit u for eva n dos who will * n go. Never take sides wit ur gal against ur mama or sister. Its against d bro code of conduct. Never inconvenience ur family to accommodate "one man's daughter". It will make her respect u. Once u forge ur gal into a wife, gud for u! She's nw ur family n shud nt be inconvinienced for anoda random "non-family". Until u ring her finger, she's fair game, meanin she can dump ur sorry Bottom for anoda. So dnt be silly enough to enjoy temporary things n miss out eternity. Rule 4: She's not worth any emotional/ financial stress: don't struggle to give what u dnt have! Asume she requests for 10k, if u dnt hav it tell her "i dont hv it", if u hav it bt aint feelin charitable, tell her "i wont give, go work for ur money", if u hav n feel lyk sharing, fine! Give her! Relationships r to be enjoyed not tolerated! Dating is not an emancipation frm poverty! Neva you hav sleepless nights for her sake. Neva you borrow to satisfy her every whim! This may sound harsh, but not until ur married to her, u hav no business dealin with her using ur heart, use ur head!! Most men make this moronic mistake of getting worked up over a woman! God! Women r d emotional ones, let dem cry over d relationship, its nt ur job ***! Dnt kill urself for a gal, she would attend ur funeral with a new boyfrend. A word for d wise is sufficient Rule 5: Always get even: women always think they r smatter dan men. Here's why - dey grow up to have huge racks n bums as big as jumbo size hot air balloons, n guys r wired to be attractd to wot dey see, hence dey can manipulate guys, hence dey r smarter! Guys who hv more money than sense tend to give more n get little in a relationship. Y shud u buy her a box of chocolate on her bday n expect hand band on urs?? Get even! For every shoe she buys u, get her a wrist watch, for evry tie, get her a scarf, for every boxer, get her a pant (wait, shey boxers r even more expensiv dan pants, hehehe). This sounds like a game but in truth, datin a 21st century naija babe is a game, im not askin u to win, jst get even. Keep on readin, im not thru. Rule 6: Love yourself first n more: lyk i said earlier, ladies think dey r smarter n wud love to expliot u in d name of relationships. Hence word lyk mugu, n phrase lyk #maga don pay wer coined. If u love urself first n more dan her, u wont get her wot u hav never tasted. U wont giv her a treat u hv neva had. There is somethin called self love n self respect n evry guy shud hv dem! Moreova, until u truly love urself, u will find it hard to love others without bein a wuss... lov ur gal bt undastand dat ur a human being too n desearve d good tins of life. Take care of urself too. Love ur life, u hav jst one left. And d final rule.... And the finale Rule 7: Understand who you are as a man: being a man is one of d biggest burdens a human could hav. Ther r previleges of being a man, bt responsibilitie s too. Undastand dat u hv to be on top of evrytin, ur game, (i didnt say ur gal o, i said ur game, hohohohoho). Undastnd dat dis gal would be d first to throw rocks at u if u become a failure in lyf tomoro. Set ur priorities right, make enough money to take care of ur family, both batch A n batch B. Imagine good things u can afford with $10million - a gud house, good car, love, etc. Strive to be d kind of man u wud be happy to have ur sister marry. Nota Bene: i am not prejudiced towards women. so sad to read all this stuff

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Tue 12/23/14 09:21 AM
This guy is not the only one to give up here, it's just his way is a little different than others here who have decided to only use the forum to make friends.

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Tue 12/23/14 09:38 AM Edited by davidben1 on Tue 12/23/14 09:44 AM
huh... did i hear a boy mention the seven rules to not get hurt? i wanna hear about the seven rules to not hurt "her". then a boy becomes a man. then no man shall be hurt him self, with boy decisions and boy actions... as what men make it about their own emotional pain, and not her's... please. as we are certainly not talking about physical pain. sorry. just had to vent on such ludicrous theories of a "man" self protection guide. flowers for you as i am sure you wish she would bring you.

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Tue 12/23/14 09:48 AM
Warning: readers discretion adviced. If u can't handle a pretty lenghty write up, den move ahead wit ur life of ignorance; afterall, detest for reading is ingrained in an average black man's DNA. Below are the Rules: Rule 1 Giving all ur love, care, time, even money doesn't guarantee she'll stay: let me tell u what makes women stick to guys thru all season, both good n bad - because... they... wait for it, wait for it, wait for it... want to!!! Yes. They stick to guys because they love d guys n choose to stay with them. U must hv seen or heard of guys who beat up dia gals bt still, d gals cling to dem (nw I'm nt askin u to abuse ur gals). Givin ur gals ur all may be gud, but is nt a reason for dem to stick to u, infact givin dem all in fantastic proportions is unhealthy. I will explain dat subsequently. So dnt tink she's still wit u cos of all the love n money ur showerin on her, wen its tym to leave u, nufin will stop her. Rule 2: Never make her too comfortable: u lov her wit ur lyf. She loves u even more. Bla bla. U devote all ur tym n bein to her, evrytin is magical, she knows ur hers for lyf, den a point is inevitably reached when... u suddenly start lookin lyk an Bottom to her. I knw ur tinkin, dats nt right! D more comfortable u make a person, d more d person should giv more. Yes! Dat is in sync wit logic, but women ain't logical! Once in a while, dnt get jealous, dnt care, dnt spend, hold back urself. Let her run after u. Get a lyf aside her! I can't tell u hw importnt dis is. Rule 3: Family takes precedence over her: it cannot be overemphasised hw important it is for u to knw d people who will be wit u for eva n dos who will * n go. Never take sides wit ur gal against ur mama or sister. Its against d bro code of conduct. Never inconvenience ur family to accommodate "one man's daughter". It will make her respect u. Once u forge ur gal into a wife, gud for u! She's nw ur family n shud nt be inconvinienced for anoda random "non-family". Until u ring her finger, she's fair game, meanin she can dump ur sorry Bottom for anoda. So dnt be silly enough to enjoy temporary things n miss out eternity. Rule 4: She's not worth any emotional/ financial stress: don't struggle to give what u dnt have! Asume she requests for 10k, if u dnt hav it tell her "i dont hv it", if u hav it bt aint feelin charitable, tell her "i wont give, go work for ur money", if u hav n feel lyk sharing, fine! Give her! Relationships r to be enjoyed not tolerated! Dating is not an emancipation frm poverty! Neva you hav sleepless nights for her sake. Neva you borrow to satisfy her every whim! This may sound harsh, but not until ur married to her, u hav no business dealin with her using ur heart, use ur head!! Most men make this moronic mistake of getting worked up over a woman! God! Women r d emotional ones, let dem cry over d relationship, its nt ur job ***! Dnt kill urself for a gal, she would attend ur funeral with a new boyfrend. A word for d wise is sufficient Rule 5: Always get even: women always think they r smatter dan men. Here's why - dey grow up to have huge racks n bums as big as jumbo size hot air balloons, n guys r wired to be attractd to wot dey see, hence dey can manipulate guys, hence dey r smarter! Guys who hv more money than sense tend to give more n get little in a relationship. Y shud u buy her a box of chocolate on her bday n expect hand band on urs?? Get even! For every shoe she buys u, get her a wrist watch, for evry tie, get her a scarf, for every boxer, get her a pant (wait, shey boxers r even more expensiv dan pants, hehehe). This sounds like a game but in truth, datin a 21st century naija babe is a game, im not askin u to win, jst get even. Keep on readin, im not thru. Rule 6: Love yourself first n more: lyk i said earlier, ladies think dey r smarter n wud love to expliot u in d name of relationships. Hence word lyk mugu, n phrase lyk #maga don pay wer coined. If u love urself first n more dan her, u wont get her wot u hav never tasted. U wont giv her a treat u hv neva had. There is somethin called self love n self respect n evry guy shud hv dem! Moreova, until u truly love urself, u will find it hard to love others without bein a wuss... lov ur gal bt undastand dat ur a human being too n desearve d good tins of life. Take care of urself too. Love ur life, u hav jst one left. And d final rule.... And the finale Rule 7: Understand who you are as a man: being a man is one of d biggest burdens a human could hav. Ther r previleges of being a man, bt responsibilitie s too. Undastand dat u hv to be on top of evrytin, ur game, (i didnt say ur gal o, i said ur game, hohohohoho). Undastnd dat dis gal would be d first to throw rocks at u if u become a failure in lyf tomoro. Set ur priorities right, make enough money to take care of ur family, both batch A n batch B. Imagine good things u can afford with $10million - a gud house, good car, love, etc. Strive to be d kind of man u wud be happy to have ur sister marry. Nota Bene: i am not prejudiced towards women. And these rules are working so well for you that you're on a dating/social site lookin' for a date?

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 12/24/14 07:54 AM
I thought jive talking died in the 70s with Pam Grier.

theseacoast Joined Wed 07/09/14 Posts: 7419	Wed 12/24/14 11:48 AM
Oh, OP, thank you for opening my eyes and showing me what i did wrong with all the guys I dated with. I�ll follow all of your advices and I�ll hopefully awoid any heartbreak that might happen So if I want to increase man�s love toward me I should behave toward him as he would be just nothing for me. I�ll decrease every piece of attention, affection or love in order to increase his affection toward me. I�ll let him to run for me and should never show that I feel something for him, or, good God, do for him anything that is in any way more than minimum. I�ll never have sleepless night because of him and when he needs me in any way, I�ll dump him and leave him to take care of himself. I�ll be with him only and only if my own needs are to be satisfied. Thank you OP, you helped me so much! I�ll forget everything I ever belived in about relationship as a tie of two persons who are equal to each other, where any of them shouldn�t suffer but be support to each other. I�ll forget everything about love, because there wouldn�t be no love in a such relationship, no respect for each other, no sharing of each others joys and sorrows. He will be a good guy only if he serves my needs. In order to prevent my own heartbreak, I�ll break his heart. Yes, I�ll count whatever I do for him and be careful not to give a bit more than he does. OP - it�s really genious!!!

theseacoast Joined Wed 07/09/14 Posts: 7419	Wed 12/24/14 04:55 PM
huh... did i hear a boy mention the seven rules to not get hurt? i wanna hear about the seven rules to not hurt "her". then a boy becomes a man. then no man shall be hurt him self, with boy decisions and boy actions... as what men make it about their own emotional pain, and not her's... please. as we are certainly not talking about physical pain. sorry. just had to vent on such ludicrous theories of a "man" self protection guide. flowers for you as i am sure you wish she would bring you. davidben