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Topic: would you help
SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sat 11/01/14 07:59 PM

I can't lie,I don't never like to get involve in love quarrels,never,I've seen it over and over,they always end up back together and sometimes turn on YOU,but there're times when people are really in abusive relationships and NEED and WANT help and are scared,and alot of times you may know it if you observe them,I think you should help them,but not for the sake of sticking your nose in what don't concern you,(not saying you),and in that case,I would use my judgment,depends on how serious and how often,I would call the popo if I think it's necessary!!

I sort of feel like this ^^^
What if the woman doesn't want to press charges? Then nothing will happen, right? But you end up having a possibly serious problem with your neighbours, they may make your life he|| - and your children's. Like what Watersign said, it can backfire. Then you're a single woman with kids .. maybe having to take on a bloke. On average a bloke is (much) stronger than a woman. So unless it sounded like someone was actually (almost) being killed, I'm not sure I would get involved ..

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Sat 11/01/14 08:01 PM
When you say nothing, or turn a blind eye, you are siding with the one doing the assault.
Their behavior may be acceptable in the middle east and some places in Asia but in the US it's against the law.
Also if you're worried about them doing something to get back at you, I have two words "Shot Gun!" You don't even have to be a good shot, just load it with bird shot and point in the general direction. It doesn't penetrate walls very well so you don't really have to worry about accidentally killing someone in the next room if you miss. If you don't want to keep it loaded, that's cool too because I can almost guaranty that if someone brakes in to you home at night and they hear you rack that puppy in the dark, they're going to be looking for the way out really fast.

TawtStrat's photo
Sun 11/02/14 02:30 AM
Great advice about the shotgun. You're likely to be the one having the cops at your door if you do that. Likewise if you get violent with the guy.

A friend of mine once said to me about a girl that I know that had been systematically abused that she still chose to go back in to that room though. Think about that.

Amelinng's photo
Sun 11/02/14 02:59 AM
Since you did not mention where the Muslim couple is from (Middle East? Asian?).... if you can, just let the wife know that you are aware of her situation and that you can help if she needs it. She could be afraid too and have no one to turn to, not know what to do, could be deported? ... or has nowhere to go! This way you can be sure that your help is required, help out when required .... and not invite 'repercussions' to the safety of your own family, your children's safety must be taken care of too!
Take care, dear!



Tryztan's photo
Sun 11/02/14 03:07 AM
First you beat the husband up to see how he likes it.
Then you call the police to make sure the wife/family is taken care of.

TawtStrat's photo
Sun 11/02/14 03:29 AM
Then the police aresst you for beating up the husband and you wonder why the wife isn't giving evidence against him when you already knew that she wasn't doing that.

Tune in next week folks for more vigilante advice that's guaranteed to end you up in jail.

Tryztan's photo
Sun 11/02/14 03:53 AM
Edited by Tryztan on Sun 11/02/14 03:55 AM

Then the police aresst you for beating up the husband and you wonder why the wife isn't giving evidence against him when you already knew that she wasn't doing that.

Tune in next week folks for more vigilante advice that's guaranteed to end you up in jail.


Maybe if you're in America where if you look at someone the wrong way you get charge

Here, people are not so quick to jump into the courts. Usually goes something like "I have a problem with you because *insert reason here*" so then you fight and then you buy each other a beer afterwards. Case closed.

Edit Spelling errors.

mom333's photo
Sun 11/02/14 04:01 AM

Since you did not mention where the Muslim couple is from (Middle East? Asian?).... if you can, just let the wife know that you are aware of her situation and that you can help if she needs it. She could be afraid too and have no one to turn to, not know what to do, could be deported? ... or has nowhere to go! This way you can be sure that your help is required, help out when required .... and not invite 'repercussions' to the safety of your own family, your children's safety must be taken care of too!
Take care, dear!



I couldn't sleep last night thinking about what I should do so I went next door after he left( they came back really early this morning. I told her what I had heard and she shouted at me not in English and then she said I kill you black *****. I'm sorry but Im glad I did not go to the police as the after affects of that could have been catastrophic. I have children to think about so regardless of whether people think it wrong not to say anything sometimes its wise not to. if something happened to them because I just had to get involved I couldn't live with myself. if she needs me ill be there. if im wrong im wrong if im right im right. what would you do if you were im my situation?

Amelinng's photo
Sun 11/02/14 04:45 AM


Since you did not mention where the Muslim couple is from (Middle East? Asian?).... if you can, just let the wife know that you are aware of her situation and that you can help if she needs it. She could be afraid too and have no one to turn to, not know what to do, could be deported? ... or has nowhere to go! This way you can be sure that your help is required, help out when required .... and not invite 'repercussions' to the safety of your own family, your children's safety must be taken care of too!
Take care, dear!



I couldn't sleep last night thinking about what I should do so I went next door after he left( they came back really early this morning. I told her what I had heard and she shouted at me not in English and then she said I kill you black *****. I'm sorry but Im glad I did not go to the police as the after affects of that could have been catastrophic. I have children to think about so regardless of whether people think it wrong not to say anything sometimes its wise not to. if something happened to them because I just had to get involved I couldn't live with myself. if she needs me ill be there. if im wrong im wrong if im right im right. what would you do if you were im my situation?


Yes....you acted on your instincts! Good for you..... at least you have done your part and reached out to her! The next step is hers. With that kind of neighbors....you take care and tell your children if they are not too young to understand, what the situation is, in case it happens again. That way, they won't be traumatized by the happenings. Just my say...flowerforyou

Amelinng's photo
Sun 11/02/14 04:47 AM

ENGLAND: NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FREE PHONE HELPLINE

0808 2000 247

Better off getting advice here.

If they have a secure shelter, this woman may be able to leave. If she cant be protected, she probably wont leave, understandably.


Good to take note of this .....agree!

TawtStrat's photo
Sun 11/02/14 01:41 PM


Then the police aresst you for beating up the husband and you wonder why the wife isn't giving evidence against him when you already knew that she wasn't doing that.

Tune in next week folks for more vigilante advice that's guaranteed to end you up in jail.


Maybe if you're in America where if you look at someone the wrong way you get charge

Here, people are not so quick to jump into the courts. Usually goes something like "I have a problem with you because *insert reason here*" so then you fight and then you buy each other a beer afterwards. Case closed.

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I don't know where "here" is but you're talking about asault and breach of the peace in the UK. Don't kid yourself that the cops won't take that seriously if the guy decides to press charges against you.

Also, muslims don't drink beer.

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Sun 11/02/14 01:59 PM



even though they will know its you and could do something


I am sorry but you have been given a **** sandwich, and either you do nothing face those consequences, or you do something and face those consequences.
I suppose trying to live a good life means doing something good even though you wont be very popular after doing it. I'm just scared that me and my kids will have to deal with the brunt of their anger :(

living a good life means doing your best to do what you feel is right. being the example you want your kids to follow.

as for repercussions for reporting when someone is being victimized, there are witness protection laws.
when I witnessed someone being victimized. the culprits buddies tried to be intimidating at my house. I called our local sheriff and the others also got arrested. it added intimidation charges to what the guy was already facing.

Amelinng's photo
Sun 11/02/14 03:23 PM


Also, muslims don't drink beer.


I would say 'good muslims' don't drink beer, don't womanise, don't kill, don't beat their wives or children, don't gamble, etc etc.

But then again, ALL good people don't do that either.



Mdarlene's photo
Sun 11/02/14 05:46 PM
In Canada you just explain that they fell and hit their head if the police are good they go with it:smile:


Then the police aresst you for beating up the husband and you wonder why the wife isn't giving evidence against him when you already knew that she wasn't doing that.

Tune in next week folks for more vigilante advice that's guaranteed to end you up in jail.


Maybe if you're in America where if you look at someone the wrong way you get charge

Here, people are not so quick to jump into the courts. Usually goes something like "I have a problem with you because *insert reason here*" so then you fight and then you buy each other a beer afterwards. Case closed.

Edit Spelling errors.


I don't know where "here" is but you're talking about asault and breach of the peace in the UK. Don't kid yourself that the cops won't take that seriously if the guy decides to press charges against you.

Also, muslims don't drink beer.

markc48's photo
Sun 11/02/14 07:28 PM
Just tell the operator you don't want them to contact you. I hear this on the scanner all the time.

Totage's photo
Sun 11/02/14 07:59 PM

you hear the Muslim couple next door arguing you ignore it but then you can hear he is obviously beating her because she is screaming. would you ring the police even though you know they have a big family and the neighbours on the other side moved out a long while ago so they will know its you, or would you carry on ignoring it.


I would try to talk to the woman alone and help her get the help she needs. I would not do anything to escalate the situation, harming her any further, or myself.

Justfun_1's photo
Sun 11/02/14 08:06 PM



Then the police aresst you for beating up the husband and you wonder why the wife isn't giving evidence against him when you already knew that she wasn't doing that.

Tune in next week folks for more vigilante advice that's guaranteed to end you up in jail.


Maybe if you're in America where if you look at someone the wrong way you get charge

Here, people are not so quick to jump into the courts. Usually goes something like "I have a problem with you because *insert reason here*" so then you fight and then you buy each other a beer afterwards. Case closed.

Edit Spelling errors.


I don't know where "here" is but you're talking about asault and breach of the peace in the UK. Don't kid yourself that the cops won't take that seriously if the guy decides to press charges against you.

Also, muslims don't drink beer.
Muslims are not supposed to drink beer,but many living in western countries do.

jacktrades's photo
Sun 11/02/14 11:11 PM
I would call the police, he might be beating her to death. I had this problem when I lived in Detroit and the man got deported because he beat her so bad and so often.I had the police tell them someone walking by called them. Anyway be careful.

davidben1's photo
Mon 11/03/14 12:33 AM
HELL NO! RUN! BLIND MICE EAT MOLDY CHEESE!

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