I am a 29 year old guy who is looking to meet an older women for something casual but it is nearly impossible in melbourne. Has anyone got any ideas or help? It could be becuase I have no idea even to go about talking to an older women just because I don't want to come across as dodgey. Any help would be appreciated!

its all relatively
if you talking about 10 years older than you, she should be 39... you call her older, I call her babe

Women of all ages are in all places so you're lucky there. Melbourne has a lot of varied venues, a big music scene and plenty of daytime meets for every interest from markets to car rallies and nature walks or conservation demonstrations.

Start by mooting your interests, the kind of get togethers where, if random people were attending you're fairly likely to be able to strike up a topical conversation.

Being interested in particular women or demographics of women works for you, you don't actually have to try to express an interest in something you're already interested in, it shows on your face every time they walk by. So that part doesn't take any work. If you don't get a response just being you then it's because they're not available or mutually interested, not because they can't tell you're interested.

The real trick to overcome confrontational shyness seeking a date is using proxies. Have something topical to talk about. If at a cafe for example, and you see an older woman you find striking and attractive, you don't have to approach her confrontationally with an offer of personal congress. You can just go order another coffee so you're standing beside her and make a small joke about something, or do some small talk like a regular person talking to another regular person.

The thing is, if you just talk to women you like as if they're regular joes, they still get that you like them, it shows in body language, but it's just a nice friendly start where you can ease into taking a table together or something like that in a relaxed way.

The main trick about self confidence is relaxation. Being relaxed is to be confident, if you think of something to say but actually saying it makes you tense, then it's the wrong thing to say. See how that works? Say things you feel relaxed about saying and you'll always be confident, and also most honest. If you add the fact you're interested in the person, it shows and that's the part they'll respond to.

So the real answer is: anywhere mate. The supermarket, a music venue, wherever you happen to be at the time. Increase rates of encounter by selection of venue, be yourself and that means always acting with relaxation, then nature does the rest if it's there to be done.

Of course if you just want a cake recipe answer then go to an over 35s nightclub, they're all over the place in Melb. You'll catch something nasty and walk with drongos but maybe that's the place to get your feet wet and figure out who you are to people.

There is the occasional sincere middle aged woman at those places, they're just overwhelmed by a very poor crowd. Maybe you can save her.


If the bouncers ask your age just glare at them and say do I look 12 to you?

2 million plus population.....your kidding right?

Both your answers sounds pretty solid! good advice mate cheers!

Older woman means different things to different people, James. What do you consider old?

Are we talking Bingo parlor old.. face lift old or nursing home old?... if its nursing home old, just remember its " lights out " at 7PM

happy hunting

Retirement homes ?

1) Go to Melbourne.
2) Find where at the prison they release the female inmates.
3) Wait there, with puppy-dog eyes and a hamburger.

Call AARP. Maybe they have leads to help ya out?

(4) Make sure you don't get shived in the back for the hamburger.

hahahahaha
Got your own shiv, eh? :-)

Try the post office on pension day

Actually Sophie, you have given me an idea lol

Have you considered, funeral homes?
Lonely widows need love too.