cut your family out of your life? I don't mean your children I mean you mom dad brothers sisters etc.

Nothing whatsoever

I can't.
Have tried with some, but couldn't do it.
Family is family..to the bitter end.

circumstances , the same as happening now , i am far from them , i didn't cut them out of my life , but i guess it would be difficult to meet when needed .

you can choose your friends but your stuck with your family, always make the most of it when you realize they are no longer there it is to late

Personally, I wouldn't cut them off. It would be nice if they lived closer to me.

But, since you asked that question I wonder what would family have to do to deserve being cut off. Hmmm... if there is a really good reason, than it would be an option, but it would have to be something SERIOUS.

Anyways, why not give yourself some time just to make sure such a decision is not made while some emotions are still too strong, preventing you from thinking straight? Sometimes time gives us a perspective.

^^^This...To the bitter end and no matter what...

A lack of desire on their part to be a part of my life?

Although I wouldn't really "cut" them out so much as not try very hard to keep them a part of it?

Otherwise if my life was in danger?

Like my mom kept slipping meth in my corn flakes, my uncle was shooting at my house, my cousins gang kept trying to recruit me, or my sister kept trying to stab or rape me? Something like that?

nothing.
oh there have been reasons I should have, but when it gets real, they are still my flesh and blood

about 2 years ago I went on holiday with my sister, brothers, nephew, and their children and girlfriend. it was all going good until we went to the beach, we were all having a good time and then my brother the one I was closet with started playing with my son who has Asperger's. they were playing and some sand got into my brothers headphones and he went mad I mean really angry started calling my son an idiot and shouting obviously I stepped in from the start and said nobody talks to my son like that I don't care who you are, I screamed at my brother for doing that but nobody said anything in our defence. me and my children left the beach and went back to the caravan. the minute they came back from the beach they were horrible I mean I would call it bullying they treated us really bad. I had to get some nit treatment for my girl and I was going to do her hair in the bathroom but my sister shouted at me not to and I should take her outside (in front of all the caravans where people can see)I said no that would embarrass her so I did her hair in the bathroom with my sister having a go at me. my sister and the others stopped all the children playing with mine and cut us out of everything. I needed a tin opener from my brothers caravan even though it was actually ours they had taken it so my son knocked on the door which was right in front of our kitchen window so I could see him, my brother opened the door and said something to him my son tried to get in but he pushed him and then slammed his leg in the door. I ran up to the door and banged on the door my brother opened it and told me to go away I saw red and shouted again at him telling him what he was doing was not fair. they were all smoking drugs in the caravan with their kids in there also. me and my children stayed away from them until it was time to leave and the whole way back home they called me every name under the sun and my sister stayed quiet, even my nephew said some horrible things like im a sl*t and a wh**e because im a single mom he said all of this in front of my children who at this point were crying. when I got home I found that they had taken my cards I had to cancel them. when the kids had gone to bed after I had tried to cheer them up I broke down crying I felt worthless it was horrible. the next day I decided to never have anything to do with them again and I have not seen them since even though my sister texts me sometimes to see how we are I don't answer. would you do the same if you were me.

I cut my dad out. Haven't seen that magician for a long time. Wish you well & the best for yourself & the kids.

never,nothing will ever make cut them out,its un-African

never,nothing will ever make cut them out,its un-African

never,nothing will ever make cut them out,its un-African

how would you get through what happened then

I've had my fair share of problems with my parents in the past. Aggravating, for a long time I felt I had to please them. Then I read the best thing ever on this subject:
"You don't get to choose your parents & family. You just happen to be born in it. The only people you get to choose in life, are your partner and friends.
If you could, would you choose your mum / dad for a friend? You don't have to like your parents, but not matter what, they will always be your parents. And as such, you can appreciate and respect them."

That was a major eye-opener for me. I suddenly realized it was okay for me to not like things about my mum, but she was still my mum and I still loved her for that!

I have cut my mum out of my life a few times. My mum has some really unpleasant sides to her, trying to domineer my life, manipulative, she's very good at victimizing herself at my expense if I don't do what she wants me to do and when she wants me to do it. She also did the same thing to my then partner whenever it suited her, so her behaviour and demands effected my relationships as well.
And a few times it just got too much. Tried to talk to her about it, to no avail. Then I just tell her that it's not going to work this way and that it's best we don't speak/see each other. I never mean it to last a lifetime.
I have noticed that after a few months she behaves differently. Treats me with more respect as opposed to a child who will jump at her will.
She has a good heart, means well in general, and I love her, but I don't allow her to dominate my life.

Like children should respect their parents, parents should respect their children just the same. I know I do mine!! A lesson I've learnt cos of my own parents' behaviour. So something good came from it lol.

I've cut my 2nd oldest brother out of my life. After he attempted to steal my Identity, and stole many other things to fund his habit for Heroin, and Cocaine. The constant lies, all just enough to say get the "F" out of my life.

Simple,if they cut ME out,but I really don't know for sure,but what I do know though,is ANYONE,that includes family too,that doesn't mean me any good,I'm staying FAAAR from them as possible,and they can count on that!

It is so sad when drugs play a role in the breakup of family values...you have been great to protect your children and shield them as much as you can.

Family ties are important...I would say keep that tie with that sister of yours who still texts you. As for your other siblings...just ignore them and live your own life. When they get back on track....if ever they do, then they might realise what they have done wrong. And if they come look you up....the bridge is still there!

Anyway, that is the way I see it and know it from my own experience!

I live away from my mom and siblings, and so can be neutral. When my eldest brother had a misunderstanding and wanted to cut off ties with the rest of my siblings. I called everyone, got the story out....we shouted, we called each other names, we banged the tables, but we got it all out and managed to sort it out. Now, we are ok....and happy as a family can be! I love my family to bits!

thank you everyone for giving me advice I really do appreciate it