The connection, is the era.

Truth hurt, Conrad?

I say that because your response is incredibly defensive.

Uche never said a couple should stay together no matter what - of course there are going to be exceptions. The point is to take vows seriously that you made of your own volition - no one put a gun to your head to make those vows. You should work incredibly hard to keep them.

Uche never said "God said so" - a little sensitive about that too, are we? Carrying around some adolescent angst you haven't quite dealt with yet?

I'm curious how you thing preachers profit greatly from the misery of couples who are struggling. Most marriage counseling in churches is done at no charge.

PS: Did I put enough paragraph divisions in my post or did some other completely irrelevant thing I've done get your panties all twisted up?

Nice first posting rickuptain.

Agree partially with Uchea, if you know upfront you won't or can't remain faithful, don't get married or involved. Unless both agree to have an open relationship, but then it isn't cheating.
Thing is, you don't always know upfront. I think most ppl truly think and intend to stay together and not stray.
So you may very well be sincere when you make those vows.

I do not agree with divorcee stigma, but I guess there still can be a stigma in some countries. There was stigma here up till the mid / end 70s, there isn't anymore.

the other thing that throws up a little bit of a red flag to me is with Unch. His words are definitely spirited and uplifting to those who follow that thought pattern.
He stated that he is not looking for a relationship "in the worldly sense" but is looking for a helpmate to help out in the ministry. A female helpmate. which could lead to other good things. Unch's profile is very detailed.. very well written. The only two areas that are not so defined are Marital status and children.. both left as no answer.

Now I'm not saying that anything is out of line Unch, but clearly you can see where confusion can be had when you post on a subject in such a spirited pointed way, but fail to answer two key questions that would kind of affect the message that you are relaying.

just my take on it.

The connection, is the era.

As I see it, if one is going to lecture others about marriage and divorce, then perhaps one should indicate one's marital status on one's profile. Otherwise, it will appear as if one is hiding something.

i don't think it matters what era it is a vow is a vow if you don't want to keep to the vow then don't marry and if you think that you are the kind of person who will hurt the other then why would you put them through it and or any kids that may be involved. i just don't see the point.

Thanks Rick and remain blessed

As I see it, if one is going to lecture others about marriage and divorce, then perhaps one should indicate one's marital status on one's profile. Otherwise, it will appear as if one is hiding something.

i don't think it matters what era it is a vow is a vow if you don't want to keep to the vow then don't marry and if you think that you are the kind of person who will hurt the other then why would you put them through it and or any kids that may be involved. i just don't see the point.

Dave,thanks for your observation.However,i tried to contact you but your preference setting only allowed females to send mail to you.Everyone has a reason for doing what,hence alien dodo,lol. shalom!

Dave,thanks for your observation.However,i tried to contact you but your preference setting only allowed females to send mail to you.Everyone has a reason for doing what,hence alien dodo,lol. shalom!

Oh.

So, only divorced women are on dating sites? Not a single divorced man is here, huh?


And all the divorced women are in that current state because they cheated on their husbands? Not a single divorced man here cheated...every single one of 'em was the cheatee, NOT the cheater?


Got it. Those dammed wimmenz.

Those who have ears have heard the advice i posted,its wasnt meant for needless argument.Thanks

Dave,thanks for your observation.However,i tried to contact you but your preference setting only allowed females to send mail to you.Everyone has a reason for doing what,hence alien dodo,lol. shalom!

I get it.
You got caught cheating on your wife, so she cheated on you, so you came here to tell us how butthurt you are.

Peruse a copy of Webster's dictionary,
and guess which two words you'll find sympathy between.

Mingle2 is really entertaining! Divergent views,criticisms(both constructive and caustic),arguments,transference of aggressions,opinions,outright vicious antagonistic attacks(thanks to our most liberal moderators who allow blatant circumvention of the rules),views,etc.Its fun to read from the good,the bad and the ugly without which here would be really boring!!.I enjoy all these hence my constant posting of topics.More 'harsher' reactions,criticisms and good hearted responses are welcome,as they toughen me to face a contradictory world.Thanks to you all!!

No,that wasnt implied.I made it clear that both men and women are involved.Those who have ears have heard the advice i posted,its wasnt meant for needless argument.Thanks

...The myriad of divorcees on dating sites attest to the agony of consequences of cheating and other vices married people engage in.Why risk carrying the stigma that goes with that title, "a divorcee" because of cheating on your spouse?