Hi everyone, just interested in some feedback.
Last weekend was my 30th and I pretty much worked all day, which didn't bother me. I just wanted to hang with my boyfriend afterwards, no biggie. Except he was asleep and didn't hear me knocking on his door. I tried calling some friends, but they crapped out on me. I guess I pretty much had a mental breakdown and sunday morning dumped my boyfriend. After that I felt like ****. This week I told him I might be considering just a break for a while. But he's the type thats happy to see me just once a week and hardly talk to me.

Am I wrong, or shouldn't people spend more time together, especially if they care about each other?

Feel free to tell me anything that comes to mind, even if you think I'm mental.

if yer not satisfied with the relationship

its time for a new one

but hey what do i know

ok...you're wrong

obviously both of u have two very different ideas of what a relationship requires, you should really reconsider your options?

i think that if he only wanted to spend time with you anly once a month and didn't talk to you i think you did the right thing.

I think that ppl sould spend as much time together as the relationship requires. Guys generally do not require as much personal attention as ladies do, IMAO, at least that is true for me and the ladies I have been with. Each has to be aware of the others personal needs or it is going nowhere.communication and compromise on the two different sets of needs must be accomplished or the relationship will crash on one side or the other

I've been in situations where I wanted to be with somebody all the time, and then I've been in situations where I was OK with seeing her 10 minutes every 3 years.

Obviously, the former is a little more indicative of a close realtionship than the latter!

But....you know, different people are comfortable in different circumstances. I think the whole concept of thinking of someone as being "clingy" is probably just a symptom of one person wanting to spend more time together than the other one does.

And there's never really a "right" and "wrong" because people have different needs. I mean, it would be great if two people wanted to spend exactly the same amount of time with each other, but how realistic is that?

So I think it comes down to communication and compromise and sensitivity to the other person's feelings and needs. We all have obligations in our lives, some more than others, and this will impact on the amount of time we have to devote to someone.

I don't think you're mental, I just think that it sounds like there has been a discrepancy in your relationship, and he either isn't aware or doesn't fully comprehend that your need for time together is greater than his. I think this is the sort of issue that HAS to be resolved before you can take things any further with him. Otherwise, there will be some resentment developing, maybe on BOTH sides.

I would suggest you sit down and make a list of the things you really need in a relationship, and another list of the things that you would be willing to compromise on. We all have our non-negotiables, our deal-breakers, and you need to fully understand what those are and how they will apply to your choice of a partner in the future.

Just don't let this get you down. It's a speed bump, not a
wall....

And welcome to JSH!!

say you have a live one.
he is glad to see you when? and for how long, and you dumped him, then came back?

what is wrong with this picture?

for one he was jurk for not thinking of you on your birthday.... i think you did the right thing ,he wasent considerate enough

I'm amazed about all the answers so far. Everybody has a good point too. Thanx!

I wouldnt say that you were wrong...well, maybe...since you are still my wife I would thank yeah you should break up with him. I wish you could see that after 9 yrs of marriage and 2 kids we should try to make it work. I know I have seen that I needed change and the time we have been apart has allowed me much time. I know I was not so great and did wrong to you. I am sorry, and it has taken all my strength to change who I am...I am not who I used to be. Too bad you refuse to see it.

I thought of you on your birhday.

and...i dont think you are mental...I love you