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Topic: Why don't girls make first moves
Pinkbunny43 Joined Sun 05/12/13 Posts: 26547	Fri 09/26/14 12:12 PM
because I'm shy

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Fri 09/26/14 12:51 PM
Im definitely subtle... Oh and cryptic, apparently... When did this development happen?

jrt210369 Joined Sat 05/19/12 Posts: 69	Fri 09/26/14 12:51 PM
I was in the supper market last wk and had a cart of food headed toward the ck out ... well this really nice cute guy was nxt to me as i am trying to figure which line had less in it so i saw one about the time he saw it also so we go a running along side each other playing like ... and he said i did not like that other ck out person as I let him go in front of me becouse he only had a couple of things in his hand ... and i said something like joking about the other ck out person right... he said no ... lol now i tried my hardest to look for a ring but could not see then i heard wife in the conversation he was having with this other ck out girl so I didn't act on my intention but might have ...if I didn't hear wife ... another store all guys in line I am there going wow am i going to be here a long time for 1 item so i am cking them all out to see if i like any of them lol and not really so i said hey do you guys mind if i just get this one thing they all said that was fine ... and again if i saw someone I thought would be interesting i would have waited ... far and few between i have with attractions to men ... but if i felt they where single i would say something ... I like this a lot...good honest sense and sensibility

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Fri 09/26/14 12:56 PM
Well, here in Oz, I have noticed over the last few years the younger girls are getting bolder, they will definitely approach if they like what they see. But the younger guys are becoming more timid at the same time, so the girls have no choice.

Unknow Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 64077	Fri 09/26/14 01:10 PM
Im definitely subtle... Oh and cryptic, apparently... When did this development happen? GOOF!!! DUH! 2007... gigglesnorting

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Fri 09/26/14 04:02 PM
Does wiggling my butt count as a first move .. Lmao Depends on the direction you are "wiggling"in!

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33339	Fri 09/26/14 04:20 PM Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Fri 09/26/14 04:20 PM
In general men still want to do the hunting and conquering. Quite often if you ignore these things, the relationship will go awry at some point. Been there myself, a male mate told me the same thing, and read it properly explained in a book on psychology & relationships. So based on all that, I will not chase after a bloke anymore, I want to be properly wooed. Of course I will give signals that I like him, but he's gotta make the first move. And yes, has an awful lot to do with masculine and feminine energy.

jrt210369 Joined Sat 05/19/12 Posts: 69	Sat 09/27/14 04:36 AM
In general men still want to do the hunting and conquering. Quite often if you ignore these things, the relationship will go awry at some point. Been there myself, a male mate told me the same thing, and read it properly explained in a book on psychology & relationships. So based on all that, I will not chase after a bloke anymore, I want to be properly wooed. Of course I will give signals that I like him, but he's gotta make the first move. And yes, has an awful lot to do with masculine and feminine energy. I think my most obvious observation then is that sometimes subtlety is good but as someone said, things are a changing and guys are less and less inclined towards always making the first move because of the way some girls reject them! It seems that neither sex is doing the other any favours in this department?

jrt210369 Joined Sat 05/19/12 Posts: 69	Sat 09/27/14 12:25 PM
In general men still want to do the hunting and conquering. Quite often if you ignore these things, the relationship will go awry at some point. Been there myself, a male mate told me the same thing, and read it properly explained in a book on psychology & relationships. So based on all that, I will not chase after a bloke anymore, I want to be properly wooed. Of course I will give signals that I like him, but he's gotta make the first move. And yes, has an awful lot to do with masculine and feminine energy. I think my most obvious observation then is that sometimes subtlety is good but as someone said, things are a changing and guys are less and less inclined towards always making the first move because of the way some girls reject them! It seems that neither sex is doing the other any favours in this department? what youre saying is these men are diminishing use of masculine energy which means the woman they are interested in will be forced to use masculine energy to get together. These men just better be happy with the gal using it. If not, and they want to attract feminine energy, gonna have to suck it up and bring the masculine back. Personally, Im not comfortable using masculine energy in a relationship. That means I will only be interested in the men who are comfortable using it. Not to say I never use masculine energy, just that I want a man who likes to use his own more. ...and its not about the first move. As another said, feminine energy is just a more subtle 'move'. I take on board what you are saying, madam butterfly x Please give up some of your subtle tactics so that I might actually have a chance out there some time cos all I get is looks, plenty of them but as was discussing with a mate...I can't seem to understand whether they are a 'what you waiting for?' or piss off granddad?

stingraycity Joined Thu 09/04/14 Posts: 730	Sat 09/27/14 12:41 PM
In general men still want to do the hunting and conquering. Quite often if you ignore these things, the relationship will go awry at some point. Been there myself, a male mate told me the same thing, and read it properly explained in a book on psychology & relationships. So based on all that, I will not chase after a bloke anymore, I want to be properly wooed. Of course I will give signals that I like him, but he's gotta make the first move. And yes, has an awful lot to do with masculine and feminine energy. I think my most obvious observation then is that sometimes subtlety is good but as someone said, things are a changing and guys are less and less inclined towards always making the first move because of the way some girls reject them! It seems that neither sex is doing the other any favours in this department? what youre saying is these men are diminishing use of masculine energy which means the woman they are interested in will be forced to use masculine energy to get together. These men just better be happy with the gal using it. If not, and they want to attract feminine energy, gonna have to suck it up and bring the masculine back. Personally, Im not comfortable using masculine energy in a relationship. That means I will only be interested in the men who are comfortable using it. Not to say I never use masculine energy, just that I want a man who likes to use his own more. ...and its not about the first move. As another said, feminine energy is just a more subtle 'move'. I take on board what you are saying, madam butterfly x Please give up some of your subtle tactics so that I might actually have a chance out there some time cos all I get is looks, plenty of them but as was discussing with a mate...I can't seem to understand whether they are a 'what you waiting for?' or piss off granddad? with you there bro...

jrt210369 Joined Sat 05/19/12 Posts: 69	Sat 09/27/14 01:15 PM
honestly I wish I could tell you some magic trick, but gals are all different. just cuz i act like a know-it-all doesnt mean I actually know it all. I see...so we are both ****wits scratching in the dark and making guesses and getting it probably mostly wrong, most of the time?? I'll tell you...if you tell me xx

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 09/27/14 01:17 PM
because they! are just as scared of us !!....as we are of them... rejection.. ... we all fear being rejected... ... that are we look at the other person and think !!.they must be in a relationship... they're too good looking to be single...

4Turtle Joined Thu 09/04/14 Posts: 2	Sat 09/27/14 01:17 PM
Some girls do make first moves you just have to find the right one

jrt210369 Joined Sat 05/19/12 Posts: 69	Sat 09/27/14 01:41 PM
honestly I wish I could tell you some magic trick, but gals are all different. just cuz i act like a know-it-all doesnt mean I actually know it all. I see...so we are both ****wits scratching in the dark and making guesses and getting it probably mostly wrong, most of the time?? I'll tell you...if you tell me xx We're just all people and not programs Are you stuck in the Matrix or something?

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Tue 09/30/14 06:51 PM
Maybe your trying to hard. I do nothing rarely dress up. Get hit on all the time.