Haha, actually never really been a fan of coco puffs.... I am more of a Peanut Butter Cap'n Crunch kind of girl...

my 16YR OLD daughter says to me the other day.....I am never going to have kid......I don't want to have to share my money with them, get locked down by some guy or worse have to spend time trying to have to lock some guy down........


From the mouth of babes.............Maybe the right guy and by the time she is 30 that may change but for now, I loved hearing it.

Cap'n Crunch rocks my socks

Okay, and when I was 16 I was already taking care of a 2 year old: diapers, potty training, giving up going out so that someone would be home with him while my mother was working. I've already given up everything to take care of one child, I'm only enriching the family by having one of my own.

Do what you think is right, if this is something you want all I can say is I hope everything works out for you.

This IS what's right for me. I'm not planning to 'lock anyone down'...lmao... I did say that IF he heads for the hills oh well. I am only bringing up the idea to him and if he doesn't want to then peace out dumba$$! I want to be a mother, I said NOTHING about trying to trap a man.

I'm really starting to get psyched about this!! I was talking to my nurse friend online and she said that I do still have a chance that the first test was wrong. Apparently I have symptoms is what she's saying. I won't go into detail b/c its just waaaaay tmi for this forum. She is going to help me and ask the gyno she works for about whats going on with me to make sure she's informing me correctly. Assuming the test was right, which is what I'm doing unless something else tells me otherwise, I am still so excited to try for my miracle!

Jayme girl!!!
When he gets home!
Take him to bed and while your making love to him!!!!
Just say!!!!!!!
Baby look at me.I love you more than anything else in the world.!
I want to have a baby with you.If he cums deep! Then you know!!
But thats when you ask!!This is a mans little secret im givein ya!
Pay attention!Youll know everything right then and there!Even how much he loves you!Dont say anything before hand.Because he has time to think!!!And being a guy let me tell ya we can talk our selfs outta anything even if its right or wrong!!!!
A mans first instinct with a woman is to think with his heart not his brain!Or D!CK!So in that split second he tells or shows
you his true feelings towards you.Eyes contact is very crucial
also.keep his mind on you!!!!Nothing but you!!!!
And youll have the answer of the question asked!
Good luck!

don't do this right now.

don't just decide to have a kid for the halibut.

you need to get your ducks in a row first.

what if your boyfriend bails? wtf....what are you thinking? the father should be there. u r going to need some kind of support. u just don't have a baby. it grows for 9 months. the stork does not drop it nor deliver to your door. it comes into the world naked. no oshkosh luggage full of clothes comes with.

how r u going to support it, get clothes for it, feed it, plus the medical you will need all during the incubation time. these are just a few of the questions. and oh, where are you going to get the diapers that have really taken a jump in price, plus the crib, i forgot that, and then, what else. some of you mothers out there help me out here. fyi not construed to start a fight. just make you think.

Well, not only do I have it covered, but I have it covered. Ya don't think I know all of that? Lots of women CHOOSE to be single mothers. IF the b/f bails, again, I'm asking him before it happens, I have a very good friend who wants a baby too. We will be co-parents who are friends. I have income from A: THIS state pays you to baby sit, all I do is watch my nephews and they give me $600 a month. and B:Then there's the fact that I'm also looking for a pt job so I can still take care of my nephew that lives with us and my others that I watch. I already have a bed, swing, clothes from when my nieces and nephews were babies. My aunt works at dollar general, where there the diapers are very fairly priced and just as good as any other. Trust me, this isn't a spur of the moment decision, I've thought this through for a LONG time. I live in a family home where I have lots of support and love. I have been talking to my mother about this for a loooooooong time. She is encouraging me to go for it. She is probably the ONLY one who knows how much I want this and is looking forward to having more grandbabies. I WANT to experience pregnancy and welcome all the hellish symptoms that come with it. I WANT to experience child birth, WITH OUT drugs. I KNOW that I'll be a great mother, I may never have much extra, and at the same time, I might. The part time job I get will just be a hold over until our casino (which pays REALLLLLY well) is hiring again. My mom works there now and can get me on soon. I'll work there part time, which will be paying about twice as much as any other part time job if not more.

Here's a question for myself... why the HELL do I think I have to justify myself to you? Damn.... wait, I don't. I am 23 years old, I'm old enough to drink, smoke, vote, and do whatever I like within the law. I have known since my nephew was born 9 years ago that I wanted to be a mother. I will do this with or without some one I don't know's support.

A child needs stability and two parents.
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That is my opinion on that one...
Coming from a lady who has been raising and taking care of
children herself since she was 7 years old...
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ahhh, babies...

so cute, when they're sleeping, when they're smiling at you, when they first see a butterfly and ask you about it, while playing ball and the ball goes between their legs and they bend over to look at the ball thru their legs lol

i fully understand your desire for a baby....




however...


that's completely different from raising a child...


when they are getting less than expected grades in school, and still want your car keys, when they sneak out at night to 'hang out' with their bf or gf, when they get in fights at school...

those are just some of the things my brothers and i did..

having a baby is wonderful, prolly the most rewarding experience i've ever had, however, raising a child is so much more difficult, and trying...


think before you make a hasty decision, you're not deciding this for you, you're making a decision for a life not here yet also


(sorry if i've offended, just my thoughts)

Ya know... the 2 parents thing is WHY I'm goin to talk to my b/f FIRST and not just SURPRISE HIM... Thats why my good friend and I have decided that we can have a baby and CO-PARENT if my b/f takes off. You people are just reading what you want into it. I KNOW ALL OF THOSE THINGS. THIS IS NOT A HASTY DECISION, ITS SOMETHING I'VE BEEN TRYIN TO DO OFF AND ON FOR A LOOOOOOONG TIME. MY MOTHER RAISED GOOD PEOPLE (I think so, anyway) I KNOW HOW TO RAISE GOOD PEOPLE!!! I don't know why I'm even letting myself get in a huff over this.... its not YOUR decision. To anyone who wants to be supportive, I thank you very much. For any of you who just want to try and tell other people what to do BITE ME!

make sure you are not being selfish or doing this in fear of later not having any children. not saying this to be mean, but it is important. just because you take care of someone elses children it is not the same as 24/7 responsibility--not only physical but $$$$$$$! i function better when i am challenged also, however this is different--it is not a game.

Okay, one more time... I've been raising a child for 9 years already!

For those of you who for some reason seem to be trying to rain on my dreams, were your children worth it? Answer that question.. were YOUR children worth it? If you can say yes, then thats all you need to know. All the headaches they cause and annoying things they do when they get older... all WORTH IT to me. Its not about a 'game' people, that wasn't the damn point.

Well, my real life friends know me and know how much I want to be a mother. I have lots of support and thats all I need to know. I could care less if you all disagree with me. Personally I think most of you just enjoy trying to bring other people down.

"ITS SOMETHING I'VE BEEN TRYIN TO DO OFF AND ON FOR A LOOOOOOONG TIME. "

off and on??? if you're trying off and on, that would imply you go back and forth with the decision, maybe you're not solid on it? if you're not, then wait til you are, for the love of a child, wait....

Off and on meaning actually TRYING with timing and all that. I do give my body and mind a break once in a while when nothing seems to be happening.

And for those of you who DON'T know what its like to try and try and fail at having a baby, I already DO love my child.

Jayme, im not going to try telling you i understand your situation...cuz i don't

im only writing from my personal experience, i hope you realize that...

i have 3 kids of my own, and hell it CAN be, not always is that the case, but yeah..it can be...especially being single with 3 kids....i do it cuz i love my kids..

i love how they make me smile, the simple joys they bring me daily..

my situation is different, i understand that, it's not like your's, just be carefull with this decision, it's a HUGE one

i work as a nurse in WOMEN"S SERVICE- for 24 years-- i have seen alot-- including child protective services!!!!!
and people who think they are ready.
need to not be so defensive-- people are not trying to rain on your parade- just give advice and knowledge that they have.