from the article:


Anything that has at its core selfishness, egotism and self-interest can never be good. Happy is a subjective, transitory state of being. It differs for each of us. When we seek to make ourselves and our desires the focal point, it rarely turns out well. We are made by Love for love. At the heart of love is sacrifice.


Love does not place the '��I'�� above the other. Love in fact- real, authentic, genuine love, lays down its life for the other. Love does not fear speaking the truth, even if it will not be received well. Love seeks what is best for the other, not for itself. There have been many folks I know and love, who chose these ill-fated words rather than speak what is on their hearts to those they care about. '��It'��s their life,'�� they tell me, '��I'��m not getting involved.'
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As Christians, God expects us to do just that, speak the truth in love whether popular or not. If those closest to us cannot expect to hear what is ultimately best for them from those who supposedly love them, then who will speak it to them? The culture? Modern media? Their friends?


Speaking truth is risky I know. You don’t make a lot of friends that way. If your end game is what is best for the other, your motivation is out of love, and prayer has been applied to the situation; you must speak up. Words are like seeds scattered in the wind. They are out there, they will eventually find fertile ground; although it may take years.

I know it is scary. I am sometimes so paralyzed by fear of someone’s reactions that I remain quiet. What is it Scripture says about fear? “There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment, and so one who fears is not yet perfect in love.�� (I John 4:18)


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Plenty of Christians are lousy at "speaking the truth in love".

true

even in all our disagreements, I feel this is a particular strong suit of yours

and I appreciate it

For you, msharmony:

When you refuse to defeat yourself, then you will find happiness in everything you do.