I am just wondering if there is anyone out there who have tried as many dating services as I have and come up short, and what the general public thinks about dating services, I have signed up for over three dozen dating sites, not a member of that many because you have to have a credit card for most of them, but the point is I have signed up for over three dozen and am no closer to meeting some one than when I first started, I have found that these dating services love to use the word free very liberally, and most of them can not or rather will not back up what they promise before you sign up, I have also had the worst time just getting someone to even chat with, I have sent out over 200 emails in the last few weeks and gotten maybe 3 responses back, and those only lasted less than 1 minute, one girl ask if I could dance and I told her no, I have not heard from her since, now my question is there does this girl value dancing over meeting some one nice or was she not serious to begin with, I am the most flexiable man most women will ever meet, so I could learn to dance, but anyway, the point to all of this is simply to say that maybe 1 out of every 1 million dating services might be good, I have not found that 1 yet, mostly its all about money, if tou haven't got a credit card then that total goes up to 1 out of every 10 million.

Uh, I'm on a couple of fun dating sites...but, not actively "looking" for anything. I just try to have a good time and meet people, and I always enjoy it. I wonder if you're coming across as desperate?, because desperation is not attractive........I don't know you, but 200 emails seems like way too many for a couple of weeks. Anyway, you're probably stressing it too much, and you should relax and just try and be yourself and have fun. Works for me! Good luck!.....

I don't pay to talk to strangers, either. Doesn't make sense to me?

i have been on 3 pay sights $40 a piece to read or send mail lmao

all sucked lmao
the first one all i ever talked to was over sea's ladys (even though they said they where in the states , most where prob scammers)
2nd was not any better as there where the closest person was 300 miles away lmao and the 3rd only ladys i talked to where on the other side of the usa and just wanted friends <shrug>
i wont put the names of the sights but if interested e mail me

any who then i landed here
with in the first week i had a lady contact me and we have been chatting any time she is awake or not at work

it can be hard man i agree , just keep your head up and hope for the best is all you can do

she is out there , you just have to bump in to each other

and as far as getting rid of the scammers it was great for there sights cause they where getting free 3 day passes to log in and send you mail for free .... so then people like you and i would spend the money on there sight to read the mail <face palm>

online dating to me is better cause you can get to know someone before you meet them , and its easier to run away from the insain ones : ) plus the ones in real life don't have a sign that says they are single

best wishes and happy hunting

200 in a couple weeks isn't that bad really
i was getting more then that sent to me on a couple sights i joined
had over 500 email's sent to me the month i was on one sight alone

he gets an A for effort

I am shy by nature so i norm don't send the first contact : )~ well is rare at least

well shy when it comes to some one i am intereseted in that is

I hear ya. But, it's not like you got the 500 emails from ONE person...lol...

Put it to you this way...I got about 200 emails the first week I joined one site. I had to subscribe to read them, so I said F it. I get the feeling they all said about the same thing anyway...lol

But, I'm not looking either...so, it's different for me. Nevermind...lol...

Here's a banana anyway....

bashajones,,,,read your post, wanted to say thanks, you make some very good points and you are right on all of them, I may be coming off as desperate, patience is absolutely not one of my best points, I first got married when I was 18 years old and since that time I have not been with out the company of a female I would say 2 months since then, am 52 years old now and now have not had a girl friend in almost a year, I just do not like being single in ant sense of the word.

No prob. Learning to be happy with just yourself leads to better relationships, too....I think...Just sayin', and I do wish you luck.

i don't think he sent the same person all those emails : )

same i am not a fan of being single , last g.f. was 5 + years ago
and i have never been in to the table for one ordeal <shrug>

Smartazz.

well momma all ways said was better to be a smartazz then a dumbazz

and some how i pull them both off at once : )
do i get a cookie ? :)

Nope. Just another banana...----->>>

More about revenue and sponsors than money. I mean it's hit or miss. It's a free site. Take it for what it is. Or I don't know, go outside and see real people.

this is a free site !!they make me wash the floors and do the windows..
ohh.. and they make me clean my ice cream bowl.. with nothing but my tongue... They said it's good practice..
. for when I meet a date...
and after 12 or 20 dates.. when we're finally ready to be intimate with one another.... she will appreciate all the practicing I had to do....

sucks real life people don't have a sign saying they are single lol

BANANA : )~

lol...You missed a spot....

.. no I didn't!! I was saving that for later..

sods law the longer your single the more desperate you get & if your not careful it shows big time, try & be happy about being single it does have it's upside lot's of chaps would envy you being single

Lol and good point @ "lot's of chaps would envy you being single"...