Haven't meet anyone yet...
but hoping to meet someone.,, who will also be my travelling buddy around Himalayas..
would be great. :)
let fate decide this..
waiting for the inevitable to occur..

Franky

lmao

Have not met anyone from Mingle and unless someone decides to check out Dutch windmills and tulips, not likely to happen cos everyone's so far away. I do hope to travel to the States one day, to see my girl :) If someone happens to live 'around the corner', who knows.
UK could happen, closer, more affordable and nr 1 on my list of places to go to.

I've met people from mingle in person.

I've already done it.

Probably not likely, OP.

I still try to reconcile if the type of man who posts on online dating sites is a special breed, unique unto itself,

or representative of the type of men who DO use online sites,

or representative of the way most men truly think, when they think no one's looking.


Since discovering online *dating* sites and their discussion boards 3+ years ago, I've always wondered if the men I meet in real life from real-world encounters are secretly thinking the things the men online are so willing to openly share,

and he's simply smiling sweetly and pretending to be a normal, *nice*, regular guy while inside he's seething with a hatred for all things female.





*Sad*...but true, honest, and candid.

I am also new here and looking forward to meet someone in person

It sounds like you're assuming all men are the same. Once you learn they're not and relax a little, you might actually meet some interesting people.

Sorry if it sounds like that; it certainly shouldn't read like that, because that's not what I typed, because that's not what I said, nor what I meant. That's why I used words like "type", "representative", and "most". If I "assume(d) all men are the same", there would be no "type", nor the need for a "representative" and I would have used the word "all"; generally, I used no quantifier at all and only once used "most".

I don't use online discussion boards with the intention of meeting people; I use online discussion boards when - for whatever reason - I haven't met my RDA of interesting conversations.


Oh, and often I use it to break up the monotony while working on a project, here at work. Like I've been doing all week, and like I did tonight...instead of watching football, dammit. Rumor has it if I can forego one football game and wrap up this project by tomorrow/Saturday, I'll get a whole day - and night - of football games on Sunday.

Might even go to a sports bar and enjoy 'em all.

Very good point... I must say I was - and often still am - shocked by the strong negative feelings men have regarding women or 'all things female'. Almost like men don't really get over a relationship / ex.

Every relationship of length leaves it's mark and many marks can create a "groove" BUT I think a person's basic personality is still there .... somewhere.

Sure, we all know that and most of us have been there as well. But if you still - or start to - harbour very strong negative feelings towards the other gender ... Is quite a strong pointer that you didn't really get over what happened. And yet these ppl are on dating-sites (and out there) looking for new love. :/

Thank you for getting what I DID say. It IS a sign that someone is not nearly as 'over' That Last B****/As***** as they're pretending to be while trying to find The Next B****/As***** to date.

I'm well aware many women do the same thing online and that some men may wonder the same things about us, in general. I also agree that, generally speaking, men do not have the emotional support systems/approved emotional outlets TO help them work through their pain and disappointment over relationships that don't work out. Generally-speaking, we expect men to simply 'buck up' and get over it.

However, 'understanding' it and feeling compelled to fix it are two different things; I no longer feel the need to nurse men back to health and make them feel all better. It's the off-setting perk Mother Nature gives us for the less-than-perky boobs, sprouting gray hairs, and thickening waistlines She blesses us with.

Regardless of who does it more, who's just as bad, and claims of "Yeah, well your gender does it, too", I'm a heterosexual woman so I'm going to notice - and be saddened by - it more, when I see so many men doing it.

Very true! I'm not willing to 'nurse' a guy back to health anymore either. I want an emotional mature man, not someone who can't sort out his own chit. And maybe we have more of an outlet/support system cos it's okay for women to cry and be emotional etc. Still, I think it's mostly to do with inner strength and the motivation to not remain stuck and become hard and bitter. It's a choice you can make. If you make the right choice, you can also find the support system & outlet.

The weirdest one I often see here, is about money --> "Want a woman? Show them your wallet", that kind of thing. I cannot relate to that at all. Maybe cos we have a better social security system? Plus there are substantial cultural differences. Most Dutch women are adamant about being and remaining independent financially. (Reading that kind of stuff angers me TBH. So derogatory.)

Oh well, we just gotta remain positive that there are still men out there who don't hold a grudge, are emotionally 'free' and ready to commit, and that we will both find one!

Funny..I have never met anyone from Mingle. But I found a few peeps I already knew on here! I have met a few people from other sites though.

In 20 years I've never met anyone from any dating site I've ever been on in person.

I hope to meet a few more people from this site... Time will tell...

All that I've met here, I met them through the forums. On a site like this, that worked better for me.

Who knows. Let your guard down a little. You may meet some interesting people here.

Oh, the irony.

If it's OK with you, I'll continue to do what works best for me, on a site like this.


I'll trust that the wheels won't completely fall off this little wagon, if I choose to NOT meet someone/anyone from here.

No need to be defensive.

I was just commenting based on what you had said here. If you choose to just use this site to chat, no worries.

This looks like it's turning into another mentalpausal thread.

Angry, man haters.

I've met a couple folks from sites.

Nice ladies. We just didn't click.