It has very little to do with the quality of person.

Someone with herpes2 can sneeze and if you breath it in or your skin absorbs it you can be infected.

I know what you mean. i am tryna figger out how this conversation gonna go..."ummmm...uh...honey do you have a STD?"

"Do you mean an LTD? I don;t think they make those any more."

"no no shirley STD...you know honey a ....disease from uh..."

"Why do ask Harry?"


"well uh do u wanna..I mean I thought maybe we were gonna..."

"WHAT! What kinda girl do you think I am? What made you think I was plannin' on doing ANYTHING like THAT with YOU?????


lol....hopefully it would go a little better than that on the convo side, but there's no guarantee....

Or, when they are getting to know each other and one party knows they are infected, they let the other person know.

That gives the uninfected party the option to continue with the relationship or get out.

yes of course willing, why are u so defensive sounding tonight...I was just tryna lighten it up a little

do u have a STD or did someone stick you?

Also that conversation implies the intention to have sex. so if the other person is not planning on the friendship becoming sexual in the first place, the whole thing could sound kind of stupid, honestly.

so you missed that point entirely

I have m&ms

This would not be a choice for me! I would run in an instance. Besides, not everyone would be willing to be up front and honest about this...why do you think diseases are spread in this manner. To believe someone is going to be upfront and honest with you after they themselves are infected is like believing in the tooth fairy! Who would admit that they are infected with a disease, especially if they are looking for a casual relationship. How do you think all these diseases are spread?

one of my friends hot infected from a long time relationship, she was mad of course that he didn't tell her so now she tells potential lovers...but she is also on a dating website targeted strictly for those that are already infected....responsible people do tell, especially if they care about the other person....

The real problem is you never know who is responsible and who is not and therein lies the dilemma. Depend on no one but yourself!

we could depend on no one but ourselves for EVERYTHING and be REALLY safe, but alas most people are on here because they don't want to do EVERYTHING by themselves. ....

What I was saying is that each individual must take responsibility for themselves and be prepared for whatever consequences, good or bad, which may come from their own individual actions. Using good judgment and not taking for granted that the person you are involved with is completely being honest with you concerning their sexual adventures or infections, is important for your own peace of mind and your own health, if you consider that of the least bit of importance.

before intimacy.. I always ask my right hand.. if it has being sexually active in the last 5 months...
and if so.. when was last time.
it was tested for nastiness..
and if it can produce a doctor's certified clean bill of health...
then I ask my right hand.. if it' prefers , thin. are ultra thin condoms..

Intimacy is earned....it's not something you are entitled to....

Hell no I would run like the devil himself was chasing me. They should have been honest with me from the beginning, I would never put another persons life in danger if it was me.

oh I understood I was just being a smart a s s

All this STD stuff is beginning to worry me more and more. Including the cold sores, which is a nasty thing. I've got cold sores every now and then, a gazillion ppl do. Meaning you have to be very careful with oral sex.
But also means you yourself got to be careful when you got a cold sore, cos you can infect yourself in the nether regions as well. So you got to be careful with towels, washing hands before going to the loo etc.

I'm also very concerned about chlamydia when it comes to oral sex. Oral sex used to be safe, safer than sex, but not anymore. I was shocked to learn that someone can have chlamydia in his/her throat, passing it on to someone else by oral sex (prolly by kissing as well?)

It's beginning to look like "safe sex" is equivalent to wearing a hazmat suit. I know several single ppl (woman, not men) who won't have hot dates anymore because of the risk. I'm one of them.

Whether I would leave someone if it became clear he had an STD, not sure. I think I would indeed end things.
Thing is, if everyone says "yes, I will absolutely leave!", no one with an STD is going to be open about it anymore, because they'll know upfront their partner will leave.

Shocking to read that 1 out of 5 in the States have genital herpes Not sure about statistics over here, but I'd think more ppl had the occasional cold sore (HSV-1), not genital herpes (HSV-2)
1 out of 5 is really bad odds

cold sores are a different herpes virus and not a sexually transmitted disease. The same is true of shingles.

Addedly, Ms Chrystalfairy.
Many men and women could be carrying H2 genital and would only know if they got tested.

The numbers could be much higher than known.

I believe, many won't go get tested because of the fear they might come back positive.

Simple series of blood samples. Takes 5 minutes. One week later you get the results.

Who wouldn't want to know?

Talk about "spreading" the word....literally...

Double bag and tag baby!!!

Well I know for myself, the conversation about sex and tests hasn't been hard to initiate. I know that I don't have any Std's as I've gotten tested after relationships have ended. Mostly just so I know that I have a clean bill of health so to speak.

Glad you don't either. Sucks that there has to be situations as this.