Well there are no books to tell us how to trust or who to trust that is
something that you have to work out in your heart.
But you have to trust in order for things to work out. Trust is
something that you build with another person they can't give it too you
nor you to them. It's a feeling that both must have for each other. And
build upon in a realantionship. For if you have feelings for another
person there is a good possiblity that they could have those feelings
for you also. But... are also afraid to say anything in fear of jumping
the gun persay. Or sometimes they are in a situation and don't really
know what to do them self. For they are confused and wish they could
turn the clock back and change a decsion that they have made in fear
that because of the decsion they have committed to they will lose the
one they are having the feelings for. But when it comes right down to it
honesty is always the best way to go. So now its up to you to decide to
just come out and say how you really feel and go from there instead of
what if for the rest of your life.

I know the how and the what, its the who and the when that gets me.

Yeah well I think that gets us all.

yea...what she smuurffed...

Micheal ya need to slow down on that token yer turning a bit blue there.

NewGuy--- I can't tell you anymore than what the others have already
said.

I know a leap of faith is part of it. If you have known this person for
a while then do ya trust them? Have your trust been tested and proven
real? Does the person NOT give up on you when you are going through a
bad patch? Do they listen when you talk and respond in a possitive
manner?

These are things to look back on... and then you can make your decission
if the answers are possitive...

Good luck hon
Teia

smurff what she smurffed too

It's a mind set that you have to define within yourself, becasue you'll
be challenged daily on the when and why's you are to stay committted.

i trusted, myself AND him...

got burned. scarred even.

How can you trust your own ideas, your own feelings?

Life happens, ideals, goals, and morals change, you have to be able to
accept changes, and still grow together.

you can trust til you're as blue as michael's smurf, but in the end, you
can still get burned.

i hear what you're asking Mils..i have no answers, cuz im still dealing
with it on a daily basis.

i can know how i feel towards "him" and know how he feels towards me,
and still not trust the hand that life will deal us as a couple, as
individuals.

michael, every so often you have to breathe between puffs man

nice statement driven.

Welcome to the forum Driven51

Don't be afraid to commit. Just jump in with both feet, you can always
you the 2 same feet to jump back out if need be.

"Chukee" you like them 2 footers???
have I got a poem for you...

simmer down M!!!!!! lol Go ahead and kick over your poem to me. Do it
with the understanding that I will share it with my favorite critic,
ONT. Okie dokie? lol

trust is something that is earned. giving trust freely usually ends up
with someone being hurt and the other one trying to figure out what
happened. take it slow and easy and the trust will happen. it won't
happen over night, but it will happen.

I have had trust issues since I was a child. When I was cheated on by my
spouse while I was pregnant really wrecked me inside.

I think it is important that we not take out our pasts on the person in
our lives. Trust must be earned to a point but you have to start out
with a certain amount or you'll never get to know the person well enough
and they'll run the other way.
Most of all stay true to yourself, your wants your expectations and your
desires.
We all have to remember love isnt about not hurting. Its about forgiving
hurts and moving on. After all our enemies cant hurt us cuz we wont let
them get close.
Its the people who are our companions we "let in". We are all imperfect
beings who make mistakes.

commitment is what im looking for right now

just thinking on that one

Well first of all you have to make sure you want to commit...trust in
yourself and the other person...Decide if you can trust the other person
based on their actions....Take things slow....one day at a time and
don't commit too quickly!!!!!!!