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Topic: Is no response still a response?
settee's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:03 AM
I just received email from a married man who wants to meet...

I decided not to respond to his email rather than say something that might encourage him like, "No, thanks.." or say something to him about his unfaithfulness to his wife, which is, of course, none of my business...

When do you choose to not respond to emails?

smartwithsparks's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:09 AM
Depends How Original Their Message Is...
I Cant Stand The HI,,emails

CowboyGH's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:10 AM

I just received email from a married man who wants to meet...

I decided not to respond to his email rather than say something that might encourage him like, "No, thanks.." or say something to him about his unfaithfulness to his wife, which is, of course, none of my business...

When do you choose to not respond to emails?


I personally respond to anything that could potentially bring something of it. Like in this instance, I'm the one that would personally ask why they feel they need to cheat. Especially when the people specifically mention it or bring it up, always have the thought in my head I'd be next in line for them to do this to so I don't bother with those types of people any further then the message(s) to get them thinking.

no photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:35 AM
No answer Is an answer...flowerforyou

I hardly ever respond to mail anymore.smokin
They should consider themselves lucky if I do..

Same with my friends list...It is about Quality ..not Quanity.


soufiehere's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:40 AM
I used to respond to all.
Seemed polite.

Then I got an initial email that went
something like this:

'Who the **** do you think you ***ing are?
You think any ****ing dude of 18 is gonna
want your **** ***? You are a piece of ****
that deserves ****.
**** my ****.'

It struck me as so bizarre that I replied.
I said, the age range (18-300 or so) is so
that people from the forums can contact me,
no matter their age.

He replied back.

'**** that. You ******* are all ****.
I **** all you ****ing *******.
Go **** yourself.'

Now, I don't reply, get the picture?

MariahsFantasy's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:42 AM
Married men, there they go again, making me, enforcing my ability to believe in the idea of marriage once again by not dealing with their own personal chit. whoa

Criminy.

Say something, risk the obscenities being sent your way for doing the right thing for you, or don't say something, block, whatever. It's his quick sand he has to face in the end. Why people still do this when they supposedly have someone already in their life is really sick. Don't get involved in the drama.

no photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:44 AM

I used to respond to all.
Seemed polite.

Then I got an initial email that went
something like this:

'Who the **** do you think you ***ing are?
You think any ****ing dude of 18 is gonna
want your **** ***? You are a piece of ****
that deserves ****.
**** my ****.'

It struck me as so bizarre that I replied.
I said, the age range (18-300 or so) is so
that people from the forums can contact me,
no matter their age.

He replied back.

'**** that. You ******* are all ****.
I **** all you ****ing *******.
Go **** yourself.'

Now, I don't reply, get the picture?



ha ha This...smokin

CowboyGH's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:47 AM

I used to respond to all.
Seemed polite.

Then I got an initial email that went
something like this:

'Who the **** do you think you ***ing are?
You think any ****ing dude of 18 is gonna
want your **** ***? You are a piece of ****
that deserves ****.
**** my ****.'

It struck me as so bizarre that I replied.
I said, the age range (18-300 or so) is so
that people from the forums can contact me,
no matter their age.

He replied back.

'**** that. You ******* are all ****.
I **** all you ****ing *******.
Go **** yourself.'

Now, I don't reply, get the picture?


Still think it's funny how people equate love, sex, and relationships together as one. Here is someone that you aren't even in a relationship with saying what he has just said lol. What is this world coming to rofl.

soufiehere's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:53 AM

Still think it's funny how people equate love, sex, and relationships together as one. Here is someone that you aren't even in a relationship with saying what he has just said lol. What is this world coming to rofl.


I know huh.
Tis why I like the forums..over time you really
get the BIG picture of who someone is.
Outside of what they tell you.

Singlelifeseasy's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:55 AM
I'm not responding because that's what works for me as a rule.
I'm not interested in guys that are married or guys that are separated. I'm glad their honest for everyones sake. It's funny the things that I'm not okay with, some people are. Then I don't mind a simple hi and some people don't like that. It's a funny world.

no photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:55 AM
Haven't gotten any here to respond too. I generally delete anyway. Not looking for a man here.

playingindirt's photo
Tue 06/17/14 09:59 AM
sometimes some of the messages are so nice I can't help but to reply but I don't generally reply if the person lives to far away or if he isn't someone I think I'd be interested in. and I never reply to married men.

no photo
Tue 06/17/14 10:22 AM
Edited by Leigh2154 on Tue 06/17/14 10:23 AM
I don't have filters, I pick and choose who I respond to, I often delete, sometimes ignore, report when necessary, block on occasion...It's not a big problem here cause the site is well moderated and scammers and players are dumb which makes them easy to spot, easier to out smart...

no photo
Tue 06/17/14 10:22 AM


When do you choose to not respond to emails?



When I don't like the e-mail or the person sending it...

jester0012009's photo
Tue 06/17/14 10:45 AM
id say it could be

456tessa's photo
Tue 06/17/14 11:10 AM
When i'm not interested or just don't want to get involved ...

I think that "no response" is a clear (and actually the most effective)answer when you don't want to have anything to do with that person. To my experience it is best to avoid any commenting, discussion, interferring or trying to be just kind when you are not really interested and/or you don't really want to arouse his interest, simply because some men understand any kind of answer as encouragement stimulation or provocation...Just my opinion... :wink:

Esmeralda08757's photo
Tue 06/17/14 11:41 AM
I have gotten very, very, picky in my old age. I hate those, "hi, how are you doing" emails. If someone can't com up with an original message I'm not going to bother to reply. Sometimes I do anyway, but it's usually one word. (Terrible!)

Some might think that I am a terrible snob, but creativity and originality are important to me and I can't see myself with someone who lacks these qualities. Of course I will probably continue to be alone, but that's okay.

When I first started with the online dating thing I was happy to get any messages at all. But now if I think someone's company will not be better than my own I don't want to be bothered.

kurly_gurly's photo
Tue 06/17/14 11:50 AM



When do you choose to not respond to emails?



When I don't like the e-mail or the person sending it...


In previous profiles I put that I only date within 45 miles and if they were looking for someone to chat with join me in the forums. It didn't help,so now if they act like they read my profile and ignored my info I do the same and ignore their messages and call it even.

I break my rule if they say something that warrants it.

daziemae's photo
Tue 06/17/14 12:49 PM
No reply is a reply.

no photo
Tue 06/17/14 12:49 PM

Haven't gotten any here to respond too. I generally delete anyway. Not looking for a man here.


I spoke too soon. whoa Couple fellas don't know how to read.

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