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Hi I am very interested as to know what you all think . What would you prefer ?  Only monogamy for me 
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One woman at a time is enough for me. I haven't always been monogamous though and maybe a bit of it was the wanting to try different flavours thing and gaining sexual experience and maybe a bit of it was there not being anyone that actually wanted an exclusive relationship with me, so I was looking at it as being better than nothing. Society and religion conditions people into thinking that you should only be with one person. Some people don't think that way though and see that way of looking at it as being all about control, jealousy and possessiveness. One woman at a time is enough for me Sorry Tawt, that comment struck me funny lol. One woman "at a time". That kinda infers that there will be a next. Just still strikes me funny how people these days actually start relationships not necessarily expecting it to end, but leave room for it to from the start. And are thinking about the next or a possible next. Yeah, I'm not sure why I put it like that. I was having this conversation with my brother recently and I said to him that one woman is enough for me. All that I can say anyway is that when I go into these things I'm not thinking about it as a one after another thing and I do always hope that it's going to work out and lead to a longterm relationship but sometimes you just have to take these things for what they are and see how it goes. It is a one woman at a time thing for me and when I'm seeing someone I'm not already looking for another woman or thinking about that but I just don't count on them sticking around or it working out and it's as simple as that really. What I'm saying basically is that I have no problem with commiting to a monogamous relationship with someone as soon as I get involved with them but I need to see how commited the woman is to it as well and only time will tell about that. It wouldn't matter if it was casual sex or a marriage. They could still want a divorce after a year or briefer period and I've come to take some things that women say to me about them being "mine" with a pinch of salt. |
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I could never do the 'take what I can get' or settle for someone who isnt who I absolutely want to be with. I will only be in a monogamous relationship. While Im not with them, I enjoy my life learning about me, or the people around me, not dating folks Im not interested in or having relationships that arent what I want. To get to a monogamous relationship, I date, and get to know people Im interested in until I see they are not the match for me. Im sure its common to settle or take what you can get for many people. Its just not what I want. Maybe thats why people get so annoyed if you wont go out with them. They are interested in settling for a non-match, for the time being, and cant see that some people are not. Exactly, as I mentioned earlier people are only worried about the here and now and either don't care, don't put much mind to, or a combination of both about the future with that person. They just think ah well, won't be that hard to find another. My question is why worry about finding another? Why not just worry about pleasing the one you already have. My answer, and it is just a guess at best, is it's not about the other person, it's all about themselves. It's all about self-gratification instead of genuinely taking the time and energy to focus on finding out if the other person would be a suitable match. It's the path of least resistance. JMHO Well sorry for misunderstanding the post originally lol. But it is entirely about the other person. Relationships won't last if it's a "me" thing. They always have to be a "you" thing and or making the other person happy(er). If both people of the relationship work to make the other happy, it's a win win fail safe method that will last till the ends of the world. I totally agree with you on this. True relationships must be equally invested in each other for it to work happily and healthy. What I was saying was trying to explain something that makes no sense to me other than, people in the other types of situations may have their selfish gratification in mind rather than trying to establish a caring relationship. The path of least resistance (having a one-night stand or casual sex) was the best explanation I could put to that at the moment. |
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I hear the clergy thinks that monogamy is all the rage.
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Me. I'd have a hard time sharing myself with two or more men at once. As I tend to forget things, and I'm bad at turning up on time, so it'd only waste my time. I'm also bad at remembering names and address, so I'd be hopeless at cheating anyway. Hopefully that's enough to put off any men looking to cheat with me.
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And if you ever needed more proof, as to why I'd never get away with it, well, one of my sisters watches everything I type on here. She likes to see how I respond on the forums. But another reason, is because if any other person starts mental abuse games with me, like someone from a forum did before, then she'll have first-hand proof. Last time, I had to search through Yahoo, for the police, to print off evidence of his behaviour.
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Hi I am very interested as to know what you all think . What would you prefer ? Don't mean to offend anyone in my following response, but it is how I feel. Monogamous relationships are the ONLY "relationships" Anything done with more then one partner is only excused cheating. A relationship isn't just a concept, it's the actual act and emotional connection to somebody followed by devotion to that person to show your care and or emotional connect, love, ect. How can somebody truly say they love so and so yet they're fooling around with this other person. Love don't work that way. I agree with this. |
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Edited by
0ldhag
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Mon 06/09/14 09:47 PM
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What would you prefer ? A bacon burger with a side of monogamy. |
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What would you prefer ? A bacon burger with a side of monogamy. A bacon burger? :) I must try one of those. Never even knew they existed until now. lol |
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I know of a few poly families that are well rounded and very happy. It's all about communication, being honest and upfront. It's possible to l9ve more than one person at a time.
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