For me fantasies are an enjoyable part of life especially if if that's all you. They can be arousing, explicit, romantic and more. They give me ideas about what we’d like from our intimate partners and can be a form of escapism, or allow us to imagine things we desire, thinking if we want to take it further. Some fantasies remain the same over their lifespan, or change in content and intensity depending on their circumstances and experiences. fantasizing isn’t just a pleasurable option. I believe it’s a mandatory part of a person’s sexual life. Often accompanied by a suggestion that you must always be willing to act the fantasy out. I think all fantasies can be voiced and acted upon. The subtext of such messages is if you’re not prepared and don't fantasise on a regular basis and willing to take it further you’re sexually unadventurous. This can distract us from remembering we have a choice whether to fantasise or not - and to what degree are you willing? Some of us really get off on our fantasies. Others aren’t bothered , not me..Some are anxious. I don't think fantasising about someone else is a form of cheating...I don't agree..I am not concerned that a fantasy could lead me to acting on (or at least having to entertain the thought of) desires someone I don't no..or a woman who is in a relationship. It what fantasies are all about..fantasizing. We or I can be turned on by a shared fantasy because it resonates with things we are excited by, or she may give me ideas for things I have not previously thought about – but realise we share the same. That can be so pleasurable. We may find that exploring our fantasies and having to focus on how we communicate may bring one closer and make us feel more connected. Our fantasies may lead to us making significant changes within our relationship or might just be something we think about occasionally. I'm not afraid to act on mines if given the opportunity.. Are you ?