First off, I am who I am. I know I need to change some, but it must be my decision to change.

If I change only in the way you think I should change, a wall will come between us. I'll resent myself, and I'll resent you for trying to make me change.

Now, as to who obeys the other. I don't want to be bossed around, and I'll try not to boss you either. I don't need you to put me down, hurt me with words, or make fun at my expense.

I know you have feelings about things, and I want you to tell me how you feel.

I'll try to hear your feelings, your wants, and your needs, and I'll try to let you know that I hear you.

I'll try to tell you when I can't do all I hear you expecting or asking of me.

I'll try to tell you why I can't without feeling guilty or getting angry.

I will try to be tender when you are hurting.

I will try to be tender when we are being close.

I will try to let you do your own thing and not box you in.

Whenever we can do something together that we both want to to do, let's do it.

I will try to be as honest with you as I can, and be the kind of person

you can count on.

I need you to laugh with me, but not at me.

When I open up and tell you about my feelings,

sometimes it will be like handing you a little baby bird-

please hold and handle with care.

If these words say it like it is - for you too

Let's make an agreement to try.