I guess there are some folks out there that I don't really care if they take a first look much less a second. My cookie duster not only dusts my cookies, it also strains my soup. And my hat not only keeps crap from self aggrandizing nit wits out of my ever thinning hair, it also keeps my lovely cranium from getting sun burned.

Yes, I get you. I think I may have joined this topic a little too late but I'll throw my two pnny worth in regardles.

Maybe its because when they were younger they were messing about with superglue and the hat stuck to their head. It could also explain the stubble.
Maybe their right arm got stuck to their body's with this superglue and therefore they can't shave anymore.
A longshot I know, but who knows.

I don't think someone's preferences means that they are a control freak (@ GOOF). But I also agree that it is best not to get involved with someone if your expectation is that they are going to change to please you. So I do look for non bearded men / lightly bearded...no baseball caps if you are over 16 y/o. I just think it is an awful look. But I also have no desire to change or control anyone. So someone who is strongly attached to that look would not be compatible.

I do not care for caps (all the time 24/7)or heavy beards. But I see it as a compatibility issue and of course could still like that person as a friend (as is true with several men on here). I think well kept goatees are fine. It's not so much that I am focusing on the physical, but grooming is important to me. A lot of men won't get involved with a woman who is older, or overweight, or who has cats...whatever. Those are simply preferences. It's no different.

If I really fell in love with someone with a beard I am not sure how I would handle it because I really hate them. So I probably would just not "go there " in the first place.

Yeah?

yeah, really I do. but it is just my opinion and nothing for you to worry about :)

The post was not directed at you. I try not to worry. Your opinion(or preference), got it. An extra because I forgot to send one initially and had to edit. Good morning.

I love facial hair on men. My ex husband had no chin so he looked much better with a beard. But he shaved it off because there was too much gray in it.

When I was in my twenties I dated a guy who always wore hats. I used to call him The Mad Hatter. He did this because he was going bald at the tender age of 26.

Get with it woman! Facial hair is hot! Hats either or. Doesn't matter about the hat. Why be so superficial anyway? A great guy is a great guy. Facial hair/hats or not! Look on the inside of someone to get their true worth.

I also am an older woman. 42 to be exact and overweight. Let me tell you that I have never had any problem with men. Also usually like but they are just afraid to show that they like bigger women because of social pressures. Not all men mind you. I just had to throw that out there. Also have had a lot of younger men hit me up here. So I don't know where you're coming from with that.