I have had about 6 dates with different women. When they find out how nice and sweet I am they leave me. I have tried to have more dates but no good. I just got dumped after being with this girl for 5 months and she said she just was not happy any more. What gives

ohh good, a nice guy thread, it's been about six minutes!!!

Maybe your definition of "nice and sweet" isn't the same as theirs.

Maybe they thought you were "too nice" which can creep some women out.

Okay. So they discover you are "nice" and they run? Ummmm....dude. What are you not telling us? Because....last time I checked...when you are cool, nice, funny, silly and have some good looks....well...you usually score man. Just saying. It might be you are trying WAYYYYYYYYYY to hard to be nice. Just saying.

ahh, so that's my problem...hummmm

Next time, when you pull the woman's chair out for dinner, pull it away completely so her azz hits the ground. Then she won't think you're too nice.

Okay....he must be telling them he loves them within twenty minutes of the first date.

Your so right that has happened to me a few times

You know what is the same in all these threads of guys complaining about "bad dates", "crazy women", "being too nice?" The same thing that is about the woman's complain: they both concentrate SO much on the end. Machiavelli is usually misquoted with the phrase "the ends justifies the means" and we all know how he was...

Enjoy the journey: the destination is fine, keep an eye on it but for goodness sake, look around and enjoy the journey!

Life is passing you by because you are all so determined to look at the possibilities of the future that you forget the now. Just enjoy now a bit more.

Exactly, it's not about the final destination. It's about the journey in the meantime.

I will have to respectfully disagree with you good sir....in a sense your right, by all means, enjoy life a little, however, one must plan ahead in order to meet goals and work towards their ambitions. If they don't...it generally means they have no ambition, nor any intention on creating a better life for their self in the future. If people work hard, make mistakes and learn from them now- they will not have to work as hard, and will be more educated in the future, this leaving those with no ambition whatsoever, the ones who never planned ahead, to pay for all the enjoyment they had in their later years. It's a give and take world...you can't just take and take some more- someone's got to pay for it. You either give now or give later, that's how it works. Personally, I'd rather work hard and plan ahead now, while I'm young and able, then be trying to do it when I'm old and decrepit Lol.

Hey man....they're just trying to give you a little constructive criticism, there is a good chance they could somewhat be right about being "too nice", however, the way you have to look at the whole thing is that it was a learning experience. Mistakes could have been made on your part, however, they could have been made on their part as well. Now, there's a fine line when it comes to being nice to strange women.....always be polite, but never kiss a$$. In order to successfully find a relationship with a women, you must first find yourself. Think about the kind of person you are, think about things that are a MUST HAVE in your ideal perfect woman, think about important things for example: does she believe in God? is she a liberal or a conservative? does she support homosexuality? what is the longest relationship that shes been in? Is she ambitious? try to focus on things that reflect her moral values, personality, and ethics. think about certain things you feel strongly about, and develop your own questions and answers. if you have to, sit down and write it on a notebook piece of paper. answer your own questions, then next time your talking to a woman, ask her the same questions (gradually..not all at once) and see how your answers match up. What you will be developing at this point is called standards.... If you really wish to find someone who will make you happy, you must use these standards to seek compatibility. Whatever you do...don't give in to a woman out of desperation or out of intimidation by her appeal, and never tell them what they want to hear!! Be straight forward with them, be polite, but straight forward. If you happen to run across a question you both disagree on...don't be afraid to express to her that you disagree and that you are seeking compatibility and feel that to go any further would be a waste of time...she may take it well, or she may not...regardless, you have successfully weeded out what does not meet your standards and you are then free to move on to another. Always remember that you've never lost anything that you never had in the first place, oh, and there's nothing wrong with being a nice guy, you just have to learn to recognize people who wish to take advantage of you, and learn how to lookout for your interests. I hope this helps you out man....good luck on your search- never give up!!

Really all that. I don't know the ladies always call or come to me.

you're whining...get out there and dance :)

come back to me KC

is that a recommendation to not settle?

I've watched a lot of "nice guy fails", i've even been there, and done it myself. many women seem to be more attracted to "bad a$$" guys with no desire for anything but sex. used to be, back when there was discipline in our society, women kinda grew out of that phase, in our modern society, its as if we can see how discipline gradually dropped from one generation to the next, as the age seems to increase in these women who seek these "thug type" men, who've no ambition, live for the moment, possibly covered in tats, maybe even ex cons, but not all women are that way, women in general(no offense ladies)seem to be completely wired by their emotions. For example: you know how often times young girls, by their kind heartedness, seem to want to adopt every stray animal that comes along? Well I'm beginning to wonder if later in their age, perhaps the kind heartedness carries over towards their relationship choices. Often times I have seen beautiful, ambitious women take up with what seems to be some of the most unambiguous, unemployed, immature men that really have no ambition whatsoever in life. It's like they just feel bad for them, and the next minute..they steal the woman's heart away. the guy may even treat the woman badly, its like, the worse they treat her the more she wants him, and still she'll chase him to the end of the world.......these are the ones that you can easily be weeded out by use of standards in efforts to seek compatibility. You want a relationship...right? You will definitely never find it with someone who is not motivated to look for good qualities as far as someone who will be competent, reliable, loyal, and ultimately meet every quality that makes them worthy relationship material. Besides....who wants to be a "bad a$$"? There's a fine line between die hard and re tard. Lol. If the women seeking this wants a relationship through a plexiglass window on visitation day....that's there choice. I admire a bit of intelligence in a woman....more so, I admire independent loyalty, it's much harder to live for a person than it is to die for them. Real hero's are never recognized....real killers don't advertise. Hope this post is informative...good luck to all in what you seek

Wouldn't kill guys to be nice
there is a stress level of it that freaks us out a smidge

I don't understand the logic of "Nice guys."

So, just to get this straight...You are nice simply because you said you are nice, and we being the fair people that we are should take this at face value.

Will you buy my pristine '92 Chevy S-10 for a half million dollars? Just for comparison purposes, it is pristine...Picking up on what I'm tossing out there?