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willing2
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Thu 05/01/14 11:30 AM
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I don't respond to all the emails I get. Some of them I can't even understand. I think they are trying to write in English but I don't have a magic decoder ring to figure them out  Haha, so true!...If I did have a decoder ring, I would not waste my time using it here!!  ..Hello Beautiful Erika! My decoder ring has a little tickle knob on it.   I stay away from guys who want to get their tickle knob too close to me    Me to.
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the OP needs to learn that he cannot control others responses. no response IS a response, particularly in the online format as leigh alluded to earlier I agree with this! |
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"I guess there are alot of questionable people on this site"
I figured this out on the FIRST DAY |
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If rather be ignored than rejected verbally. If women replied go every message our fingers would fall off. Suck it up. Ura big boy. Also some men get mean if u say. "No thank u ". They don't like being rejected. They get argumentative and very condescending
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"I guess there are a lot of questionable people on this site" I figured this out on the FIRST DAY I guess it has taken me a little longer than the first day, to figure that one out but in response to the OP I feel that due to insistency by some members it is better not to respond (lesson learned#1), as I had commented on some profiles after being mailed, seen the incompatibility and responded 'NO' politely...then been mailed back and called #*?% etc....I also learned (lesson#2) to be careful of answering on some of the forums as my wave-length is not compatible with some other posters......if, however (lesson'3) I felt that I do match with anyone I have made first contact and have put the distance obstacle to one side, if he did not responded then I took it with a pinch of salt and moved on .......but I guess it is only my 2 cents worth....good luck  |
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On the other hand, it's arguably not "unsolicited mail" when you advertise yourself on a dating site, especially when they write something like, "Message me" on their profiles. Nah, it's not really the same thing as getting junk mail through your door or annoying cold callers phoning you. It's more that you just don't really give a crap if they think that you're rude. It's not like you're going to get a reputation for being an ignorant bastard because you ignore people on the internet. I agree, hanging out your shingle implies solicitation, inviting people to "message me" confirms it. I don't feel obligated to respond, I choose to respond because for me it's a matter of courtesy. I've never experienced being burdened with a constant stream of messages from folks who's attention I criticize and complain about rather than appreciate, as many seem to. If I were, unless they were incoherent or obvious scam attempts I'm inclined to respond. It doesn't take much time or effort to prepare and send a polite "cut-n-paste" "Thanks but we're not a match." response. The argument that ignoring rather than saying "Not Interested" is intended to spare someones feelings may be true. Or is it a cop out to justify choosing to spare your own feelings of discomfort rejecting someone? 
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"thanks but we're not a match" would be great if that was the end...but then instead you get "why aren't we match? i'm ugly aren't I?, is it because I have kids? that must be it, it's because of I have kids,....or any other number of made-up reasons on why they think you are rejecting them.
If replying is always polite if they ask "is it because you think i'm unattractive?" what if that is the reason? should I respond and tell them so? would that not be considered rude? I think of profiles like labels on a can vegetables, it gives an overall view of what's on the inside, If I don't like Peas, and I see a label stating "peas inside" why would I feel the need to open to check to see if it really is peas on the inside? I wouldn't I'd look at the can, decide I don't want that, and look for a different label. |
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Alright, I'm just going to go on and say what everybody else is thinking.
I'm not replying to your messages because you sound like a retard and that isn't a match for me. Now, please stop bothering me with your retarded messages because I really don't want to be rude or politically incorrect because I wasn't saying anything about disabled people and only using the word in the sense that you are a retard. |
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Exactly. How r u
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Why is is that people dont respond to a polite email. I reply even to say thank you but im not looking for a man :-) I find it incredible rude not to reply to a non spam non offensive email. They open it than check out my profile than thats it. Am i worng? I don't think it was me, but if so then I apologize. However i will say I'm guilty of exactly what you stated. My profile clearly states I don't want to talk to younger guys. I had to add that because I did used to respond with a nice thank you but you would be happier with someone your age. That only generated a whole bunch of messages about what these young boys could 'do' for me and the you could be a cougar kind of thing. Since I don't want to engage in that nonsense, I just don't respond. But if I did do that to you, I apologize. |
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Why is is that people dont respond to a polite email. I reply even to say thank you but im not looking for a man :-) I find it incredible rude not to reply to a non spam non offensive email. They open it than check out my profile than thats it. Am i worng? yes, just because you find it rude doesn't mean it really is rude... you can't know whats going on on their end of the email... some of the ladies on here are getting 50 or more emails a day, whats going to make yours any different from the other 49? |
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No, it's not rude to not reply just because someone messages you, no one is obligated, just because you're on a dating site doesn't mean you have to talk to every single person that sends out a message. Everyone is free to reply to who they want.
Several women on here have said that when they do reply saying they're not interested, they get extremely rude replies back, so they stopped replying to all messages they receive, and only reply to ones they are interested in. And as it has been said on here, females get more messages than males, it's ludicrous to think they should have to reply to every single message. |
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I would reply if its a good topic you open up. I just dont know if they got it since i havent verified my account yet haha.. But people have choices and reasons.
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Dreamarama, it's not that I object to you being a cougar. I'm not bothered about that at all.
I'm just saying that I would like to be your toyboy and I don't think that you should dismiss me because I lied about my age. |
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Alright, I'm just going to go on and say what everybody else is thinking. I'm not replying to your messages because you sound like a retard and that isn't a match for me. Now, please stop bothering me with your retarded messages because I really don't want to be rude or politically incorrect because I wasn't saying anything about disabled people and only using the word in the sense that you are a retard. Agree 100%- You have won the trophy for this thread! You are the MAN! |
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Dreamarama, it's not that I object to you being a cougar. I'm not bothered about that at all. I'm just saying that I would like to be your toyboy and I don't think that you should dismiss me because I lied about my age. Oh, well that changes things. Why didn't you say so in the first place. You just made my little ole heart skip a beat or two.
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One time I ate a bug.
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Some guys don't reply to mail I send them. I just assume they are not interested or they are scammers.
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