cant help the way i feel about older men but younger men used me an abused me i wonder why no gives me a fighting chance because older men use me as well now idk maybe i should because a lesbian because no one will give me a chance im not a bad person

Your a young girl with your whole life ahead of you. Why do you allow these men to abuse you, you deserve the world. Always put yourself first I truly hope you find happiness

lesbians have been known to use and abuse people too...
stop letting people take advantage of you, even if it means being alone...

Whining about your situation won't make it any better.
All that you are doing is giving out negative vibes.

Also, happiness is an inside job. If you expect another person to make you happy, then you are going to end up disappointed.

Because you have to fight for it, no one is going to give it to you because you tell them you are a good person.

Trust isn't given because the fight is easy, no, you have to prove it. Look, just because I declare I have a pet dragon doesn't mean I have a pet dragon, it doesn't mean I don't have a pet dragon, but now I have to prove it.

First, love and respect yourself. Know what you want and hold to your standards. There is someone out there who will like you as you are. Second, you are judging all men by a select few. Take each person as an individual.
By saying some guy did this or that and holding on to that pain, you give it power. You deprive yourself from opportunities for happiness.
I speak from experience.
Take it a step at a time. Be yourself and look at each person as an individual.

Some women seem to be atracted to or atract men that treat them badly. I don't entirely understand it but it seems to be something to do with them having a "victim" mentality. Perhaps it's that they don't feel worthy of a good guy and that's why they keep going for abusive men and will keep going back to them. Perhaps it's that abusive people are controlling and a decent sort of guy won't try to do that. This is one of the reasons that a woman having been abused can sadly be a red flag thing. Damadged goods, they call it.

Nobody gives us anything in this life no matter how pretty, smart, wealthy, well mannered, or goodhearted we are.

We have to earn each and every gratuity, friendship, lover, etc., by what we first possess within ourselves and how we utilize our gifts to attract what we want and need.

We then have to fight (figuratively) to keep it.



If you feel rejected perhaps you are giving yourself away rather than making yourself someone worth fighting for.

The battle for acceptance has to begin within you and once you've conquered self doubt and become more positive, like attracts like.

Seeking love and respect from women is the same as it is with men. So it doesn't matter which you choose to connect with you have to be more judicious about how you allow others to see and treat you.

We all make mistakes when we're looking for happiness. But if you see that the way you're going about finding it hurts more than helps you reconsider your approach, and even reinvent yourself if necessary.

Remember that nobody's perfect, forgive your foibles, life is a struggle (figuratively) or (literally for some) and only the wisest and strongest survive intact and happy.

But again, it's you who has to fight for you and what you need.

Best wishes...

Good luck in your search!