1) Does money and material assets help to sway you toward the choice of a partner over education level and intelligence?

2) Are looks just as important when considering long term commitment, as apposed to short term gratification?

3) Can you overlook appearance if the partner you choose can afford the level of physical and material comfort you prefer?

4) If you choose a partner based on superficial and fleeting attributes you can enjoy for a season, does it make it easier to leave them once the initial attraction fades away?

5) Does the criteria you use to select a partner differ from person to person, or does it remain the same across the board?

Hi once again
I dont think any of your number one comes into it,to me personally it doesnt bother me about money or material assets or education level.Its a poor choice if you have feelings for someone if they have any of your things in number1 and you base your relationship on that.As for number 2 its about more of the inner person than looks on the outside.As for the criteria used to select someone,i would never change my ways in the way i look for my eventual soulmate.
Bill.

Hi Bill,

When it pertains to simply dating I agree that nothing in my first post is relevant to a certain degree.

However, when it pertains to establishing a relationship we're considering maintaining for the long term than substance does matter.

As for me, my ability to provide for myself is limited so I make due and am happy while not focusing on making room for two.

On the other hand, although my lifestyle choice has always been to live simply rather than high maintenance, when I am interested in pursuing a relationship where combined incomes makes higher living standards an option I quite naturally gravitate towards someone who thinks like I do in this regard.

As for looks well, I must admit this has always mattered to me and always will. The attraction (raw and natural) has to be there for my mind to remind my eyes what it is about the other that first drew me in their direction as appearances fade.

As for the intelligence factor well... I've always found a man with intelligence and the ability to apply it much more exciting than one who has to be instructed.

While the criteria I use to decide who suits me is the same for everyone because it's based on what I think and feel about them overall regardless to their individual attributes.

Thank you for reading and taking the time to post a reply to these ordinary and yet seemingly tricky questions.

I don't really care how much money or education that they have and although I have a higher education myself, I actually tend to get on better with down to earth girls, as opposed to psudo intellectuals and pretentious types.

I either fancy them or I don't but in the past I have been less picky as far as looks go when I was actually looking for a girlfriend, as opposed to just a shag. This has tended to make me care less about looks as I have given women that I wouldn't even have looked at when I was younger a chance.

I tend to become more atatched to a person as a relationship develops and as I get to know them and to be honest, I don't really know but I did find it easier to leave at least one ex because the initial atraction wasn't all that it could be. It wasn't just about the way that she looked but I did find myself looking at her after the initial honeymoon period thing wore off and I became more aware of her physical imperfections.

1-5 I guess doesn't apply to me. In every relationship i've been in either i was ask or did the asking myself none of the above did i think of! There was always a first date and kept my morals and mannerisms intact not letting my hormones rule me! Yes i've went home alone and chose to do so!! Trying always to be a good host. Sometimes i would iniate a future date and would except,if offered, but never offended if denied! To each his own and the Future is your own to control or destroy as is mine.Sex is never an option,only ones desire. I control my future desire does not. Believe me it was a long and painful voyage learning this and i may be criticised even misunderstood by most! Check out my age- how long do i have to offer? Check out what's my home- can you survive? Check out my Heart- its a good one!! That's all i'm offering anyone. Everything else is immaterial or needs to be accomplished together!

I completely understand where you're coming from regarding pseudo intellectuals and pretentious types.

It doesn't matter how scholastically knowledgeable somebody is with certificates papering the walls if their personalities are typical intolerant A types, arrogant, boring, or they enjoy talking over the heads of others as they preen themselves in superiority.

BTW, I've always appreciated your honest assessment of yourself, Tawt. I haven't seen too many people on the boards share on the same open minded level as you do, and it's refreshing.

I can also identify with what you're saying about how easy it was to leave that one who apparently let her personality combined with her appearance change your overall view of her once the newness wore off.

1) Not at all. Money or material wealth are trivial. I grew up in a big family where money was always tight and it still is. Being able to find happiness outside of the mundane and trivial is important. Education level or intelligence are also not so important to me if she is able to make me feel some sort of way where we enjoy each others company and can have a good time together.

2)Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Its also not only skin deep a person can have a decent appearance but if their attitude sucks its pointless. I will say If I'm not attracted to them it wont work either.

3)I'm going to skip this since it was answered in the last two.

4)I wouldn't know I tend to get pretty attached to those whom I choose to be with. Its never an easy thing to say goodbye.

5)Yes it does because every person is different. What works for one person may not work for another.

Everything else is immaterial or needs to be accomplished together!


Well said wolf...

Thank you for contributing your answers lionsbrew.

I particularly identify with "finding happiness outside the mundane and trivial" as being a serious plus when considering a partner.

you are so right bill I am with you on that, most of the times our love pass us because we focusing on looks and appearance

Hello greenmuschette, welcome to the boards. And thank you for contributing your thoughts to the subject at hand.

Money and possessions are immaterial to me. Attraction is important, But there must be a mental connection For the attraction to be long lasting.

it all comes down to the boobs, sex drive, and the ability to hold a conversation.

#1..no.. but that being said! they should be financially stable..

#2. is that your polite way of saying would you sleep with somebody if they're ugly..?.. . if yes then short term.. I would sleep with them if they're pretty.. Or ugly... hell even if they had one leg... at this point I'm not all that picky.
. you know beggars can't be choosers and all that!!..jk..not really..
#3... they would have to have some serious bank...
#4.. it is never easy leaving someone..
#5. I ask myself that same question every time.. no two snowflakes and all that.. .. great topic..
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I understand your point, lonelyman.

It doesn't matter if she's dirt poor with no education and nothing to offer, so long as she's attractive and can carry on a conversation.

Thank you for reading and posting your comments.

My goodness, I guess it's true then, all men do think alike.

Thanks for reading and commenting, Isaac.

.. blondey.. I have just a guy to introduce you to.. topic is a bodybuilder looking for woman.. .. check him out he might be going fast..

No1phd... is that shorthand for number 1 pothead?

Seriously though... thanks for reading each question and giving your thoughtful responses. I wasn't trying to make them tricky but I suppose they do require a certain finesse in order to avoid sticking our foot in it, huh?

Hi Blondey, I quite agree... masculine thighs...

Thank you for reading and contributing too.

. oh great move PhD.. send all the women to the buff body builder.. sometimes I really wish I had a filter..