I've noticed throughout my internet travels that perfect English isn't always spoken, which is understandable given we mix with people across the globe.

But it also appears that speaking perfect English or appearing not to have the ability to do so is selective behavior, and when detected to be a pattern can cue us to possible pretenders/scammers.

Or am I the only one that picks up on this?

I understand what you mean. I think.

And you're not the only one. I've been suckered into conversations in the past who I've believed have been Person X, who then turn out to be Person Y, simply because they've slipped up and you question them, and they start back tracking.

Having been to University and done a degree in Computing and Networks, you quickly learn that you have no real way of knowing whats at the other end of the text.

You just have to be diligent, and trust your own opinions first.

To clarify...

I have socialized on the boards of several different networking sites. On each we meet and greet then begin communicating.

Realizing that some of us are cautious about revealing our true private selves in a public domain the profile pictures and data we initially present may require some tweaking as time goes by and our comfort level increases.

This behavior isn't meant to be pretentious or scamming in nature.

In the interim, when speaking without eyes on familiarity we can obtain a basic reading on each other's intellect, knowledge base, personality traits, desires and issues, intent and proffering, etc., to see if we can or want to connect more personally with those of interest to us.

And of course during the initial warming up to the environment phase we rely more on instinct to determine who we want to become more intimate with and who we will choose to avoid.

There are so many differing factors involved in meeting strangers we might like to become friends with that a certain amount of secrecy and honesty is essential to achieve the relationships we're seeking.

But when we're online in the hopes that we might accidentally on purpose meet somebody we're attracted too for whatever reasons and we find out, hopefully before it's too late, that they're fake or just pulling our leg, we can become disillusioned with the whole concept of online dating.

After all, if there are those on these networking sites who are only playing games to get attention, create traffic flow, kill time, to amuse their in crowd friends, or to lull into a false sense of belonging those who may be lonely and hurting after a serious heartbreak... the only way to tell the real from the pretentious is by paying close attention to the public interactions and what is being said.

So, if we are posting with disingenuous imposters that want to give the impression they are foreigners that can't speak our language fluently, only to find during moments of high excitement, anxiety, or when speaking with their cool friends they suddenly develop perfect diction, then we can easily discover who is more apt to be pretending/scamming.

Don't you agree?

And I don't think I'm the only one who sees this and hope I haven't over complicated the point I'm trying to make with too much information.

I apologize for seeming to be saying one then venturing into another, but I'm trying to stay within the guidelines of what can be discussed or not, and sometimes the lines between the two can be very murky...

I'm multi-lingul. Not perfect at them but like using them to fit the occasion.

I speak Southern Redneck, Ghetto Jive, Nigerian Gibberish, and TexMex Spanglish.

Spail chekor hep lots.

Scammers are getting a little better.

Some are even copying and pasting their pitches. One can see they don't go back and edit out all the wierd symbols.

After a couple conversations with them, the language pattern changes.

Hope I don't get your topic pulled for saying jive.

I think, to be honest, the old saying reigns true in online dating that you get what you pay for.

With that being said..... I think your more apt to find a connection on a site that you have to pay to be on.

Most of the scammers/ gamers will not waste money to play there games.

I think you would be better served in concidering this site as a socialising site as apposed to one where you may actually find a love interest.

Not saying it won't or can't happen here, you just may have to kiss a lot more frogs to find your prince

extremely clever and talented too...

As for getting me pulled... lease ways we be in that thar same boat tgetha...

Hi gr8hunter, welcome to Mingle2.

And thanks for the advice about pay to play, or not. I also agree with you about Mingle2 being a great place and way to socialize.

Wish you the best with the rest of us...

thank you Athena ;-)

I'm not entirely sure what you're getting at but I suppose that you have to take cultural differences or social class into acount when communicating with people on the internet. I tend to be a bit more informal when I'm relaxed when I'm doing it. The last girlfriend that I had I met on here and she was an Edinburgh girl and that was obvious from some of the expressions that she used in emails. A pretentious or snooty person wouldn't have done that though and they would just have used "proper English".

Mingling is a bit like fishing. Sometimes you catch the bottom feeders and sometimes you get to do battle with a game fish. Enjoy the catch. Every contact is a learning experience.

Expand your knowledge of the people of the world. Throw back the bad catch (although it wouldn't be a bad idea to knock them in the head first).

Grow through the shared learning experiences of friends online but remember that if it smells fishy, you probably have caught a carp.

What I mean is...

When I first joined dating sites a year and a half ago I was totally green behind the ears and learned as I went along.

What I discovered was that people who play games whether trying to scam women out of money or whatever, have multiple profiles they disguise themselves behind and they move from one site to the next pouncing on the newbies and not being recognized by other members other than their closest friends who play this same game too.

Well...

These gamers who may be black men posing as white men in their photos, or white men pretending to be something they're not... also pretend to be from different cultural backgrounds and they try to imitate the speaking habits of the foreigners.

When I first encountered this activity I was actually fooled for a time though never taken advantage of by these individuals and I became educated quickly to their maneuvers.

Needless to say when I'm on the boards at any dating site I now pay attention to the details because I'm not a player of these types of trivial games and I like to avoid those I know are.

So I guess what my original intent was by posting is to see if anyone else has figured out the same thing I have through experience and feels the same way or similarly about these types of activities.

I love it metalwing... and its the game fish that's the most exhilarating... the kind you know are keepers if you swam in the same pond...

We bottom feeders taste better and, our whiskers tickle.
Hopefully, that wasn't taken as sexually sugestive, or si?