its kinda complicated they hired a couple of new people at work which are women and one of them really caught my attention the last 4 days of working with her have been really great alot of flirting and somewhat foreplay and i can really talk to her and feel as if i can really be myself around her than today she says she is engaged so now im in a funk because i really like her and now i feel kinda bad flirting with her now that i know this and when i tried to stop the flirting she wanted to know what was wrong but i dont really know what to tell her

please what would you do in this situation?

Just be honest with her. It will save a lot of head trips. Maybe she can empathize with what you are going through. She might be experiencing the same thing with you.

I think you can flirt around but you just can't cross that line. She was honest with you and told you that she was engaged...my question would be to her...why is she so flirty? If you really like her, I would just say kind of tone it down a little. I don't think its a good thing to date someone you work with anyway. If you break up, there are always hard feeling and then it makes it hard for everyone involved.
Just be friends with her and be flirty BUT just know that its not going to go anywhere!!

just a bit of advice.

DONT FLIRT WITH A COWORKER.

speaking from a past experience, things can go really wrong and you could face charges of sexuall harrasment.

thank you both for the advice

If she wants you she will let you know!!!!!
Dont mess up her happyness!!!

i am a woman!!!! and if i was engaged and supposedly in love because i would think this is why she would be marrying the guy.... any flirting would be directed to him.... i am very open minded don't get me wrong... but if she's flirting and you tried to stop it and she's wondering why, it means she wants to get to know you more.... flirting is ok, but if there's foreplay going on..... think of how you would re-act if you were the guy she is going to marry and she's doing that to her co-worker.....

on the other hand, she's not married yet and can still do her thing.... communication!!!!!!! that's what the two of you should have and find out, what's up? and tell her the truth.... the truth at times hurt, but it also wakes you up!!!!!!!

it all depends on your beliefs....

forgot one last thing!!!!! i don't ever mix business with pleasure... has happened to me a few times, but i don't go there.....

Be honest, but I agree with the don't mix work and pleasure!

Man! DO NOT DATE THE WORK POOL! You will regret it for the rest of your life!

Get to know the guy she is getting engaged to. Where I work they are all married or have boyfriends. I know most of the boyfriends and husbands. They can be nice friends to have.

Honesty is always the best policy...

I would have wondered why she did this. Do you feel she lead you on...somehow? I would tell her how you feel, otherwise she might not ever know...

Your a big boy. Your conduct could be considered sexual harrassment at work. Next time dont flirt with the coworkers.

aight just from my standpoint,, never mix buisness with pleasure. if shes a coworker and you start something,, all it will take is one time for her to get mad and call sexual harrasment. thats just my thing though. and with the commited thing,, i wont touch a woman who is with someone else,, just leads to bad things all the way around. this is why cheaters is so popular

uh, i'd say dangerous territory...if she's flirting and what's this foreplay???ing with you...then she has no scruples...which can be bad news if you piss her off...can we say sexual harrassment suit? and would you want to flirt with someone who can do this to her fiance?

Just a little life rule I've always had: Don't get your meat where you get your bread Doll...

YOu are from WI handle this like anyone form WI would do......Drink beer

LMAOOOOOOOOOOO SADIE!!!

Actually, you don't need to give her an explanation. She is engaged and she has no right to ask you what is wrong. Just start treating her just like any other coworker. The fact that she was flirting with you and when you found out she was engaged and stopped, her asking you what is wrong tells me she has a huge self esteem problem and needs constant validation. Drop subtle hints like ......how's your fiance today? what does he do for a living?etc...

just tell her how your feeling and whats up and see where it goes from there.